If someone turned up at your house right now would you be happy to let them in?

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DHs friend has just turned up to the house to pick up DH. The house is an utter mess (we have two young DC, got back from holiday yesterday and I wasn't expecting anyone). His friend needed the toilet so he had to come in. DH then decides he needs the toilet so said to friend to go into living room. I was mortified but couldn't say anything. Aswell as being a mess DD is potty training and has recently split some milk onto the sofa so it definitely is not the nicest smelling room of the house. His poor friend didn't even take a seat then said it's ok I'll wait in the car. I feel so embarrassed DH thinks I'm overreacting and that friend also has young DC so his house will probably be the same.
I'm not so sure and wondered what others houses are really like. In particular if you have young DC if someone turned up right now would you be happy to let them in?

Not into the lounge because dh and ds are watching the end of the Monaco GP and that Cannot Be Disturbed. I'd bundle someone quietly into the kitchen with me though. Dishwasher needs unloaded/reloaded but we're generally quite tidy unless you take your life in your hands and look in the teenager's rooms and I can usually be sure there's a seat and a clean mug.

Don't get not letting people in because you're not expecting them though.

They take as they find you if they’re arriving unannounced.

My house is far from immaculate, I'm very much take us as you find us, but I'd like to think anyone popping in would feel welcome. I'd be mortified if I'd managed to make someone feel so uncomfortable they chose to wait in the car, which I bet had nothing to do with the state of the house .

Not today, I've been really poorly the last few days plus its half term so DD has been at home constantly so the whole place has gone a bit feral!

MIL no bloody way! Anyone else yes but I'd like to get dressed first if that's ok 😝

I don't like having messy surroundings so it would be a rate day that I'd me uncomfortable letting someone in, in ga t I don't think it's ever happened. Spilt milk I'd deal with straight away as it'll just get worse. Zoflora is great for milk and vomit smells.

My house is generally always tidy , I can’t function in a mess .

I feel your pain, my house is frequently a pig sty. Yesterday afternoon one of my oldest friends ( a very tidy woman) was in bits after a row with her husband. I was on my way home from a family do so I said go and sit yourself in my garden and I'll be there in half an hour.
I would always tidy and clean before I had visitors but I knew my house had hardly been cleaned all week ( I work full time, have three teens and have been out / really busy every evening last week). I knew there was washing on the kitchen floor, dishes waiting to go into the dishwasher and the dining room table was covered in various revision books, Mail and various other clutter.
It was more important to be there for my mate yesterday but, in other circumstances, I would have been mortified.

Whhaaaattt???

I wouldn't be very happy because the cat litter tray needs changing and I'm well aware it smells, but we've been out all day and dinner is cooking and I need a sit down.

Otherwise the house is clean-ish, but there's piles of laundry on the sofa and everywhere needs a hoover. There's also a potty in the middle of the living room which I would push into a corner if I knew someone was coming over. And obvs there's toys all over the floor, we tidy up once DS is in bed.

So yeah. They could come in, but I'd be cringing.

Yes, it's pretty tidy.

DH took DS2 out so I could clean this morning, then after lunch I took both DC out to meet friends. We only got home at 5 and then the DC watched TV.

I’d be happy. The house is tidy, kitchen spotless, me and DH are just slobbing on the sofa with a cuppa. I even have a pear and freesia wax burning so it smells nice. BUT our child is grown, we’ve had dinner and cleared up and things would have been very different 15 years ago.

The door went unexpectedly about an hour ago and a feeling of absolute dread came over me. Wasn’t expecting anyone and the house is quite literally an absolute shit tip at the moment and I’m too tired from multiple wake ups with my 11 month old.

Thankfully it was an Amazon delivery my partner forgot he’d ordered.

Yes, house is usually pretty tidy. It has be as it's quite small and can get cluttered very easily. However, my kids are well past the potty training stage.

No, nothing I hate more than unexpected visitors. Luckily my dp is the same, we're very introverted.
However, please don't be embarrassed about your house!! Especially if they have kids too, they should totally understand.

To me, a bit of untidiness with children’s toys etc is nothing to be embarrassed about and neither is a potty.
If my house was filthy on the other hand I’d want to do something about it.

My house is always presentable. As a D.C.I lived in a tip and hated it.

The house? yes, me in my PJs? No

Don't worry about it. It happened to me when the kids were younger and DH was working all hours. It won't always be like this.

Yes, because if they are my friend or DHs friend I would hope there would be no judgement. I dont live in a show home so my view would be if anyone who knows me expects that then they dont know me well!!

This sends my anxiety spiralling into an out of control tizzz! I utterly hate it when this happens and it friggin always happens when the house it like a bomb site. I always want to be the off the cuff last min welcoming "come to mine for lunch" type of friend but I just get terrified that people will judge me, it's a great shame really as in my head it seems like it would be great to be carefree

Yes the only thing out of place is a bottle of water on a coaster on the side table that dd is drinking. I am though, wearing pyjamas and a dressing gown so might want to throw on some clothes before letting anybody in.

Yes. Relatively ok. Mind you, I do know a few people whose house always looks visitor ready. But I am more or less past caring if they were to get offended by mine.
The older you get, the more you realise that time will run out altogether at some point. And there are bigger things to be concerned about than a perfect house.

If you're expecting them, then it's nice to have a tidy room and a biscuit to offer to them.
If they're unexpected, then they must take you as they find you.

That's my ruling.

Two teens, 16 and 18. Friends round for dinner on Friday night - so tidied in advance of that, downstairs only. Upstairs a pit of untidiness and grubbiness but no one will see it. Prior to frantic 2 hour downstairs clean after work on Friday, dh and dd detritus was all over the place (they leave a trail behind them whatever little 'projects' they engage in) and the dog had left a trail of 'dog' behind him. Hoover, dusting, lots of scented candle action, bit of toilet bleaching and immaculately laid table, loads of alcohol and delicious food and I think I just about got away with it. Downstairs continues to be 'acceptable' to visitors for the rest of the weekend but will deteriorate daily until my next frantic clean, which normally only happens when guests are expected. My worst day ever? The day my parents turned up unexpectedly (and from another country) at my door to offer support and love following a burglary! Horrific. My Mother is an amazing woman who keeps her house in order AT ALL TIMES. I honestly don't know why I am a slattern.