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Would you be happy with 2 kids?

159 replies

imsoscared2022 · 01/06/2022 13:25

Would you be happy with just 2 kids? Say you had 2 girls or 2 boys would you try again for the opposite?

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DorotheaHomeAlone · 01/06/2022 15:32

I had one girl and one boy but still wanted a third child. Did not care about sex of child.

This☝️

Having kids hoping for one sex or the other is a fool’s game.

Blackmagicqueen · 01/06/2022 15:37

I’m over the moon with my 2 beautiful same sex children. I don’t want a third and looking forward to watching them grow! You have to want a baby not a baby for a different sex.

TimeTravelSickness · 01/06/2022 15:38

We have two, a boy and a girl. We almost stuck at 1, so regardless of sex, there would have been no more.

We didn’t care about the sex of either of them, although my then 5 year old wanted a brother when I was pregnant with his sister. They’re teenagers now and have always had a lovely relationship with each other.

I think those that have a desire for a certain sex are often thinking about stereotypical boys and girls. My partner was the very disappointing third boy for my MIL. He was told often that he was meant to be a girl, of all the things she wanted to do with her girl and what her name would have been amongst other damaging shit. . 🙄

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 01/06/2022 15:40

We had one of each. Before we had any children we thought we'd like to have four. Still thought that after having one, as she was so wonderful. However, as she moved into her toddler years, which were challenging to say the least, and I found myself pregnant again unexpectedly quickly, I began to re-think, very fast. Once we had two children fairly close in age, I found I had no urge to have any more, not least because I was absolutely knackered. Two children - manageable, if hard work. A mother of three, who was even more knackered and frazzled than I was, said to me once 'You have two hands, two knees, two ears, two eyes - having a third child throws a spanner in the works'. I thought she had a point. I also thought I'd had one very straightforward pregnancy, complicated birth, challenging toddler, followed by a complicated pregnancy, induced birth and another challenging toddler, but fortunately both children were healthy and so was I (and so was my husband). What if we had a third child who wasn't healthy? Was that fair on the first two? And what about the cost? So we decided to stop at two and have never had a moment's regret about that. I don't think it would have been any different if they'd both been the same sex.

smileyworld · 01/06/2022 15:41

DorotheaHomeAlone · 01/06/2022 15:32

I had one girl and one boy but still wanted a third child. Did not care about sex of child.

This☝️

Having kids hoping for one sex or the other is a fool’s game.

Yup.

I have DS, DD, DS and DS. When I was pregnant with #4, so many people said they were sorry when we said we were having another DS. Which is just bloody rude.

Even though I had DS1 and DD, I desperately wanted a third. It was like an ache inside of me, and we discussed it for over a year. I guess some people have it and some don't. Different for everyone.

LadyApplejack · 01/06/2022 15:44

We have one of each and feel done
now. I think if we'd had two the same sex we'd have had one last roll of the dice, but still been happy if the outcome was 3 of the same sex.

Indoctro · 01/06/2022 15:49

I have 2 boys

I would of liked a girl but boys it what was meant to be for me

I also would of liked 3 but I'm very against large family's for environmental reasons. I think 2 kids it's enough. No one needs more.

Arsewangry · 01/06/2022 15:51

I have two boys and will definitely 10000000000% not be 'trying for a girl'. I love being a boy mum!

Investicat · 01/06/2022 15:52

We were happy with 2 - same sex as well which made things easier. A lot of family stuff is marketed at 2 adults 2 kids. Also I didn’t want the nappy stage and in particular the childcare stage to go on for ever.

Emotionally and in terms of spending time with each child it worked best for us.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 01/06/2022 15:54

I'm more than happy with one child. I didn't care about the sex. I had a boy, I've got no desire for another child, whether it be girl or boy.

MiseryWIthAStent · 01/06/2022 15:56

I have a girl and a boy but I would love another.

PaintingClocks · 01/06/2022 15:59

2’s perfect for me, I have DD and am pregnant with DC2. We won’t find out the sex until they’re born but either way we won’t be having anymore children.

hoomaeyya · 01/06/2022 16:00

I've got 2 girls and wouldn't try for another one to try and have a boy.

I don't think I could manage having another child anyway as I feel like I'm about to drop dead with the two that I've got.

I also feel like I wouldn't know what to do if I had a boy! Too used to having my girls!

NortieTortie · 01/06/2022 16:00

I have 2 boys and I'd absolutely try for a third (girl or boy) if my health was up to it. Maybe in a year or so 😊

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/06/2022 16:02

Have 2 girls- my ideal combo. If I’d had 2 boys I wouldn’t have wanted a 3rd - The idea of 3 children is my idea of hell.

PrisonerofZeroCovid · 01/06/2022 16:09

No - didn't want more than "just" two and if DC2 had been a boy I'd have been happy with two boys, possibly partly as I wouldn't have known what having a daughter was like. But for me, limiting it to two children was more important than getting one of each sex. The majority of my friends where the older two are the same sex and who had a third got the same again anyway.

AmbushedByCake · 01/06/2022 16:09

I was a great parent with just one child.
I'm a decent parent to two children.
I don't think I would do a good job at parenting any of them if I had three.

PrisonerofZeroCovid · 01/06/2022 16:10

I don't think I would do a good job at parenting any of them if I had three

With three my inner monologue "ffs, what?" every time I hear "muuuuuuuuuuum?" when Ive literally just sat down would definitely become an outer monologue Grin

bbqhulahoop · 01/06/2022 16:10

2 girls. Super happy. I know a few mums with 2 boys who are desperate for girls. Wonder if it's related to preference

PatAndFrank · 01/06/2022 16:12

I have 2, I always wanted 6 .. the big xmas’s was my dream. I’m almost 50 so unless I meet Mr Right who has 4 kids ….

Mommabear20 · 01/06/2022 16:19

We said we were done at 2, and realistically 2 is more ideal for us, but I always wanted more than 2, couldn't justify it, so very happy (with a large mix of worry!) when I found out I was pregnant while using contraceptive implant!

WalkingOnSonshine · 01/06/2022 16:21

I want more than two.

I like the idea of three boys.

WhenDovesFly · 01/06/2022 16:25

I had to DDs and two was enough for me. There was no urge to have a boy to balance things. To be honest, if I'd had my second DD first I'd have probably stopped at one, because DD2 was really hard work!

Parky04 · 01/06/2022 16:26

We wanted two children and was very fortunate to have two. We have two boys and it never crossed our mind to have another so we could possibly have a girl.

Twizbe · 01/06/2022 16:29

We were very much 2 and through. I'd have liked 2 boys but we have a boy and girl.

As soon as I got pregnant with my second I knew that it would be my last, boy or girl.

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