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Would you be happy with 2 kids?

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imsoscared2022 · 01/06/2022 13:25

Would you be happy with just 2 kids? Say you had 2 girls or 2 boys would you try again for the opposite?

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Abouttimemum · 01/06/2022 13:37

I’m happy with 1 thank you!

maythe4thbewithme · 01/06/2022 13:38

Hugasauras · 01/06/2022 13:33

I'm not sure why there's this narrative that everyone wants at least one of each sex anyway? I was over the moon we were having a second girl! It was just what I'd hoped.

I don't get it either

My twins are boy/girl and everyone commented how I had hit the jackpot - I absolutely had but not because I was having one of each

Whilst some of the best sibling relationships I know are brother/sister I'd like my boy to have a brother relationship too

Luxembourgmama · 01/06/2022 13:38

I have 2 girls which us enough. If i had a third i'd also only want a girl.

BlackandBlueBird · 01/06/2022 13:38

We had a girl and a boy. Then we had our third. We had 3 because we wanted 3. But so many people asked me if the third was an accident because I already had one of each!

To be honest I think there are quite a lot of benefits to having 2 of the same sex other than being able to pass down all the clothes 🙂. Just in my experience of my own family growing up and now my kids, and looking at all my friends' kids, same sex siblings seem to argue a bit less and play a bit better together, at least once they get to school age. (This is of course a gross generalisation and I know lots of people will jump in and tell me how their experience is the opposite!)

InvincibleInvisibility · 01/06/2022 13:39

Im very happy with 2 boys. Never wished I had a girl and never tempted to try for a 3rd to get a girl.

Noonado · 01/06/2022 13:39

my brain moved on before my body caught up

^^ This is such a great description of how I felt during my brief period of broodiness for a 3rd. My head knew we couldn’t manage it financially (or probably emotionally) but my heart and my late-30s ovaries ached for one more baby. It didn’t last long.

I do have one of each, but honestly would’ve been just as happy with DD being another boy. I was convinced she was until the 20 week scan!

CoralBells · 01/06/2022 13:44

I wanted 2 and had 2 girls. Didn't want to try for a boy and wouldn't have tried for a girl if I'd had 2 boys. I just enjoy the ones I do have

ChickenBurgers · 01/06/2022 13:49

We have 3, all boys. Didn’t plan to have a third at all, a moment of naive thinking “one time will be alright” lead to him haha. I absolutely will not keep trying until I have a girl though, seen way too many massive families with all girls/boys and wouldn’t wanna be pregnant again in all honesty.

BanditBluey · 01/06/2022 13:49

2 boys here, everyone asks if I'll try for a girl, the answer is NOPE. My 2 boys are enough for me. I think a family of 4 (2 kids 2 parents) is equal and perfect, we fit easily in the car, not outnumbered by kids etc

bringonsummer2022 · 01/06/2022 13:50

I have two same sex and it's perfect for me.

starsparkle08 · 01/06/2022 13:56

I would love 2 . However I have a son age 10 soon to be 11 who has severe additional needs autism adhd . He targets other children so it would be irresponsible for me to have another. I’m also a single parent so I’m saying this if I were to be in a relationship.

romany4 · 01/06/2022 13:59

I have 2 boys. Now adults.
very happy with just the 2. DH had the snip when ds2 was 6 weeks old to make sure number 3 didn't happen!

Cosywosy · 01/06/2022 14:02

I have two girls. Don't wish I had one of each but wonder what it would be like to have a son. Not having anymore though.

Hallyup89 · 01/06/2022 14:05

I had two girls.

Tried for a third. Girl.
Tried for a fourth. Girl.
Tried for a fifth. Girl.

Yeah, I'm done. Fortunately I was never desperate for a boy.

DaisyWaldron · 01/06/2022 14:07

I have two, and don't want any more. I knew that two was the right number for me before I knew the sex of my second child. Having said that, a third child is logistically easier in terms of room-sharing if you already have two of the same sex, unless they are very close together in age.

kikisparks · 01/06/2022 14:07

What @Bbq1 said.

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 01/06/2022 14:09

I had one of each but would've gone for a third, if DH had been up for it. Now they're older I'm glad we stopped at two though. The dynamic between them is lovely, whereas if we'd had three I think one of them would always be left out.

HaveringWavering · 01/06/2022 14:10

“Just” 2 kids is a really odd way to put it. Makes it sound like 3 or more is the norm, which it most definitely is not.

Every time I hear of someone I know having a third it takes me by surprise because I find it so hard to identify with wanting more than two.

mrssunshinexxx · 01/06/2022 14:13

I have 2 girls, would love one more not bothered about boy or girl just hope for a healthy child

Caterina99 · 01/06/2022 14:15

I have a boy and a girl. Knew we wanted 2 kids and no more though, no matter what sex

So yes I would’ve been happy with 2 boys or 2 girls only

Zpoa · 01/06/2022 14:25

No I wouldn't. But someone I know did. They now have 7 of the same sex.

notacooldad · 01/06/2022 14:26

2 adult sons.
I'm happy with that!!!

Scarecrowrowboat · 01/06/2022 14:28

I always wanted a big family but after having two boys I'm totally done.

Smallorangecat · 01/06/2022 14:29

2 is definitely enough for me. They are both girls, but I genuinely had no preference for girls or boys

ChagSameachDoreen · 01/06/2022 14:31

Two is perfect for me.

Not bothered if girls or boys.