If someone turned up at your house right now would you be happy to let them in?

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DHs friend has just turned up to the house to pick up DH. The house is an utter mess (we have two young DC, got back from holiday yesterday and I wasn't expecting anyone). His friend needed the toilet so he had to come in. DH then decides he needs the toilet so said to friend to go into living room. I was mortified but couldn't say anything. Aswell as being a mess DD is potty training and has recently split some milk onto the sofa so it definitely is not the nicest smelling room of the house. His poor friend didn't even take a seat then said it's ok I'll wait in the car. I feel so embarrassed DH thinks I'm overreacting and that friend also has young DC so his house will probably be the same.
I'm not so sure and wondered what others houses are really like. In particular if you have young DC if someone turned up right now would you be happy to let them in?

I'd let them in but apologise for the fact there are several pairs of shoes on the floor near the front door (there are two of us here, so no need for lots of shoes to be out) and the ironing board is out. A few things are not in the correct place, so there's a bit of the dreaded clutter, my pet hate. I'd make a sharp exist to quickly make sure the bathrooms are visitor friendly too, there were cleaned yesterday but there's a splash of toothpaste on one mirror and the towels are not neat, nor do they match. I cleaned the entire place yesterday, so it's not that bad, but could be better. The windows are dirty from which I'm a bit embarrassed about.

Honestly he likely waited outside as he saw your reaction , in my experience most blokes don’t really care, it’s more a female thing, so in this example your husband didn’t care and it’s probably neither did his mate.

our house is always tidy, I don’t like mess so I do it as I go, I couldn’t leave a full potty or spilled milk till it got to the stage it actually smelled, both would be cleaned quickly.

Yes. Our house is always tidy enough and and clean.

I mean if you rang the bell right now everything is hygienically clean such as bathrooms and kitchen sides. It’s generally tidy and clutter free. The living room has a giant brio train set, Wooden block and cars everywhere as Toddler is playing. So it’s fine for a friend to pop in and use the loo, have a tea without worrying about germs and can happily sit down

Yes, it'd be fine. The house is always ok, never embarrassing.

LOL. If that's the real question then the answer is definitely 'yes'! I would love my place to be as tidy and clean as it was pre-children, but there are too many other things on the 'to do' list for cleaning to make it to the top - unless someone is about to visit!

Sadly not. Thankfully after 10+ years of her behaviour I'm able to firmly say no and close the door.

Ditto, see also MIL.

My friends and family don't have to book in advance, why the hell would i need an appointment system for anyone to knock on the door.

Yes - no problem. In fact I'm expecting a friend shortly so some tidying has been done!

Yes, if they're friends they aren't coming to judge, if they judge they aren't friends and aren't worth worrying about.
House is semi tidy, small pile of clean washing on one couch, few pairs of shoes dumped about, couple of cups and plates in the sink. Not a shit tip but not a show home, lived in.

I would let my Mum or sister in. Nobody else because it looks like it’s been picked up and shook. The dog emptied the bin through the night and dragged all sorts onto the living room carpet so that stinks too, my mum would clean the carpet if she walked in. I might invite her round.

Depends who it is. I have friends that I'm happy to let in even when the house is at it's worst. I also have friends that I would if needed with an apology and explanation. And then there are some people that I really wouldn't want them to see.

Yes because it's always pretty clean and tidy. But I'm a sahm So everything is always done for the weekend. We have lots of kids so people are always in and out which makes me keep on top of things.
I'm fully aware that sounds a bit twattish though.....

And I would never judge if a mates house was messy.

Yep, house is always tidy, I'm a bit of a tidy freak, my daughter is pretty good at putting toys away and she's finished with them too

If the guest has wine or cake, yes

My house has always been company ready because that's how I need to live to be comfortable. My husband feels this way, too. Even when our kids were little, the house was always clean aside from their toys that were out, but we taught them to help tidy up at the end of the day so it was never a problem.

Yep, always happy to stuck the kettle on for a visit. You've got to take us as you find us. Disclaimer we have a constant stream of 15yr old boys in & out of the place so thats why the entrance smells a bit funky. Its all the shoes!

God no. I’m exhausted and currently eating shortbread quite happily alone on the sofa in my posh pyjamas.

I wouldn’t answer the door tbh 😬

I could let anyone in today (if we were there). But regardless what state the place is in I never worry about letting children or men see it - I don't think they care, and I also don't fear their judgement.

Yes, the last visitor I had unannounced (male) ignored my excuses that it had been a busy week and insisted I sit down while he made me a cup of tea. Then he emptied and refilled the dishwasher and wiped down my kitchen surfaces while we were chatting. I was a bit bemused but just rolled with it. He is a lovely, lovely guy - but unfortunately engaged to be married at the end of the year and there remains the unfortunate obstacle of DH's continued existence 😂!

No because I'm currently laying on the bed with a kegel machine doing it's thing up my hoo- ha ! ( vagina )

We've just reached the end of a 28 hour playdate with one of DD's friends, plus had two visitors yesterday and three today. I'm on my own for the first time since yesterday morning and I don't give a shit what state the place is in at this stage.

I would let a friend in because I would hope their house was a shit tip just like mine. Anyone else no - race track in front room, dog hairs everywhere and far too dusty! I'm a scuff of the highest order at the moment!!

Amazing how many people are proud or ok to live in a ship tip... ffs get a grip