Why are so many people lazy ?

[LovelyYellowLabrador]

Is it more they are struggling in life or they just genuinely don’t want to do stuff

If it's a shit tip after a few days - then yeah... it's laziness and slovenliness

invoking a bit of Bible eh? I’d rather live a life than clean a house every day. You have one life.

Life's too short to be spending time doing this that don't interest me. I don't want to spend my life working all the time, I would rather spend my free time doing things that I enjoy. As long as we have a roof over our heads and food on the table we have enough.

I don't understand people who worship at the altar of wealth and spend their time doing things they don't necessarily like so that they can sacrifice themselves for money. What is the point of having more than you need or could realistically use in your life?

I don't think Im a martyr I don't generally look for sympathy or praise for being hard working. If something needs doing I do it because it needs doing I cant help myself I don't sit back ( or hide in a cupboard) and hope someone else will do it. I'd feel very uncomfortable if something should have been done and it wasn't and I would also feel very uncomfortable if I saw someone working hard and I was sitting doing nothing although this doesn't seem to be an issue for some of my colleagues (not that I would ever comment on this).

Tbf if it's a shit tip fair enough, but that's a different point of letting it get to that state .

But general housework task i.e hoovering, polishing ect. Sod doing that everyday.

That's fine if you're not expecting people to wait hand and foot on you, and always be the one to do the running/keep in touch with you. Be a 'lazy person' if that's what floats your boat and you wanna waste your life doing fuck-all, but be lazy on your own, and don't expect others to enable your bone idle 'lifestyle.'

As for people who don't work and love their laziness and slovenliness. I don't even know where to start with THAT one. That's actually embarrassing. Imagine being proud of that?! Yeah it's great to chill and let your hair down and let some 'tasks' and 'jobs' wait a few days more, but being plain lazy, doing fuck-all, and being proud of it, is just cringeworthy.

I can be very lazy. In my case, it is absolutely avoidance. Every time I have tried to do anything, or just be out and about socially on a regular basis, it has ultimately ended up very badly. It might be chance, but when I do things, particularly any kind of training or education, I get abused horribly or people important to me die/become seriously ill. It's happened consistently for 2 decades though, so doesn't feel like chance. It has now reached a point where I am genuinely fearful of working, because I have run out of people for bad things to happen to now, other than my children. I don't want them to be hurt, so I am very wary of working, because that will require training in a role. Running out of savings now though, so something will have to give.

To these ends, I do everything my children need me to do. I clean, shop, cook, play etc. but only have them with me 60% of the time... When they are with their dad, I sleep, or stare into space: I spent over 6 hours today napping... Sometimes I sit still for so long it hurts me and I then struggle to move physically. I do nothing, because that feels much safer than doing anything else. I know it's irrational, so I only allow myself to do this when it can't impact the kids - 60% of the time I am a good and active mother (if a bit avoidant of clubs and playdates etc, but ExH is good about them), 40% I am so lazy it actually injures me.

I had tried to stop this, did a degree and had a guaranteed job. Unfortunately doing the degree meant all the family members who offered support became chronically and debilitatingly ill. Two nearly died and won't fully recover. The job training caused catastophic personal problems so painful I can't even think about them, which meant the role became untennable and I had to withdraw. Doing things isn't safe. Napping is safer.

You sound deeply unpleasant.

Jesus Christ, who or what has hurt you? Just let people be themselves without being such a judgey Janet.

"Efficiency is just intelligent laziness". I genuinely think I am lazy, but I also have a very good job and get great feedback. I think laziness is fine as long as you're keeping the basics going - children (or other dependants) happy, healthy and cared for (if you have them), house not a public menace, able to hold down gainful employment (if you need to), generally able to maintain some meaningful relationships. Everything else is purely optional and there's no need to put undue pressure on yourself, which lots of people do.

I just find it so bloody hard to do anything

Im not a great one for house work although my house is fairly clean and tidy, I do my garden because I love it although I employ someone to do the heavy work, I walk 17000 to 220000 steps a day again because I love walking and I ride 3-4 times a week again because I love it. No one would call me all things to all people I do not do things to please people I do things because I want too. So I guess I want to do my job well you and to do that need to work hard and go the extra mile. Frankly I never thought about what motivates me till I started commenting on this thread! .

I’ve got an invisible illness. Usually in the morning I’m ok and I walk the dogs and sometimes do yoga. If you saw me you’d think I was fine because I look fit and healthy and my posture is good. By early afternoon I’m pretty tired and on days when I work for a couple of hours I’m usually destroyed for the rest of the day. There are odd days when I will be ok all day.

However, even if I was ok I don’t think being busy is something to be admired. I wouldn’t be prepared to give up my freedom to make someone else rich.

