We are off to Spain tomorrow, DS has gone out tonight with our blessing... he has a shock coming when he gets home....

[EllenWaiteourkid]

He isn't coming home (staying at a friends) which makes our leaving the house early in the morning easier, we can make as much noise as we like. Anyhoo.....

I have stripped out the pedal bin, (DH placing bets on whether he knows where the fresh bin liners are) 😁

I have put the food bin contents outside but failed to reline the bin.

The dishwasher is full to capacity but whoops I appear to have forgotten to run it before we leave.

None of it major, but all the invisible parts of how a house runs....

Have a golden op

Maybe the OP could actually have been funny to start with.

It wasn't.

That’s EXACTLY what bothers me about this thread. This mother thinks she’s so slick by setting up these traps around the home, when in reality she’s just creating extra work for herself. If she didn’t teach her son chores (even worse: if the husband doesn’t do any chores and didn’t teach the son chores either) earlier in life AND did not provide him with a short list of chores. However, if she magically expected the son just knew how to do them (without even knowing they needed to be done or that they are overdue), she’s setting him for failure in several ways. From straining their mother/son relationship, creating future communication problems, to trust issues.

My teen wouldn't even realise you use a bin liner🤷😂

I get it @EllenWaiteourkid (although so many PP don’t).

You’re making visible to your DS all the invisible little bits of housework stuff that makes his life more comfortable.

Maybe he needs to be given a higher share of the work of your family’s house?

Yup. Totally agree.

Have you ever actually shown him where the bin liners are? Encouraged him to do the dishwasher?

Thank you! Not just me then.

My parents would often leave a little note of things that needed doing - which plants needed watering etc and always finished off with a have a nice time, love you and a smiley face and kisses.

If they'd just snuck off and left me with some sort of weird experiment I'd feel like I meant nothing to them.

What a lot of bullying people we have on mumsnet.
This mum has put all the nasty smelly things outside. So what if the son uses no bin liners, the Dad just laughed about if the son knew he needs one. The bin inside is empty, so the son will have to empty it when full.
As to the instructions people thing the mum needs to leave, that child has lived there for 18 years, the OP just wonders how much he learnt.
No wonder children get such as shock, if parents don't let a child grow, and this week will MAKE this child function as an Adult, as otherwise he will starve.
OP yes, he has a shock coming, and one every child gets if a good patent allows it.

I was here then. And no, they wouldn't.

What a nasty little post OP

Ah yes, the creative writing threads with fake totes hilarious situations and embarrassing "why don't you say/write this as an answer" replies.
8 years ago with PB may have been when such pathetic twaddle had its big moment, but it was the end of the real wit on MN that had trundled on quite happily (and genuinely) for a good 12-15 years prior to the "get me in classics I'm wetting my keyboard" rubbish.

So you're bragging about going on a nice holiday without your son and also leaving him with all your mess to clean up? Hopefully his friends parents are kinder than you and actually take care of him!

To be honest it’s not my sense of humour either, but not my cup of tea doesn’t turn me into a nasty person. Funny that.

OP yes, he has a shock coming, and one every child gets if a good patent allows it.

nope. a good parent would make sure it doesn't come as a shock in the first place.

I can't stand parenting like this. It's pathetic.

I get your humour OP 🤣🤣

You're saying his father and you haven't raised him to function on the most basic of levels? How embarrassing for you.

I'm not sure how it's "funny" or "lighthearted" to have raised a son who is incapable of basic household tasks, and then revelling in the fact. "Funny" things are actually supposed to be amusing.

Agreed

i read it and I think “who needs enemies when you have parents like this?”

@EllenWaiteourkid you are full-on evil do you think he'll still be using the same tea towel when you get back ? 😂😂😂 and what are the odds that the dishwasher will still not,have been put on "I couldn't find the pod things to go in it " 😬

We left one of ours at home on a recent holiday. In that time the hot water broke, as did,the dishwasher. Carnage! We still had a lovely holiday though

Have a lovely time.

Oh, and to the rest of you stop being so bloody serious.

It's a bit of banter and certainly not poor parenting. FFS

Its the "oh I'll teach him" scenario the op imagines she has going on here. Like the son cares about the dishwasher or the messy bin. Thats middle age worries, a youngster wont give a toss about these things. He's already planned the parties and when his girlfriend will stay. Did any of us care about mess or dirty dishes when you finally got an empty 🤣🤣

At his age I would've gone home and just thought, lazy bastard parents tbh not sure what's shocking about it

Well I have a 16 year old son, so I'm laughing OP

Enjoy your holiday.