DCs have been told a nuclear attack is imminent

[RedChina]

By their 'D'F. I've name changed for obvious reasons.
Is it imminent? ExH thinks so. He hasn't told me but according to DS (6th form student) he has planned to send the DCs to the other side of the world !we are in the UK) to avoid the radiation fallout of a nuclear attack.
It came to light after I overheard a phone conversation/argument between DS & ex H.
I think there are many flaws in the exH plan, DS thinks his DF has gone mad.
Does anyone else know of others making nuclear war plans?

To clarify for the OP (Hope this is helpful OP!) if he's a narcissist as stated early on then he's not unwell / having a mental health episode.

Yes manipulative, par excellence, and will get odd ideas which will cling to no matter what anyone says - because he'll "know things other people don't understand".

Can you speak to your DS about a safety plan if dad gets all the documents and then suddenly announces they have to go when they're with him?

DS (18yo) has managed to get his UK passport from his dad's house. I now have it.

When we got divorced & the financial remedy order was put in place, I had to agree to it as ex H was threatening to file for bankruptcy. There are still things I have to tie up regarding this, things which need ex H agreement. Bearing this in mind, we (me & the children have to appear to be compliant with his demands). This has left us open to continuing financial abuse (the reason why I divorced him in the first place).

I can't get a solicitors appointment for another 3 weeks. But I have the passport. According to DS, the Australian passport for his younger brother will be sent to our home address. But DH has his UK passport.

The reason why ex H had the passports was because I wanted the DCs to be able to go on holiday. I can't afford to take them. Ex H is a very high earner but found a loophole regarding child maintenance - he pays £14 per week but earns over £120k per year.

Good news re the passport.

What's the point of continuing to agree to many of his demands if he's continuing to financially abuse you anyway? I'd think very hard about the continuing damage to the children done by "having to appear compliant" versus ANY financial gain you're awaiting.

But I know these situations can be very difficult.

Good luck @RedChina and it's great your elder son has his passport. Maybe he can support his siblings. It is really hard for children to defy even an abusive parent. Their love & loyalty are so ingrained, even when the parent is so obviously abusive. It must be painful to see this happening to your beloved DC.

But as they become adults, they will see what he's like and he'll reap the consequences of his behaviour.