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If someone turned up at your house right now would you be happy to let them in?

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username35742147 · 29/05/2022 14:19

DHs friend has just turned up to the house to pick up DH. The house is an utter mess (we have two young DC, got back from holiday yesterday and I wasn't expecting anyone). His friend needed the toilet so he had to come in. DH then decides he needs the toilet so said to friend to go into living room. I was mortified but couldn't say anything. Aswell as being a mess DD is potty training and has recently split some milk onto the sofa so it definitely is not the nicest smelling room of the house. His poor friend didn't even take a seat then said it's ok I'll wait in the car. I feel so embarrassed DH thinks I'm overreacting and that friend also has young DC so his house will probably be the same.
I'm not so sure and wondered what others houses are really like. In particular if you have young DC if someone turned up right now would you be happy to let them in?

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Arketaddictmum · 06/05/2023 09:39

I like my house to look nice so I've always prioritised making it presentable, even when the DCs were young.

Clean is another matter though - definitely not an obsessive cleaner like my sister (who's house looks and smells like The White Company).

Having said that I HATE unannounced visitors! I don't know how I changed so much, as in the early days of our relationship, people popped round all the time and we were fine with it.

YouNeverSeeTheRealMe · 06/05/2023 09:42

My son just turned up, 20 minutes ago, to use our shower! He's having work done in his house. I'm sitting here in my dressing gown (been up 2 hours, feel lazy), the house is clean and tidy, I've got washing on the line, and all's ok.

Proudofitbabe · 06/05/2023 11:30

No! I look a bin, in my pyjamas and no makeup watching the coronation.

House is usually presentable (downstairs!!) so fine on that front, but I wouldn't open the door if it was a tip.

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WandaWonder · 06/05/2023 11:32

People accept us how they find us like I do for others so yeah weird thinking

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 06/05/2023 11:53

Yes. The house is a tip, I'm a complete state, but I honestly don't care.

FourTeaFallOut · 06/05/2023 11:57

Yes, it's all clean, neat and tidy. I wouldn't want them to opening the cupboard of clutter doom under the stairs though.

usedtobeasizeten · 06/05/2023 11:57

Yes! House is tidy…

Fairydustandsparklylights · 06/05/2023 12:00

Yes, of course it would be fine for someone to arrive unannounced. How messy are peoples houses?? We have young dc so there may be toys everywhere depending on the time of day… but it’s toys, not mess as such.

Fedupandtiredmum · 06/05/2023 12:04

I would let my friends or family in at any time day or night if they needed or wanted to be here. I would like to think of my home as a safe haven for my loved ones. They are there to see you, not the state of the home

fussychica · 06/05/2023 12:39

Yes the house is usually pretty clean and tidy but there's just the two of us so it's not difficult to keep it that way.
These days we don't have many people dropping in but when we lived abroad it was open house.

Wallawallakoala · 06/05/2023 13:07

I was literally hiding under the window on my landing because someone dropped by unannounced the other day! DC napping and I’d just been sorting washing out. We only
have room to dry in the kitchen/diner so there’s ALWAYS washing out and the clean and dry stuff in the living room ready to be folded. Having a 4yo and 18 month old and trying to keep the house straight at ours is like putting on a blender without the lid.

FinallyHere · 06/05/2023 19:48

Downstairs always presentable, except possibly when DH is cooking up a storm or during the aftermath.

Curiously, it's DH's ensuite and his side of our bedroom that are messy upstairs, too.

I'm one of those extravert oddities on MN who usually welcome unexpected visitors but who just don't answer the door if it's not convenient. I do, on the whole, like having visitors, expected or unexpected. Not that we have had expected visitors without notice more than once or twice in my sixty years of life.

It really is that simple.

Sudokufail · 06/05/2023 19:56

🤣🤣🤣
I think I have asked the wrong question really. I am just asking if everyone else's houses are secret shit tips that only get properly tidied when expecting someone

Ahaaa! I'm very relieved to hear that this isn't only me, then :) Everyone else's house always looks super-tidy to me, whereas mine is always a mess!

Oblomov23 · 07/05/2023 08:41

Yes. Always. Our house is always ok, it may be lived in, racks of washing drying, but it's always ok. I'd never be ashamed.

I struggle to understand why anyone would live in such a mess. People on mn always post about it, living in a mess, but I struggle to grasp it. You could clean and tidy over the space of a couple of weeks if you chose. It may not be perfect, but it would be better.

There was a thread a couple of weeks ago about a woman having a dirty car and loads of people posted that they did too, but I just don't understand why you don't collect together your rubbish and your McDonald's milkshake cartons once a week, or regularly clear out some of the shit so that your car is semi presentable.I find people odd.

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