It is categorically not her fault.
She’s just escaped from a war zone. She’s experienced trauma that we can’t begin to imagine. You can’t blame her from grabbing on to any opportunity to ensure she remains secure and supported.
I can and do blame the twat that broke up his family because he can’t keep it in his pants. She was the first person that came up my arse. You can bet your bottom dollar he wouldn’t have been as keen to move a little elderly lady in.
How about they're BOTH dicks. You don't just get a free pass because you're fleeing a war zone. Your argument is akin to that of the rapist who sexually abused a boy in a Vienna swimming pool changing room, blaming his abhorrent actions on the trauma he'd suffered living in a war zone and subsequently fleeing it as a refugee.
Sofia and this bloke who's dumped his wife for her may end up happily ever after. And it may be the best thing that ever happened to both of them. They're not terrible people. But in the short-term they're responsible for being dicks.
My dad and aunt were refugees. My aunt had been raped more than once by enemy soldiers. My father had survived four years in a concentration camp. They lost ALL of their family to bombs and camps. Both were incredibly traumatised human beings who did not go on to destroy marriages or hinder the lives of others in 'the new country'. My aunt focused on educating herself and became a top economist for the science and engineering department of the World Bank. Sofia obviously has other plans. And may her life turn out well. But please, she's not some innocent here... trauma is no excuse for shitting on other people's lives. Everyone will get over it in time. But her desperation (and yes, she is desperate and has experienced the unimaginable) isn't a free pass to hand in her moral compass and just shit where she eats. You don't do that.