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Anne Heche has died

155 replies

NellesVilla · 12/08/2022 19:27

RIP 💐

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Fadeout83 · 12/08/2022 23:37

some people in this thread are gross and need to have a close look at themselves. It’s possible to not agree with peoples choices and be critical of their actions while still having some empathy and sadness over the tragic circumstances in their lives that led them to make poor decisions.

FFS. Fly free AH

Boreded · 12/08/2022 23:51

Just out of interest…all the people who point to being abused as a child and seemingly justifying her driving with narcotics in her system…I bet none of you felt sympathy for Chris brown after he hit rihanna…he was abused too but it doesn’t make it ok

Inyournewdress · 13/08/2022 00:13

I don’t really know anything about Anne Heche but I do think that before jumping on the more critical posters, people should think about what words they would be using if she had just killed three children asleep in their bedroom, or just killed your children asleep in their bedroom. It is pure luck that she didn’t cause more damage; her actions were the same as they would have been should tragic deaths like that have occurred.

I do feel sorry for the fact that she suffered and I feel so sorry for her children. But somewhere here something has gone very wrong..she should not have had access to a vehicle.

Fadeout83 · 13/08/2022 00:13

Boreded · 12/08/2022 23:51

Just out of interest…all the people who point to being abused as a child and seemingly justifying her driving with narcotics in her system…I bet none of you felt sympathy for Chris brown after he hit rihanna…he was abused too but it doesn’t make it ok

Are you saying we should rejoice that she has died then? Can we not express sadness and empathy over a death while still not condoning specific actions? Feelings are not mutually exclusive you know. And to answer your question, I don’t agree with what Chris Brown did but I also feel horribly sad for him about the childhood he had. No one said anything about AH’s past tragedy justifying current actions or making them ok. But a woman has died and it’s sad. Get a grip.

LuluBlakey1 · 13/08/2022 00:14

'FFS. Fly free AH'

FFS- she is dead. What is past help should be past grief. She won't be flying anywhere.
I hope her estate will be paying to re-build and replace the house and contents of the home she destroyed and the person she almost killed.

LuluBlakey1 · 13/08/2022 00:26

Fadeout83 · 13/08/2022 00:13

Are you saying we should rejoice that she has died then? Can we not express sadness and empathy over a death while still not condoning specific actions? Feelings are not mutually exclusive you know. And to answer your question, I don’t agree with what Chris Brown did but I also feel horribly sad for him about the childhood he had. No one said anything about AH’s past tragedy justifying current actions or making them ok. But a woman has died and it’s sad. Get a grip.

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Yes, I often think about how sorry I feel for the drunken police officer who killed my grandma- what a terrible stressful life he must have had sitting in the pub afternoon after afternoon and then driving home drunk. It must have been terrible for him that his wife was having an affair, and he had such a hard job, no wonder he needed to get drunk every day and then drive. And how unfortunate that my grandma happened to cross a road at a crossing just at the moment he was speeding and incapable of controlling the car. Poor man had so much on his plate and of course he didn't stop because he was worried about his job. And the fact that my grandma was in hospital with head injuries that killed her a week later isn't something I blame him for- I am full of sympathy for him. I'm so glad he didn't get a prison sentence or lose his job and, of course, I fully understand that he could not look us in the face at court or apologise- not a problem.
And when he was arrested again 2 years later for drunk driving he was still stressed poor man.
Pathetic. We lost a gran, a mam, a sister, a wife, an aunt, who was so loved - all because of his selfish, self-indulgent, self-pitying actions.
He could have gone home and drank, or got a taxi home from the pub, he didn't because he didn't want to- he liked his habits, he didn't want to pay for a taxi. That's how selfish addicts are.
I have NO sympathy when they harm others.

Popsicle33 · 13/08/2022 00:43

Sad but she had a history of DUI convictions. She was allegedly on coke this time and could have killed people. Hard to have much sympathy.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 13/08/2022 01:07

It makes me loose my positive thoughts about restoring my hope in human kindness…seriously why are people so uncaring ?
Are they just lacking in being amazing,empathic human beings who just
actually do not care

Comments make you lose your positive thoughts? It is possible to acknowledge the lady was lost and sad but also completely reckless and selfish too.

Imagine how her DC feel hearing how their DM drove herself into 2 buildings, her body burning up in the flames.

Think of the fire services and paramedics removing her body.

Thankfully there was nobody else killed.

Whilst I can sympathise how cruel life was towards her, we cannot ignore her actions.

LuluBlakey1 I'm sorry for your tragic loss.

OldFan · 13/08/2022 01:13

Imagine being so out of it mentally that you did that. Shock Sad

I bet none of you felt sympathy for Chris brown after he hit rihanna…he was abused too but it doesn’t make it ok

If the people in the house had come to much bodily harm I'd feel different. But I suppose she did nearly run over a pedestrian earlier.

I just can only imagine being so out of it that you persisted in doing what she did that night.

