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Which wedding dress..?! HELP!

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flourned · 20/06/2022 16:07

Hello,

So. I'm torn between these two dresses.
One is my dream dress - sorely, A line dress with gorgeous appliqué but it's quite busty.. which I'm struggling to get over. I'm not one to flaunt my chest area whatsoever so find it quite revealing.

The other is a classic satin gown, button back details and very covered up. Sadly don't have a photo of this.

For context, I'm marrying in a church.

Please help? Is the A line sparkly too revealing? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thank you in advance

Which wedding dress..?! HELP!
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flourned · 20/06/2022 16:08

Thank you in advance x

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CheshireCats · 20/06/2022 16:09

That is too much cleavage/boobs in my opinion.

Anxiernie · 20/06/2022 16:10

The dress you've shown is beautiful and sexy at the same time. I love it.

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courtrai · 20/06/2022 16:11

Sorry but agree with PP; far too booby for a church wedding

BeyondMyWits · 20/06/2022 16:11

For church, yes, too low cut (IMHO)

Blogdog · 20/06/2022 16:13

The bottom half of the dress is lovely but too much cleavage for me, sorry. It would raise a few eyebrows in church I think!

Is there any way they could add some material to make the top of it a bit less revealing?

autocollantes · 20/06/2022 16:13

Can you get a lace coverup for over it in the church?

However, I'd say that if you were going to be dancing afterwards you may not feel all that comfortable - some brides don't want to do much dancing though so wouldn't be a problem.

Bottom line is you need to feel comfortable. What makes a bride look good is actually feeling good. So forget what they look like for a second and think which you feel the best in.

MavisMonkey · 20/06/2022 16:13

In dress A you would be able to add a modesty panel to the front to cover up a bit of the cleavage, or a good seamstress can close up the neckline a wee bit.

SkyLarkDescending · 20/06/2022 16:14

I think it's a nice dress but I think you need to feel comfortable in whatever you choose. The last thing you want on the day is to be pulling the top up/feeling self conscious.
If you love the dress you could see what adjustments they can make but it would change the feel of it.

MaJoady · 20/06/2022 16:15

It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, but i think you need to be 100% comfortable in your wedding dress. It's too expensive and there is too much focus on you on the day, you aren't going to feel beautiful if you are worried it's too revealing.

Fwiw, I am not a cleavage flasher, so I would feel like it was too revealing for me personally. It's a very flattering shape though

clippety clop · 20/06/2022 16:15

I think the dress in the photo is showing too much breast flesh. It's a personal thing but I don't think they should be on show like that in a wedding gown, I prefer a more classy look but it's down to personal preference really and what you feel most comfortable in.

The fact you're doubting yourself would be enough for me to think perhaps you shouldn't wear it and keep looking.

GetTheStartyParted · 20/06/2022 16:15

So long as its well-fitting, keeps things secure and you are comfortable in it then it isn't the most revealing wedding dress I've seen recently. It flatters your figure.

But, you say you find it revealing so I'm not sure you would feel comfortable wearing it all day. In church, sitting down for a meal, dancing, and all that a wedding entails. If you don't feel confident in it then perhaps it is not 'the one'.

KnitOnePearlOneDropOne · 20/06/2022 16:17

Too much for a church wedding imo.

BusterGonad · 20/06/2022 16:19

I think the bust and all the fabric makes it a bit too busy. But it's your day and your dress.

SpuytenDuyvil · 20/06/2022 16:20

You look great and the dress is lovely, but it's too booby.

elenacampana · 20/06/2022 16:20

You have to feel comfortable in it, it’s really important. Adjustments could be made, some lace would fix it and make it less chesty.

I wore a classic satin gown with a button up back to my wedding, it was perfect.

MayBeee · 20/06/2022 16:20

The dress is lovely but agree it's booby.
You say it's your dream dress , I'd answer , it has the qualities to make it your dream dress , but as you are on here it's not.
Keep looking out for that style , but without the very low neckline.

RuthW · 20/06/2022 16:20

I would go with the second dress

MayBeee · 20/06/2022 16:21

Also meant to add repost your dresses as you know you will get impartial advice.

indoorplantqueen · 20/06/2022 16:22

You look great but it is too low. Can you get a seamstress to put a piece of fabric across it.

Shedcity · 20/06/2022 16:23

I like it
find a pretty necklace that’s quite high on the neck/chest to draw the eye up a bit

but you need to be comfortable so can you get it altered?

MrsMoastyToasty · 20/06/2022 16:25

Is it actually your size or just the shop's sample?

Are you wearing a bra in the picture? It makes you look very short waisted. Although it may be in part due to the cut of the bodice.

calmlakes · 20/06/2022 16:27

I think it is far too booby for a church wedding.
Could you as others have said get some kind of fabric panel put in?

Ilikewinter · 20/06/2022 16:27

I agree with PP, its a beautifull dress but very booby, agree to see if an amendment could be made to add some sort of panel across it?

SunflowerSmith · 20/06/2022 16:27

Yeah I agree it's too low cut, you already feel self conscious in it just standing on the shop so imagine how you'll feel when all eyes are on you walking down the aisle, or sitting down eating your meal, or dancing, or talking to guests.

The other dress sounds quite plain and maybe a bit too far in the other direction, are there other shops you could try?