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Would you be happy with 2 kids?

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imsoscared2022 · 01/06/2022 13:25

Would you be happy with just 2 kids? Say you had 2 girls or 2 boys would you try again for the opposite?

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MarmaladeToastAndAMarmaladeCat · 01/06/2022 16:39

I have 3. I just wanted 3 regardless of the sex. My first 2 are boys. It annoys me how often people think I had a third to get a girl. As it happens my third was a girl, she’s currently 5 weeks old and is wonderful but I’d have been just as happy with another boy.

MsTSwift · 01/06/2022 16:47

Twos perfect. One of three myself always felt there were too many of us as most other families were two. Same sex they get on happy days.

Now they teens they are basically adults. As a family we love travel / eating out / theatre together etc we can experience more as a family with just the four of us. Plus couldn’t face doing the whole pregnancy baby small child thing a third time - twice was enough!

PanettoneMoly · 01/06/2022 16:51

We didn’t think we were going to be able to have any so I’m thrilled with one, and would have been equally thrilled to be a boy-mum as I am a girl-mum.

PicturesOfLily · 01/06/2022 17:58

I have two girls and we’re done. I would have liked a boy first but once we had one girl, I really wanted a second girl. A small part of me would like a third baby for those newborn cuddles but financially and emotionally, two is the right number for us.

LoveActually89 · 01/06/2022 18:08

I have two of the same sex. We're extremely happy. Never ever wanted to try for the opposite sex to be honest.

onelittlefrog · 01/06/2022 18:12

RedWingBoots · 01/06/2022 13:32

Happy with one.

Children's characters are individual so I don't know what people expect boys or girls to be like unless they totally believe every child is a stereotype of their sex.

Yes! I find it very odd that people 'try again for a girl/ boy' as if they think they're missing something by only having children of one sex. All children are different regardless of their sex.

It's a really close-minded view.

AnotherEmma · 01/06/2022 18:14

Slightly weird question. Saying "just" two kids implies that people would want more. Two kids is a lot for people who want one or none at all!

I always wanted two children and no more. That's what I have. Not quite sure I'm happy as they're bloody hard work (still young)! But hopefully it should get easier. I am completely certain my family is complete!

I have one of each (boy and girl) but if I'd had two of the same I would not have been tempted to have a third, absolutely no way.

PalmLady · 01/06/2022 18:16

I have one of each. I wanted two - one of each - but if I'd had two boys I would have tried for a daughter. If I had two girls I would have been complete. Four would have been my limit.
Obviously I'm just happy to have healthy children and would have loved any sons the same amount as a daughter. But that wouldn't stop the deep feeling of wanting a daughter.
I love having one of each and they are so incredibly different. Although equally I think it would be nice to have two of the same with more shared interests. My two get along great but have few shared interests.

SchoolThing · 01/06/2022 18:17

It’s such an individual thing, isn’t it?

I wasn’t even sure about having one but the moment they were born I was sure I wanted another.And when that child was born I knew that two was right for us. Nothing to do with gender though, I mean they’re all just babies when they’re born and as you get to know them you love them more each day for who they are not what they look like/gender etc

Strokethefurrywall · 01/06/2022 18:18

I have 2 boys and wanted another baby regardless of sex, because I'm one of 3 siblings and loved it growing up.

But we stuck with 2 and I'm happy we did! I would never have continued to have babies just to get one of the opposite sex.

That being said, I do think wistfully about a mythical 3rd son...

cptartapp · 01/06/2022 18:23

Two were enough for us. Now 17 and 19, and what time has taught us is that for us, two of the same gender has been absolutely the best outcome.

Thethingswedoforlove · 01/06/2022 18:29

I feel that I got lucky having two of the same sex. I don’t get it re wanting one of each. I’m perfectly happy and they have a v close bond atm. Who knows what will follow in the future. I wanted two dc. I have two dc. I’m happy!

Ohhelpicantthinkofaname · 01/06/2022 18:31

il happy with my two girls. Never felt the need to keep trying to have a boy. Not that I wouldn’t have been happy if one of them was a boy. But I’m equally happy with two girls.

my friend went for a third hoping to have a girl after two boys. She had boy number 3 and to this day is still a little bitter about it. I wouldn’t advise trying if you’re dead set on one or the other. Chances are if you have two of one sec the third will be the same.

