If you know any extremely attractive men, what are they like?

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A weird question, I know😁 I was discussing this with a friend and she said every v attractive man she knows is a bit of a dick, rude, cheats or generally treats the women in his life badly. I know about 4 men I consider extremely attractive (head turners who multiple women and men find attractive). One is awful but the others are, as far as I know, very nice decent men. Friend is convinced good looks = guaranteed horrible behaviour!

I was going to come on and say unfortunately the ones I know are twats. I work with them. They try to shag all the female staff and try to shag all of the 'customers'.

I am related to one, been on TV etc and is an amazing guy.

He used to stick up for me to bully’s, I taught him how to skip rope etc, he never took the piss out of me once and I was a huge geek who cramped his style for sure - his dad was horrible to him as a kid, made him work hard for everything with no thanks, he is really successful now and works in a charitable field. He knows he’s gorgeous because anyone with eyes can see, but he’s got the same insecurities as anyone else. Gorgeous wife, gorgeous children.

One of old friends/someone I dated is extremely attractive and he's a bit of an arsehole🤣🤣

I think there's possibly a correlation between being extremely attractive and being arrogant and/or entitled. It's possibly a hangover from school days where the social structure can often revolve around the good looking kids tending to be the popular ones.

I think there is a very vague link, though, and definitely not a general rule. A bit bias but I'd consider my DH extremely attractive and he's a very decent man.

I certainly wouldn't see an extremely attractive man and assume he's going to be an arsehole.

The one I know, and I can only think of one stunningly attractive man, is lovely.
Very unassuming, always chatty and friendly.
He’s also a pilot and looks fab in Ray-Bans, I can’t take my eyes off him when I see him.

I have a theory that men who were very good looking as teens end up as dicks

But those who blossomed later are usually not

This is only based on about two examples though so not exactly scientifically proven!

I had a very casual fling with one when I was in my early twenties. To this day, he remains one of the most beautiful men I have ever seen. My God he was boring.

And I used to work with another absolutely gorgeous lad who was incredibly lovely.

I think they’re pretty much like the rest of us. Some are lovely, some are twats.

One I know is reasonably courteous to women (ish) and has always been fine to me but can be a bit of an arsehole overall. But that’s more because he’s the rich Eton boy type so he has that entitlement/arrogance.

I know one who doesn't seem to realise how attractive he is and is modest, respectful and unassuming. The rest are as you describe.

I've recently been involved in a project mostly worked on by men at the younger end of middle-age and we, the clients, are all women. Without exception the good looking men expect to be able to resolve things by buttering you up, while the less attractive men actually do their job and solve the problem.

I have to say that the most objectively handsome man I know is actually lovely. And very witty. And kind. I don’t know him well enough to confidently list his failings but on the face of it he ticks a lot of boxes.

It often depends on if they blossomed later in life. I know 2 very well, one is arrogant & a twat (family), the other one is nice but just no personality, think they didn't need to develop one.

I’ve met the two extremes
some are the nicest guys you can meet - is as if being extremely gorgeous just made them grow very comfortable on their own skin and don’t try to prove anything to anyone - and actually value friendships and care about people - and I mean good looking, been on TV good looks
I've also met some real a-holes
so don’t think there’s a direct relation

Oh & the nice one has always gone for very normal looking women.

One of the guys I referred to in my OP is a work colleague. He has worked his way through almost all of the available women in the office and quite a few of the married ones. I try not to feel offended that he’s never tried it on with me😂. He is drop dead gorgeous and perfectly pleasant. He also happens to be one of the dullest human beings I’ve ever met. A couple of the women he’s slept with have also told me he is mind numbingly boring.

He’s ok but he leaves tools all over the house and does really gopping farts. He’s a great dad though and a fantastic husband so I can’t complain! And I fancy the pants off him still (and so do my friends!)

I know a couple of truly stunning men, both fantastic. I think people make assumptions about very attractive people and they are often extremely unfair- plenty of lovely stunners out there just as there are people who are both nasty and ugly.

