If someone turned up at your house right now would you be happy to let them in?

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DHs friend has just turned up to the house to pick up DH. The house is an utter mess (we have two young DC, got back from holiday yesterday and I wasn't expecting anyone). His friend needed the toilet so he had to come in. DH then decides he needs the toilet so said to friend to go into living room. I was mortified but couldn't say anything. Aswell as being a mess DD is potty training and has recently split some milk onto the sofa so it definitely is not the nicest smelling room of the house. His poor friend didn't even take a seat then said it's ok I'll wait in the car. I feel so embarrassed DH thinks I'm overreacting and that friend also has young DC so his house will probably be the same.
I'm not so sure and wondered what others houses are really like. In particular if you have young DC if someone turned up right now would you be happy to let them in?

Yea. House is always tidy. I get anxious if it is messy.

Yes. I do not understand people who try to make others to think they live a showhome life. Houses are for living in, not fucking Instagram.
Luckily none of my family or friends are such nobbers.

Depends who it is😁couch is in the middle of the room and I've just finished painting a door. Can't see the table for other people's shite so for the MIL... errr nope!

Hell no, there's crap all over the place atm and I cba'd to tidy

I'm never happy without at least a little notice, because none of us are ever dressed.

I mean bra and knickers or tee and pants. That's standard every day, plus drawing gown if cold.

This is me. Take us as you find us.

Yes I'd happily let anyone in DOWNSTAIRS. I'm actually 3/4 way through a deep clean downstairs but I'd still feel ok.
Now UPSTAIRS is a whole other issue. It's disgusting up there. NOONE is climbing my stairs.

My friend says she goes around with the bleach every day, in the morning, in case her mother in law calls round unannounced 'trying to catch her out'. Apparently she hasn't yet. Madness!

Yes, if it’s someone I like. 😅

A couple of our friends have been over already today with their new dogs and the kids have been in and out with friends.

Don’t worry what people think, if they’re friends, they won’t care.

Well I don't want any visitors right now but it's my home and if it's a mess that's no one else's problem and I actually couldn't care less what they would think to be honest.

You're making a rod for your own back giving a crap. Honestly.

Think about how much headspace you give to other people's homes? It should be none, just like it probably is for others.

This morning possibly not except my very best friend who wouldn't notice as long as she could put the kettle on and find her special mug in the kitchen cupboard. We agreed about 30 years ago that we would ignore each others mess.

We have family and friends arriving later so everything has been tidied, cleaned and vacuumed now.

We are finally, finally past the toy-strewn floor stage. There is much in my house to be ashamed of repairs-and-decorating wise, but it’s not awful. Although sometimes rooms do fill up with stuff I ought to deal with. Fortunately, everyone who visits already knows when I am in some sort of transition (which is mostly) visits often enough to see progress, or rarely enough to be fobbed of with ‘I’m decorating etc etc etc. I wouldn’t judge anyone else, but I do try to keep things tidy, because it’s my preference. There’s a lot more dog hair than I’d like, mind.

I went to my friend's parents house to return something they had kindly lent us, was desperate for loo as pregnant and they obliged. There was a unflushed deposit in there and I initially thought that's gross but what the hell, they weren't expecting me and it might be their way of saving water and the planet 😌

Well only the people i’m comfortable with and who have seen my house from messy shitpit to shining and beautifully clean would drop in so yes!

I do feel for you, it’s embarrassing to feel like someone is not comfortable because the place is a mess. I do think you should tackle the milk spill though as surely that’s a priority for immediate cleaning since it stinks so much if it dries out?

Nope I've been really poorly all week and only just feel better today... if I had an hours notice I'd be fine tho!

Having a jubilee party next weekend tho so having a full deep clean this week!

I’d be fine with it. Our house is always “visitor ready” because I can’t take living with mess/clutter.

Yes but you have to ignore the mess, son has had an operation and us sleeping in the lounge, longe stuff moved to the conservatory as no space in the lounge, everything everywhere and trying to adjust to life post hospital. We would love to see you but no judging allowed!

My house is secretly a tip without guests and we don't have children. Every once in a while I get back on track using The Organised Mum Method (TOMM) but then DH suddenly starts working later and I end up stopping because it's not my job to keep the house tidy alone

My house is almost always tidy as I can't relax in a messy environment. I would not care if someone else's house was messy.

We'd a few friends round last night for the football so the living room and kitchen need a spruce up. If any friends or normal family members called they'd be more than welcome to come in for a cup of tea despite the mess.

When MIL banged the door to wake us up this morning at 9am this morning with three random women from the States (she claims they are distant relations but I suspect they are Facebook friends) and told us to make them breakfast and she'd be back in a few hours to take them sight seeing she was told to bog off.

Yes, and if they have a problem with the laundry piled up on the sofa waiting for folding, the mess in the kitchen from a day of cooking, or the dog hair everywhere (moulting) then they can either pitch in or piss off.

At some point those DC will grow up and move away, the house will be pretty tidy all the time and when you miss DC, the tidy house will be some small consolation.

Simples 😀

Yes I would let them in if someone turned up right now. It's not show room ready but the dishes & vacuuming has been done so it's not too bad. Obviously, if the Queen turned up then I'd be a bit stressed but it's OK for ordinary visitors like dm 😁

Are you joking? Bloody cheek of the woman!

We always keep our house very tidy. I don’t care if someone elses house is messy, but I couldn’t live in a messy house. We work and don’t want to spend the weekend just cleaning, so we always without fail tidy as we go. Washing also.