The weird world of MN…

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I am frequent visitor on MN but sometimes it feels like another world, examples include

• being told to LTB because he ate the kids chocolate, comments included selfish, abuser and narcissist
• you are not allowed to ask grandparents for childcare but equally fume silently when they don’t offer *everyone earns £100k per year
• everyone kids are in a vast amount of out of school activities. Screen time is frowned upon *parents give them a vast amount of money for house deposits *you are expected to pay for your kids until they are way into adulthood but don’t expect them to visit you in old age
• There is a huge amount of children with SEN and ASD even though they amount to only 1% of children in the population (this is not a judgement/criticism, more of an observation) *Many husbands work FT and are high earners but still should share 50% of the housework, if not LTB *husbands have a secret ‘hobby’ *all kids should have their own room and should not be expected to share.

I may need to visit with some more 😂

The Haitch versus Aitch.
I know it's a British site but some of the posters don't realise that not everyone is British.

And they do look down their nose somewhat.

saint you'll probably get told that you are over indulging your DS by organising his lunch and talking about his day .... in Mumsnet world teenagers are meant to be super independent and not need any help or support at home. As a PP said, I have never met one of these mythical 16 year olds who is working and living independently... I have (sadly) met 16 year olds who have left care or been thrown out of their home with no support, family or any help except a few well meaning volunteers trying to do their best .

Everyone's husband is cheating and will one day suddenly leave them and the children for the other woman, after zero red flags.
That got in my head for a bit actually.

Not everyone but many think 99% of men are horrible humans.

You REALLY don't want to see what male-centric websites say about women.

Please stop using Karen as a slur, it's really fucking offensive.

This.

And you have to facilitate their sex life otherwise they would be shagging in a field.....

The way the site changes when there’s something going on eg a pandemic, a rash of posters you don’t usually see

then the next news item

it passes and blip they are gone

What? I would put money on that the men in my life aren't spending time on male-centric websites saying awful things about women.

They have more important things to do.

Thought of another one.

Preppers.
They are hoarders but just won't admit to it.
They try to justify their prepping/hoarding by saying that they live too far away from a supermarket/work 20 hours a day/feel fresher if they've fucking prepped !

Always bang on about replacing their lifetime's supply of ( whatever) by buying a replacement as soon as they've used one, despite the fact that they've already got an enormous supply of shampoo/pasta/pinto beans/oat bran already!

They go shopping all the time to augment their prep stores!

It's still hoarding.

Also everyone's mother in law is a conniving, malicious old cow.

😂😂😂

The latest thing seems to be that any GP who keeps some toys and clothes for their DGCs in the GP's own home, is trying to take over from the mother and is using the DGD to 'play house'. And the child's mother shouldimmediately go NC and never let the GP have any further contact with the GCs.

I can't believe that two thirds of MNers on that thread think that GPs who do childcare keeping toys at their own house, is unreasonable

Oh and the 'just' ers

On the bones of your arse & need to buy something urgently / pay a big bill? Just get a credit card / loan

Need cash quick? Just take in ironing / look down sofa / sell everything you own on eBay

Nightmare neighbours? Just move

The bus route you rely on yo get to work has been cancelled? Just learn to drive

Boss a dick? Just get a new job

In law being rude? Just ask 'did you mean to be so rude?' with a head tilt & tinkly laugh

These really annoy me too, as if they're things you can sort out in your lunchtime, when in reality moving, getting a new job, setting up a small business like ironing or learning todrive are neither quick or cheap solutions. All potentially end up costing money before you've made any. (even if in the long term they are a decent idea)

Jeeeze. Now it's 72%

They are obviously very worthy and busy individuals.

Still, the fact remains that sexist content is far worse on male-centric sites than here. I've had a lot of crap on MN over the years... been called fat, fucking weird, over privileged, underclass, a moral degenerate (to be fair, that one's true), a loon, an upstart and an OW. But nobody has ever threatened to rape or kill me, fantasised publicly about raping my corpse or attempted to hunt me down on social media (and harassed an innocent woman in the process).

I don't think it's too bad here.

Under other usernames, my posts have been shared on that Reddit Mumsnet troll board, and categorised as "didn't happen." To be fair to the members of that, the situations were ones that warranted a resounding "wtf" but they were very real and I was torn between amusement and sadness to find them there! Opted for amusement in the end, it was easier to sleep.

And another thing that bugs me... endless photos of pregnancy testing strips.
Why? Just why?
Most of them are blank yet a steady stream of ' congratulations' then follows.

Share the stick with your partner first! FFS!

Well god knows what they’d make of my house what with all the childcare that gets done here and all of the equipment I have. Quite simply, anyone should be able to just pick up their car keys and put their child or children in the car without having to worry about what they have to pack up to bring with them.

being told to LTB because he ate the kids chocolate, comments included selfish, abuser and narcissist
Often times it's a pattern of selfish behaviour over period of time
you are not allowed to ask grandparents for childcare but equally fume silently when they don’t offer
there are some entitled posters
*everyone earns £100k per year
often times in the earnings-type threads - there are others on min wage
everyone kids are in a vast amount of out of school activities. Screen time is frowned upon
actually not true - there others who openly admit to allowing screen time
*parents give them a vast amount of money for house deposits
not true, others proudly claim they'll not receive anything from parents
*you are expected to pay for your kids until they are way into adulthood but don’t expect them to visit you in old age
again not true - exaggerated
There is a huge amount of children with SEN and ASD even though they amount to only 1% of children in the population (this is not a judgement/criticism, more of an observation)
exaggerated
*Many husbands work FT and are high earners but still should share 50% of the housework, if not LTB
the discussions often centre around - not minimising yourself because
you earn less than husband
*husbands have a secret ‘hobby’
this is overdone
*all kids should have their own room and should not be expected to share
exaggeration

This types of threads are tiring with no naunce and use a few selected over-the-top threads to cast aspersions on otherwise fair advice.

I do not speak English first language.

God, the Covid times version of this was endless posts with a photo of the 8 LFTs the poster had taken that day which were absolutely and completely negative but said poster had been in the presence of somebody who had coughed three times in an evening and so obvs they must have caught Covid from them and were determined that other posters tell them so.

Whereas in the real world, if you got a negative test and had no symptoms you were, well, healthy.

AIBU: OP asks a question. 99% say yes you're being unreasonable. OP says no I'm not! Why bother posting then if you're not going to accept people's answers?

People not reading threads properly. OP asks a question e.g. Would it be ok to allow my 15 year old daughter to stay out until midnight on Saturday night? People respond with things like you are very irresponsible to allow your 9 year old daughter to play outside after dark on a school night. For fucks sake read the opening post before responding. It's not hard.

Every parking thread must have a diagram.

People who think they know more about other people's situation than they do. E.g. In the covid threads there were Brits telling us Aussies and NZ'ers that our situation was dire despite many of them not ever having set foot here and us telling them we were completely fine but according to them they knew better.

Everyone seems to have the worst neighbours in the world. Most of the time it turns out to be a minor issue that could be solved with a quick friendly chat.

"OP get to a solicitor now for a free 30 minute appointment so you can get your ducks in a row". Is that even a thing in the Uk? Solicitor's must be very busy with a fuckload of mumsnetters and their free 30 min appointments.

Hahaha this is too true! Posters seem so highly-strung on here.

Another one is fugly clothing. People are obsessed with brands like Bodens that sell some of the ugliest clothing I've ever seen. And don't get me started on the jesus creepers, no amount of comfort would make me wear those monstrosities on my feet!

Don't think to mention that the ops dp is 'controlling' because they told the op not to fellate the neighbours or whatever.