A question I ask myself daily...
DH has bipolar and suffers long periods of depression. I'm pretty sure he is also lazy, but it's very hard to tell and I can't talk about it because I will seem unsympathetic to his illness or make him feel worse about himself.

Absolutely nothing wrong with choosing to live life in the slow lane!

Even Deities need a good rest...
'By the seventh day, God had completed the work he had been doing, so on the seventh day he stopped working on everything that he had done. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it God stopped working..'.

Amen to that!

My question was not related to me personally, I am neither lazy nor not lazy. I do what I want with my life. I have a job, a family, hobbies, voluntary things.

But I am really interested in the people - like yourself @WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps who make value judgements about things.

I hear that some people think being lazy is bad, but no one has actually answered WHY it is bad. WHY is it cringeworthy?

To me, some people do a lot, some do not. It has always been that way, since the dawn of time.

Was going to answer but am too lazy to finish this p

I didn't say I was proud. I said I accept it. And it was tongue in cheek, as there are very real reasons for this situation but the pp I quoted had me on the list of people who are "definitely lazy".

"I hear that some people think being lazy is bad"
I can't talk about all jobs but in my job lazy staff impacts on the care that our clients receive so IMO this = bad.
I couldn't give a crap if people wish to be lazy in their lives out of work if they want to sit around doing nothing all day then as long as its not impacting negatively on other who cares in fact as long as they are happy doing nothing good luck to them.

I'm lazy. I don't want to do stuff because I enjoy doing nothing (reading,watching a movie/tv show , staying home etc) .

For me, probable ADHD and a very strong stubborn streak that means I refuse to do things that I personally consider pointless. We are here once and there is no way I am spending any of my precious time doing things that make me appear to fit in some sort of shitty ‘society says so’ box.

I managed to haul myself out of poverty and deprivation by not being lazy and now I'm buying my son a house as a single mum But it depends what you want in life. Some people don't want to work or improve themselves. My motivation was my DS.

How can you possibly generalise?

Some people are suffering from debilitating mental and physical illnesses, some couldn't care less about competitive business, others might be busier than you think.

My postman, for example, might think I live an easy life - always home to answer the door, frequently looking like I've just rolled out of bed. But he doesn't see me working every evening, or realise that I'm a full-time carer to my four-year-old who has serious but hidden disabilities.

This is my mum. She likes playing the victim too. Has never taken my daughter out, she's now 12, once picked her up from nursery and she got run over! Too busy playing granny to actually do it! She has no idea wot my child eats or when. Won't get up before noon even if the house was on fire, which it once was , and no, she didn't get up!! Has never helped with anything to do with my kid, and we live in the same house!! She says she never did it for me so does t see why she shd do it now my gran brought me up. Narcissistic personality disorder. Look it up and pls msg me x

I have been thinking about this a lot lately. I always thought I was lazy but am now wondering is there more to it.

OK, I do go at a very slow pace and like lying down and going on my phone for extended periods of time. That's well know about me. I'm not a high energy person and that's fine.

When it comes to things like tidying, cleaning, studying, work stuff, it hurts my brain firstand foremost. I feel like I can cope with the different stages of the task. For example, with tidying, I find it really hard to sort. If I'm cleaning the living room and take toys down to the kids room, I get overwhelmed about where I should put the toys. I end up shoving them somewhere which makes me overwhelmed the next time I have to put thiings away.

When I'm cleaning, my body starts to feel weird if I'm holding a cloth and am wiping down the table, my hands feel too big for my body. I keep wiping the surface and keep missing some bits. Often there will be a very overwhelming moment where I'm experiencing a lot of physical sensations at once: the big hand, the moisture of of the cloth, bits of food on my hand and I often start feeling very conscious of whatever I'm wearing on my feet. If i am hot, that goes in the mix and that get overwhelming too. I often have to stop, experience the sensations and isolate them so I can move past it.

Then I start overthinking what to do with cleaning materials. I always throw the cloth out after I clean the bathroom as I get so co fused about what to do with the cloth. I once didn't mop my bathroom floor for ages as I thought you needed a separate bathroom mop and kept forgetting to buy one. I find this very overwhelming too.

It takes me hours to do what my husband can do in minutes in our home. The amount of energy I put into it is not reflected in the output at all, which really demotivates me.

I always thought I was neurological and never questioned this until recently (have a few family members on the the spectrum). Now I'm wondering, as this doesn't seem normal.

I seem so lazy but actually I just really struggle.

Luckily my husband is amazing around the house but even he has his limits and he gets very frustrated with me. I push through for the kids' sake and our home is reasonably clean and tidy but it takes a disproportionate effort and amount of overthinking on my part.

Am I the only one to have this stuck in my head now?