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If someone turned up at your house right now would you be happy to let them in?

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username35742147 · 29/05/2022 14:19

DHs friend has just turned up to the house to pick up DH. The house is an utter mess (we have two young DC, got back from holiday yesterday and I wasn't expecting anyone). His friend needed the toilet so he had to come in. DH then decides he needs the toilet so said to friend to go into living room. I was mortified but couldn't say anything. Aswell as being a mess DD is potty training and has recently split some milk onto the sofa so it definitely is not the nicest smelling room of the house. His poor friend didn't even take a seat then said it's ok I'll wait in the car. I feel so embarrassed DH thinks I'm overreacting and that friend also has young DC so his house will probably be the same.
I'm not so sure and wondered what others houses are really like. In particular if you have young DC if someone turned up right now would you be happy to let them in?

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Wobblyjob · 29/05/2022 14:22

Oh my house is a shit tip at the moment but yes! I’d stick the kettle on for a friend dropping by.

Violet1988 · 29/05/2022 14:27

Yes I would but that's because i do actually have people due to arrive in a minute so it's actually clean and tidy, so yes I would happily let an unannounced guest in at this precise second 🤣

Fossiltop · 29/05/2022 14:29

No but because I'm autistic, the house isn't particularly messy.

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mcplant · 29/05/2022 14:33

No. Our place is a mess and we're too tired to tidy it today. Busy week followed by a long day out yesterday and 2 overtired kids today

Imhavingmycakeandeatingit · 29/05/2022 14:35

I've given up, anyone can come in, I literally don't give a shit anymore

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username35742147 · 29/05/2022 14:35

Violet1988 · 29/05/2022 14:27

Yes I would but that's because i do actually have people due to arrive in a minute so it's actually clean and tidy, so yes I would happily let an unannounced guest in at this precise second 🤣

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I think I have asked the wrong question really. I am just asking if everyone else's houses are secret shit tips that only get properly tidied when expecting someone Blush

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isthenewsuff · 29/05/2022 14:36

Fuck no. House is a tip, I'm hungover, tired, and have aspergers.

A knock on the door is responded to by me diving to the floor and army crawling out of sight.

Imhavingmycakeandeatingit · 29/05/2022 14:36

💜 Shit tips forever 😎 💛

Sparklingbrook · 29/05/2022 14:38

All ok here but I am a strong believer that people should take as they find and they're coming to see the people in the house not the actual house.
When the DC got older there was a constant stream in and out for years so I found I didn't care too much in the end.

stuntbubbles · 29/05/2022 14:39

No, but because I have tonsillitis and hate people.

Tip-wise my house looks like the state high school in Riverdale, or that old “you’ve been burgled” yellow pages advert that goes “you don’t want to see what they’ve done to your bathroom!” But friends are welcome to brush crumbs aside and sit down.

DropYourSword · 29/05/2022 14:41

I mean, not right now as it's almost midnight where I live!
But my house is always presentable enough for any unexpected visitors because I like things tidy (and even if it was a shit tip, if that's how I liked it then anyone judging me for that wouldn't be close enough friends for them to be visiting me anyhow!)

Booksandwine80 · 29/05/2022 14:56

Friends absolutely. My mum? Fuck no 🤣

Oneforallforone · 29/05/2022 15:02

Yes but I am a bit obsessive about a clean and tidy house. I get stressed when it isn't so generally, it's always in a good state. I have a toddler so it is harder than it used to be but easier than if I had 2 or more children!

AgentProvocateur · 29/05/2022 15:05

Yes, because my friends like me because of who I am and don’t care what my house looks like. And vice versa.

SmugOldBag · 29/05/2022 15:08

It's 2am where I am so they are either being a CF or drunk (in which case they can fuck off) or some horror has befallen them. I suppose in the latter situation they'd have to come in despite all last nights dirty dishes and my pants drying on the radiator.

bloodywhitecat · 29/05/2022 15:11

There are toys strewn to the four corners of the wind, there are multigrain hoops across the dining room floor because they have escaped the Tuff Tray I put them in for the toddler to play with and both kids are having a meltdown a minute but I l would love, love, love an adult visitor right now as I haven't spoken to another adult in over 24 hours. So, yes, I would invite them in and ask them to excuse the mess.

Bytrgrewd · 29/05/2022 15:11

Depends who it is. Though parts of my house are tidier than usual due to having electrician round! 😆

SomePosters · 29/05/2022 15:11

Yes, because I keep my house tidy enough that I feel comfortable with it and don’t give a fuck what other people think

BeyondMyWits · 29/05/2022 15:14

House is a shit tip, but who cares. Its a happy hovel...

"Kids" are home from uni, DD19 watching Paddington 2 on telly with MIL(who has dementia), lots of giggles.

DD21 upstairs with a couple of mates, lots of chatting and music.

So we have 3 extras who we didn't plan for, plus the 2 Dds. The dog is in heaven, he loves visitors too.

Floydthebarber · 29/05/2022 15:18

Depends on the friend. But there is an odd smell today, I think something in the bin or something spilt into the bin. I'd change the bin bag, open a window wider and apologise for the mess and possible lingering smell.

hepaticanobilis · 29/05/2022 15:21

Not really, I would definitely need to tidy up if I was expecting guests.

I don't think most people care though. I usually feel a little relieved someone else's house isn't perfectly tidy as it's so easy to imagine I'm the only one who can't keep my home constantly in perfect order.

mast0650 · 29/05/2022 15:23

Yes. I don't have young children, but I've always been happy for a friend to just drop in for a cup of tea, even if the house is slightly messy. I might prefer to quickly check nobody has left anything unpleasant in the loo before someone else goes there, but that's all really.

2bazookas · 29/05/2022 15:23

Yes. Take us as you find us. If I was wearing muddy pyjamas in the afternoon and the floor covered in (some project) and DH asleep in bed, I would not offer any explanation excuse or apology.

apricotseason · 29/05/2022 15:24

The sitting room is hardly used and handy if anyone drops by. Also, I always keep the hallway and entrance perfect as that's the point people see the most.

However, I wouldn't be happy if someone dropped round. I work from home and have a busy life outside the home. A quick call or message beforehand would be preferred rather than the awkwardness of having to tell someone in person that we need to leave to be somewhere else imminently, or are busy.

PurrBox · 29/05/2022 15:28

Shit tip but I am shameless, don't care about the mess, and am always happy if someone wants to see me enough to drop in. (Doesn't happen often, unfortunately.)

I figure that if I am messy and dirty, either the person who visits doesn't care, or if they do notice, they get some sense of satisfaction out of feeling more together than I am.