‘I took in a Ukrainian refugee to live with my wife and me… then ran off with her’

[luniz]

Saw this on twitter and wanted to get thoughts. Don't know how in a tragic situation, some men still prioritise their horniness over everything. His poor wife!

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/18638671/ukraine-refugee-left-partner-love/amp/

(Sorry for linking to the sun)

There are no winners in them is situation especially as they have children so now the mother is single and the children have no father at home.

The father will ultimately end up single when the 10 day whirlwind holiday esque romance comes to an abrupt end.

The poor woman fleeing a war torn country is no doubt traumatised from her experience having to leave everything she knows behind which is being ripped to shreds. Can anyone blame her if she is in fight or flight mode and using her sexuality to gain some form of safety and security in the circumstances.

What an utter mess. No doubt replicated in some form or another throughout the country.

Can anyone blame her if she is in fight or flight mode and using her sexuality to gain some form of safety and security in the circumstances

Um, yes they can. She was already IN a place of safety- I dont see how running off with another woman's husband and breaking up a family who had given her refuge will place her in any more of a "safe" place than she was already. Quite the contrary in fact, she is heaping more stress on herself and others.

He is the major bellend in this scenario no doubt, but she is still acting like a horrible, selfish person too. Ive experienced plenty of trauma in my life and have diagnosed PTSD but I have never used that as an excuse to treat others like shit.

I think people are overplaying this traumatized narrative.
Like I said she won't always be this compliant snowflake.😂

confuzedd · Today 07:39

"Can anyone blame her if she is in fight or flight mode and using her sexuality to gain some form of safety and security in the circumstances."*

Yes, I can.

He's an absolute skanger anyway, the cut of him...hand face and neck tattoos, he's no prize for any woman. They must both be mad to touch him with a stick. Eugh.

I'll be very surprised if she doesn't trade up at some point.
He's pretty much bottom of the barrel as far as men in this country goes.
The women from that area of the world are usually quite ambitious, I think he's being played.
Although he left his girlfriend because she made his dinner.🤔😂

Immature user has now blamed the luckless partner for her and losers 'love story.'

Him: 'At home I realized we were finding excuses to touch and brush against each other, it was very flirtatious but nothing more than that happened at that stage,' he said.
'Although it was fairly innocent it was causing arguments.

Her. referring to his partner:
"She created this situation by constantly suggesting something was going on when it wasn’t. So this is her fault."

There you go Lorna, that's you told, all you had to do was put up with them flirting and touching each other in front of you and this wouldn't have happened!

I hope Lorna realizes she's better off without loser and his immature user.

I honestly can't believe the lack of empathy here. The guy is obviously a predator. Nobody would have run off with anyone if he hasn't overtly made his sexual interest clear and hit on her. Her life has literally been destroyed. Imagine losing your house, your friends & family murdered or limbs blown off, seeing people shot, losing everything and then a sexual predator fetishizing her as a sexy desperate eastern European immediately hitting on her. She has no power, no money, no friends, nothing and she's unbelievably vulnerable and in this huge ugly shitshow, one person offers grim comfort and she takes it.

I mean I have PTSD myself but my God that's no reason to say 'well I went through a bad time too, and didn't use it as an excuse' so I can feel judgy and superior to her. There's NO WAY I can imagine the horror of her life. And there's no way I'd stand in judgement and use the fact that I had a bad life to berate her for not handling her trauma in a neat clean way.

There's one disgusting human being here only, and it's the man.

Also without doubt he's done this before as to be the kind of person who sees an opportunity to bang a refugee who has just escaped from war is pretty much a ruined despicable loser already. The least we can do is not judge the poor woman and clearly the wife is better off without the idiot anyway. I continue to be embarrassed at the UKs exploitative strange homes for Ukraine policy and a right wing rag that would publish this kind of nasty tripe.

Calm down there petal. Her life destroyed? You don't know her story. It's not an actual film you know. She's been in Berlin for weeks, not fighting on the streets in Ukraine. Dramatic much?

She ran off with a nasty skanger and then told The Sun it was the wifes fault. She's a nasty skanger too. You fetishising her as a poor helpless victim is offensive, btw.

I think that they are hoping to secure a place on a reality TV show by coming across as badly as they can manage. Sadly, I doubt there is a market for him but I could see her on Love Island.

This is Jonty Campbell, Tory council candidate's take on it
“Here’s the thing with girls 22 or under, they smell massively different to a girl of 28. Girls aged 16 to, say 23, have this buttery, creamy, slightly sweet smell that is unbelievably magnetic.”
The tweet from @CmdrJonty was originally sent in reply to an account that had tweeted about a man leaving his partner for a 22-year-old Ukrainian refugee.
www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/tory-jonty-campbell-tweet-probe-b2085042.html

God that's nasty.

Jonty Campbell sounds unbelievably vile.

Jonty is a twatty

They are both trash. Why even sell the story at all?

Both out to make a quick buck humiliating the poor woman who opened her home to the Ukrainian and was with him for 10 years, and her DC, one of whom is at school. Bet there’s loads of gossip at the school gate.

The girl is now saying the (common law) wife drove them to it by being suspicious! After 10 days!

I don’t think he was the predator at all. She was, and will drop him like a stone when she gets a better offer.

No doubt there will be many more stories like this 😩

I can understand that in the aftermath of living through a traumatic event, the young woman may have felt the need to 'connect' in a way that wasn't tenable in a normal family set-up. But really having young, single women within a family home is probably a recipe for disaster in the first place.

Bloody hell

@Hrpuffnstuff1. She’s definitely going to get rid of him once she’s gotten her visa. I think she knows what she’s doing and I don’t even mean this as a critisism, good for her. She’s not going to want her new life in the UK to begin saddled to this bastard and his baggage.

@iex

Omg WTF is wrong with men of this world? Like honestly.

@iex

In addition to his vile comments regarding 16 year olds, the fact that he refers to women of 22 and 28 as "girls" is just reflective of the vile human being he is.

So to summarise.....

A no hoper takes in a Ukrainian refugee without going through the official channels.
No hoper runs off with Ukrainian refugee, despite having no job and unable to provide her a home etc.
No hopers parents, who also have questionable morals take them in.
No hoper realises that he needs some money so sells his story to a rag.
No hopers partner and children are left humiliated by the above.
No hopers Ukrainian woman will already be casting her eye around for a bigger prize.
No hoper will then try crawling back to his partner with a bunch of Aldi flowers and a bar of galaxy.

It's like a mad edition of Jeremy Vile.!!

Don't forget, her parents are disappointed in her (saw a headline)

@iex God, we will have to bring Graham the Genius on at some point at this rate.

Wow what a pair of disgusting humans.

Both equally to blame. I mean he's vile, but just because he showed her some attention doesn't mean she has to jump into bed with him.

I would say this about anyone doing similar by the way. Many people have traumatic experiences doesn't mean they have to sleep with married men (not saying he is blameless but she clearly has a lack of morals getting involved)

They’re both as bad as each other but he knew what he was doing when he chose her on Facebook.
I feel sorry for his girlfriend and hope she realises in time that she’s had a lucky escape. It’s a shame she’s now saddled with his name.