Whitewolf2 · 01/06/2022 18:31

2 girls here and not going for a third. There is sometimes an internal feeling that you’ll bond more with a child of the same gender, my husband imagined having a boy but we’re not going to try, in reality gender isn’t the thing that bonds you, he has lots in common with our oldest. Our dds are amazing and so close, we have a great family unit.

BiscuitLover3678 · 01/06/2022 18:33

I’ve always wanted 3 not bothered sex wise. They’ll be different personalities anyway. In fact two of same sex are more likely to be very different from each other as they want to be individuals. So it really doesn’t matter.

Babykoala1 · 01/06/2022 18:36

I have a boy and a girl. My daughter is a complete tomboy, she will not associate herself with anything typically 'girly' at all. I think it's silly to have another child in the hope for a certain sex. If you want more children then fine but not if you are only doing it hoping the baby will be a certain sex. I'm very happy with my lot, had I had two of the same sex I'd still not have wanted more. I can (just about) devote my time to both my children and meet all of their emotional needs but going from one to two felt like a massive jump for me, I don't think I was fully prepared for the strain having another. I look back now and think how easy it was having just one child. Obviously I wouldn't change things now but if you are in a position where you have just one I would think carefully about having another, it really does change the dynamic.

HardbackWriter · 01/06/2022 18:37

I am not just happy but ecstatic to have my two boys. We had a pretty hard time having DS1 so I still feel very grateful to have not just one but two children - at the same time I'm very certain I'm done! I know I wouldn't be a good parent to three children, and while DS2 leaving babyhood has some sadness for me on the whole I feel pleased that that stage of my life is done. I would have been just as happy with two girls, or one of each - I've never felt any preference over sex and find it hard to understand why people do.

Randomuser9876 · 01/06/2022 19:26

I have 2 dds and thrilled!

Don't want a third but if I did would prob have a preference for a girl as think they'd fit in better.

All kids are different, my 2 are v different characters even though same sex.

pointythings · 01/06/2022 19:28

I have two DDs and am perfectly happy, never felt the slightest need to 'try for a boy'.

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imsoscared2022 · 02/06/2022 04:29

I have 2 dds too and I'm proud. I thought I'd have more children but 2 are a handful and I've never really thought about having a boy. Not that I'd be upset about having a boy/not having a boy. It's just coming to the realisation that for me 2 are enough. It doesn't make me a failure. I met someone who said 'ohh you've only got two...are you going to try for more? I've got four and it's the best thing we've done'. I can't/have decided not to try for more children as I get hypermesis (extreme all day sickness) in pregnancy and can't cope. I'm not a failure. I've done my best.

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MsTSwift · 02/06/2022 07:27

There was a study a while ago that concluded that the happiest family group were having two Dds. I can attest to that. The unhappiest? Four girls.

SatinHeart · 02/06/2022 07:36

AmbushedByCake · 01/06/2022 16:09

I was a great parent with just one child.
I'm a decent parent to two children.
I don't think I would do a good job at parenting any of them if I had three.

That's my thinking too. DH really wants a third but I just feel like I'd be spread too thinly. Happy to stop at two (both same sex).

Passanotherjaffacake · 02/06/2022 07:47

Incredibly fortunate to be expecting a second and very excited to welcome him soon. This one is a DS (if all goes well) and the first was a DD. Both IVF.

I have room in my heart for a third of either sex (and some spare embryos) but we are probably a bit too old and money would be too tight and this pregnancy has been fairly drama for various reasons and another one would be likely the same. I’m not sure how long I will be a little bit sad for.

MsTSwift · 02/06/2022 07:51

Also we didn’t want to push our luck. Two healthy dds and I was relatively unscathed by pregnancy at the time of contemplating a third a family member and work colleague both had awful things happen to their babies. Didn’t want to roll that dice again.

MyBrilliantFriend · 02/06/2022 08:04

I am very, very happy with my 2 dc. It’s the perfect number imo.