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Is anyone not weeping in to their cuppa today?

178 replies

JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 09/09/2022 10:02

Or is it just me? My colleagues are all in mourning and apparently can’t concentrate and do their work properly today and I’m all 😑 at the drama of them.

Don’t get me wrong Her Majesty was a legend and she did a really good job, but at 96 it’s hardly unexpected and I don’t think it warrants quite the level of drama some people seem to be displaying.

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LadyKenya · 09/09/2022 10:03

Yanbu.

PAFMO · 09/09/2022 10:04

Most of the people who have started eleventy billion threads like you. Perhaps you could all join together in one snippy one?

35965a · 09/09/2022 10:05

Some people just love a bit of drama.

billysmallnuts · 09/09/2022 10:06

Me.

96 year old dies. Shrug. I was far more upset by the news of an unarmed black young man being shot by the police this week.

couchcritter · 09/09/2022 10:07

I think it's hitting people because it's the end of an era; something that unconsciously felt permanent in life has now changed. We're also losing that entire generation now. My guess is that it reminds many people of their own mortality and losses in a way that's hard to shake off.

So while I'm not grief stricken myself, I'm not out to mock anyone else who's feeling a bit shaken or upset.

workinmums · 09/09/2022 10:08

The lady lived a well fulfilled life and went to rest at 96.

She has never struggled a day in her life and was privileged from the day she was conceived.

RIP queen but I could care less. Sayonara. On to the next one!

EdithWeston · 09/09/2022 10:11

National mourning is a ritual, not a statement of personal grief, so I expect most people are not weeping.

But a heck of a lot of people are talking about it (including you OP, by starting another thread) and that can be to detriment of work output.

It's the same for all huge global news stories. Look at MN threads on the anniversaries of 9/11 and see how very many of us say we remember that no more work got done that day and that the atmosphere somehow changed

FourTeaFallOut · 09/09/2022 10:13

I don't know, I'm holding out, but the sheer wall to wall radio music dirge is enough to sink under the skin induce full wailing.

TooHotToTangoToo · 09/09/2022 10:15

I was just thinking I'm surprise at how many people aren't talking about it. I've just had my usual Friday teams, team meeting (12 people on the call), and no one mentioned it, I've just had a 15 min chat with my dh over the phone and he didn't mention it.

PurpleDaisies · 09/09/2022 10:17

Life is entirely normal here.

emmetgirl · 09/09/2022 10:17

I'm not giving it a second thought. I don't know her. I'm sure it's sad for her family but other than that I'm meh.
I don't recall being asked who I'd like as Head of State.

LemonSwan · 09/09/2022 10:19

I am happy for her. Seems like a great death to mark a great life.

It sounds cold but I worked in a care home once and it was always the really unexpected ones that after the shock you just had a nice smile about because it was best for them. Sadly it’s usually the family who find this type of death the worst because they didn’t often have time to say good bye.

But really I think you have to centre the individual. And it is what is best for them.

Southeastdweller · 09/09/2022 10:21

I feel like a huge chapter in this country’s history is over but I don’t feel sad about the death of a 96 year old person who I didn’t know.

LadyKenya · 09/09/2022 10:23

billysmallnuts · 09/09/2022 10:06

Me.

96 year old dies. Shrug. I was far more upset by the news of an unarmed black young man being shot by the police this week.

Yes, me too.

ChagSameachDoreen · 09/09/2022 10:28

Me! Honestly couldn't care less.

All this tripe about being reunited with Philip.

Sentimental guff. We're a nation of mawks and emotional incontinents. Social media is awash with it.

Stickytreacle · 09/09/2022 10:29

It's the ott reactions that I can't abide. People leaving tacky tributes and being unable to function is the complete opposite of what the queen would have wanted and done I expect.
The amount of people who now loved the queen seem to be the very ones so quick to criticise in the past.

I shall think of her with gratitude for her service, but equally remember that she had a privileged and luxurious life. Passing away in a much loved and beautiful home, with every need met and your horses and dogs with you isn't a bad way to go.

FixitJesus · 09/09/2022 10:30

Ooooh, so edgy.

lovelyboneslove · 09/09/2022 10:33

35965a · 09/09/2022 10:05

Some people just love a bit of drama.

No. Some people are just genuinely sad and upset.

tomissmymum · 09/09/2022 10:34

It’s a hit a raw nerve with some people; I was in floods of tears at 3am on the phone as my mum’s slowly going with early onset dementia, and have lost both my grannies now too, my mum’s mum just in July … and suddenly missed them all very, very much last night in a way I’d never have anticipated - hit a very raw nerve .

I certainly won’t really be telling anyone that in r/l as I’m not exactly a royalist although held an affection for the queen as a person . I think it will hit a nerve with quite a few people for similar reasons . Wasn’t crying so much for the queen as for the loss of yet another person ‘who’s always been there’, albeit rather in the background iysiwm !

Fraaahnces · 09/09/2022 10:35

Oh me… I can’t get emotional about the royals, or anyone else who benefited from colonization.

inappropriateraspberry · 09/09/2022 10:40

It's very sad, end of an era etc, and of course, most people are feeling sad about it, but it all goes in to overkill doesn't it? I have nothing against people wanting to wear black today, make a comment on social media etc. but that's it. We didn't know her, why are people actually grieving? Competitive mourning, constant tv and radio coverage. I feel for her family, they need some time alone without all this speculation and waffle.

inappropriateraspberry · 09/09/2022 10:41

ChagSameachDoreen · 09/09/2022 10:28

Me! Honestly couldn't care less.

All this tripe about being reunited with Philip.

Sentimental guff. We're a nation of mawks and emotional incontinents. Social media is awash with it.

Oh, that naff poem!

Wnikat · 09/09/2022 10:42

I think those who don't give a crap or are happy she's dead are reasonably well represented all around the internet.

SisterAgatha · 09/09/2022 10:43

I am sad but instead of weeping in to my tea at home, I plan to go to Westminster and weep in to my tea at a nice cafe there and listen to the bells ring. I’m off today, it feels like I just should. If I’m going to sad at home, I may as well be sad there.

inappropriateraspberry · 09/09/2022 10:44

I tried putting the radio on for some respite, and it's so mawkish! All slow sad songs. Will pop master be on tomorrow?