I once dated a Mr England finalist. He was very shy and quiet and generally a very nice person, not over confident or full of himself at all.

I do know lots of attractive man who are nice, humble with great personalities but they are just bog standard whereas the two I mentioned upthread are universally very good looking.

The best looking man I've ever known was back in my 20's, he was married and sleeping around - gorgeous but an absolute bore to talk to, relied entirely on his looks. He tried in on with several of his friends gf's/sisters including me. I asked him as a joke once if he'd pay me £100 for sex and he said yes without a second thought - obviously this never happened!!

Another really good looking guy from my 20's that I snogged on a night out after years of obsessing over him - ended up having a girlfriend. He wanted us to have sex 'to see if he liked me better'. I declined that one too.

Married my OH who wasn't nearly as good looking. Turned out he was a bigger asshole than either of them, just much, much better at hiding it.

I do know one man who is genuinely lovely. Lives in another country, average looking and is married. I've given up on most men now I'm nearly 50 though.

Back in my student days I very briefly dated someone who did some male modelling. He was pretty self-absorbed and revelled in the attention he got from women tbh. He was also a ridiculous name-dropper who would constantly bang on about the time he had drinks with Mica Paris/chatted to Bono at a party/was introduced to Kate Winslett to anyone who would listen. We weren't suited and it didn't last.

I think the blossoming later in life thing might be true. I assume if you were plain or attractive at one point and grew into an extremely attractive man you’d remember what it was like to be normal or overlooked and less likely to be a dick. Although of my male friends was massively overweight with awful skin, hair etc when we were younger. He moved abroad and came back a new man - lost all the weight, treatment for his skin problems etc. He developed a very toxic personality alongside all the female attention he started to receive. Our friendship ended when he ‘bought’ 2 extremely young sex workers as a birthday present for himself and paraded them around his party.

@minipie interesting theory!
My DH is very good looking but blossomed a lot later in life age 23 upwards I would say. We've been together since he was 17 and seeing the transformation is insane.

Whereas I have gotten fatter and more disheveled 😂

Yes, I knew two really gorgeous men. Really gorgeous, blonde, high cheek bones, silence in the room…..one was a bit of a twit and unfaithful to his wife. The other was slightly detached , not much for commitment, but actually great sardonic humour once he relaxed and knew you.

reader , I married him ( forty years and still going, though he isn’t as gorgeous now, but then I’m pretty decrepit too). The only real disadvantage to his looks was that he liked me to go into mens clothing shops with him, in the days when these things were much more single sex and specialist, because he used to be propositioned by random customers ( and sometimes staff). I have spent many boring hours perched in changing room stools clutching piles of garments and looking proprietorial.

Suppose it depends on what you consider good looking. To me it's natural and classically good looking features such as thick hair, high cheekbones, strong jawline wide set eyes, naturally athletic build, strong legs, good bum, a sort of healthy radiance. The kind of features that always age well. Which isn't necessarily what the 'love island' definition of attractive is - that seems to be just physique or charisma as a lot of the lads have plain features.

I know a few. The ones who are naturally classically good looking tend to be family men, settled with gfs from uni or work and quite nice blokes - more likely to spend a day cycling than cheating/pulling. The ones who had to work at it, lots of gym time, obsessed with their appearance were sleazier. No idea why and I don't like to generalise so maybe just the ones I know.

Obv biased but my bf is very good looking. As is his brother. They get a lot of attention from men and women despite being completely oblivious till others point it out. In fact I was convinced he'd be a fuckboy because he was so good looking and we met on the apps - I almost refused to go out with him. But both are introverted and have always spent most of their time doing home improvements, or going climbing, or wanting to be with family, rather than hitting the clubs. So I think good looking men can be lovely too, just focus on the ones who don't make it their whole personality.

My husband is so sexy woman openly stare at him and he has an amazing physique. He is a real lads lad but adores his mum and think me and his daughters should be doted on. It does help that he doesn't think he's attractive as he's not interested in all that he just like sports