RosalindsAFuckingNightmare · 13/08/2022 01:16

I'm a victim of childhood trauma and 40 years later it still affects me. I hope Anne is now at peace and I am so sad for her poor children. The cycle continues.

IDreamOfTheMoors · 13/08/2022 01:34

RaspberryParfait · 12/08/2022 20:12

The householder of the house she drove into has serious injuries apparently.

I’m with @WaitingForWinter1. Only sympathy I have is for her poor kids having to live with losing their mother in such a reckless, needless way.

Pure luck she didn’t kill someone.

@RaspberryParfait

Her name is Lynne Mishele. She has NO injuries but she just barely escaped with her two dogs and tortoise. By inches, evidently.
Her house is destroyed.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/08/2022 01:34

Boreded · 12/08/2022 23:51

Just out of interest…all the people who point to being abused as a child and seemingly justifying her driving with narcotics in her system…I bet none of you felt sympathy for Chris brown after he hit rihanna…he was abused too but it doesn’t make it ok

If he'd been flailing his arms around in a high state and got Rihanna in the face stupidly, hurt her utterly irresponsibly, then knocked petrol over himself and set himself on fire and died... yes I'd feel sorry for him.

If Anne Heche had purposefully driven at the house, meaning to maim someone inside, then got a tattoo of the burning house for fun, I wouldn't feel sorry for her.

Apples and oranges.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/08/2022 01:35

LuluBlakey1 · 13/08/2022 00:14

'FFS. Fly free AH'

FFS- she is dead. What is past help should be past grief. She won't be flying anywhere.
I hope her estate will be paying to re-build and replace the house and contents of the home she destroyed and the person she almost killed.

The go fund me is at about 100K. The house owner will be OK. Thank goodness.

slashlover · 13/08/2022 05:39

So Any McPartlin = absolute arsehole, shouldn't be allowed on TV, selfish, a disgrace.

Anne Hecke - Has demons, deserves sympathy.

toomuchlaundry · 13/08/2022 06:37

Think I might be quite traumatised if someone drove into my house and it was destroyed in a fire. Would take some time to get over that even if I didn’t have any physical injuries

MigsandTiggs · 13/08/2022 06:51

bellac11 · 12/08/2022 21:19

Abusers have target victims, usually in line with their sexuality.

There are always exceptions which is why I said its unusual

Part of my job is completing risk assessments on parents (and other family members) where there has been sexual abuse/allegations

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Her father could have been bi as he was in a relationship with her mum while also having a secret homosexual life. Re the brother's suicide - I wonder if he wasn't abused as well. I just find her story sad all round, including the ending.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 13/08/2022 10:00

her poor children
i hope they can lead a better life

xJoyfulCalmWisdomx · 13/08/2022 10:04

slashlover · 13/08/2022 05:39

So Any McPartlin = absolute arsehole, shouldn't be allowed on TV, selfish, a disgrace.

Anne Hecke - Has demons, deserves sympathy.

Well, I never demonised him. never lauded him either mind you.
but I do know that Anne Heche suffered horrendous sexual abuse, her mother did nothing, her brother drove in to a tree, her sister died of cancer. You'd have to have some heart of stone to insist, no, it's black or it's white. It isn't black or white. It's definitely grey, when a person's childhood is so horrendous, sorry but it's grey for me. I feel sorry for the woman whose house was destroyed, but I also feel so sorry for Anne, robbed of a childhood, robbed of peace of mind, condemned by her father to a life of dealing with his shame. My heart goes out to her.

gatehouseoffleet · 13/08/2022 12:44

bellac11 · 12/08/2022 21:16

I think the response on here would be very different if it was a man.

I'd think it horrific if a man died in flames as well.

Sparklingbrook · 13/08/2022 12:51

I wondered how long it would take to be comparing it to Ant McPartlin's drink driving. Not the same at all.

ImWell · 13/08/2022 12:56

Sparklingbrook · 13/08/2022 12:51

I wondered how long it would take to be comparing it to Ant McPartlin's drink driving. Not the same at all.

That’s true, he didn’t burn down someone’s house.

Other than that it seems pretty similar.

Sparklingbrook · 13/08/2022 13:26

That’s true, he didn’t burn down someone’s house

Or die. Hmm Or have an absolutely awful upbringing. Yes really similar.

GettinPiggyWithIt · 13/08/2022 13:42

Sally090807 · 12/08/2022 20:32

Would you have empathy if a drug or drink driver killed a member of your family.

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You can feel empathy for more than one party at a time.

Her life and death were horribly
painful by anybody’s standards

ImWell · 13/08/2022 13:44

Sparklingbrook · 13/08/2022 13:26

That’s true, he didn’t burn down someone’s house

Or die. Hmm Or have an absolutely awful upbringing. Yes really similar.

You don’t think his upbringing was tough?

Sparklingbrook · 13/08/2022 13:50

You don’t think his upbringing was tough?

Not in comparison to Anne Heche's. But as I say I don't really know why the two are being compared anyway.
Ant is very much alive and has rebuilt his life as far as I can tell.