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Would you be happy with 2 kids?

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imsoscared2022 · 01/06/2022 13:25

Would you be happy with just 2 kids? Say you had 2 girls or 2 boys would you try again for the opposite?

OP posts:
knittingaddict · 01/06/2022 14:34

Had two girls. Both husband and I were more than happy with that. Had agreed on three before we got married, but two seemed to complete the family, so we stopped there.

fossilsmorefossils · 01/06/2022 14:35

I can't have more but I'd love two of the same sex. I always feel that all my cousins and friends who have same sex siblings are much closer than me (female) and my brother.

Choopi · 01/06/2022 14:36

I did have a boy and girl but I would have stopped at 2 anyway. I know what I am able for 2 is the right amount for us, 3 was never even a consideration.

SleepingStandingUp · 01/06/2022 14:38

Have more if you want a big family but having one just to try and get the opposite sex is questionable to me. It's like saying the second wasn't right so you you had another go. And what if three is the wrong sex too?

RibNSaucyArseCrack · 01/06/2022 14:40

We’ve decided to stick with two. We have a boy and a girl.

SmallestInTheClass · 01/06/2022 14:41

I am. If we had tried for a third it wouldn’t have been to have one of the other sex.

Supersnot123 · 01/06/2022 14:46

I have one DD but I want at least one more. Not super fussed which sex tbh, there are pros and cons to both - it might be nice to have a boy just to experience both.
I hope to have more than 2 kids if DH will go for it!
If I got to choose I'd have girl, girl, twin boys!

Thebeastofsleep · 01/06/2022 14:47

I was happy with one. When I got pregnant with number 2 I wanted same sex. I wouldn't have had 3 due to their sexes. I think it's weird to distinguish kids by their sex. They are just individuals.

whoruntheworldgirls · 01/06/2022 14:49

I have a girl, would love another girl.

TheFairyCaravan · 01/06/2022 15:00

We’ve got 2 adult sons. We’re perfectly happy with that. I’ve never wanted a daughter and my sons are best mates as well as brothers.

I became disabled through pregnancy so couldn’t have had any more even if we’d wanted to. DH had the snip just after DS2 was born.

Isonthecase · 01/06/2022 15:05

We have two boys and another on the way. I can't tell you how relieved I was to find out the third was also a boy! I'm my experience mixed sex siblings is way more complicated than single sex, I could have coped with it with two but three would have been a lot to deal with on top of having to have 3 kids as well. That's a mix of good single sex schooling and weird family dynamics with the grandparents.

RandomUsernameHere · 01/06/2022 15:08

I think most people are happy with two, it's the most usual number after all. I wanted 3 for a while (got a girl and a boy) but so over that now and very happy with my lovely two. I think wanting one of a particular sex is the wrong reason to have more.

BadWolf2022 · 01/06/2022 15:10

Two is fine for me. I do actually have 5 boys but my youngest 3 passed away.

There's no grauntee you'll get the opposite sex so there's no point. Two is perfect anyway. Smile

Trinacham · 01/06/2022 15:11

Yes, I'd be happy with 2. I have 1 boy right now, hope to have another baby in the future. If it's a boy i'll be happy with 2, same as if I'd had 2 girls.

mistermagpie · 01/06/2022 15:15

We have three, two boys and then a girl. It's annoys me immensely the amount of people who make comments along the lines of 'oh you finally got your girl!' and who assume that we had the third child because I wanted a girl.

It's completely not true for one thing, but it also undermines my sons so much, like they were some sort of booby prize or something that I had to put up with until I was lucky enough to get to big win of having a girl. Ugh.

Anyway, rant over, to your question OP, I guess I sort of wouldn't have been happy with two children, because I obviously wanted a third, but if we hadn't been able to have the third then I would have still been happy with the two I had. I am very very lucky to have had the choice and I will never not be grateful.

SallyWD · 01/06/2022 15:18

I'd be happy. Two children of any sex would make a happy family (as would one child or more children!)

Chanel05 · 01/06/2022 15:18

I'm pregnant with my second and already know in my heart that two is my magic number.

I don't know the sex of baby 2 yet but I'm 100% happy if it's the same or opposite.

JennyWren87 · 01/06/2022 15:25

I have a boy and a girl. I would have wanted a third but am now happy with our decision to stop at two.

Perfect28 · 01/06/2022 15:26

You realise there would be a 50% of not getting the 'desired' sex right.

MrsMiddleMother · 01/06/2022 15:28

I'd be very happy. I am very happy with my 2 boys, I'm lucky as I've got 2 healthy kids but I also really wanted boys. In another life I'd have loved 3 boys

Workawayxx · 01/06/2022 15:28

2 is right for me in my current life. My 2 are opposite sex but I'd feel the same if they were the same sex. I'd consider having another if we had the space/funds and DP desperately wanted another.

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 01/06/2022 15:29

I have 2 DDs. I’m perfectly happy with the number of children. I don’t have the energy or the money for more.

Ballcactus · 01/06/2022 15:30

I have two and I’m done

RenegadeMatron · 01/06/2022 15:30

Bit of an odd question, OP.

Two kids is pretty much the most common number for families to have, regardless of sex, so clearly plenty of people are happy with 2 kids….

Furrbabymama87 · 01/06/2022 15:31

I've got 4 kids, 2 of each. I would have been happy with 2 if that's all I could have, but I wanted at least 3, then went on to have a fourth.

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