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Any married women on here who don’t wear a wedding ring?

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Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:27

I’ve been married for many years. I got proposed to with an engagement ring which I wore, and when we got married we both exchanged rings. For years I wore both my engagement and wedding ring put but after a few years I stopped wearing my engagement ring because it got caught on things. Several years ago I took my wedding ring off and I can’t really remember why.
For probably the past two years I found that I really do not want to wear a wedding ring again and I don’t know why. Is this unusual? Are there other women who feel the same way? If so, what are your reasons for it wearing a wedding ring?
DH doesn’t wear his wedding because he says it no longer fits due to weight increase. Mine no longer fits due to the same reason, but although I could get it resized so that it fits I have no desire to do so

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Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:28

Man I wish I’d proof read before I hit “post”

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bert3400 · 09/05/2022 06:30

Yes, been married 8 years and have never worn a ring, neither has my husband. We didn't exchange rings when we got married. I don't like rings as I think my fingers are like sausages 😂

CatsOperatingInGangs · 09/05/2022 06:30

Me. I do a lot of exercise and got fed up of taking it on and off, and getting skin trapped in the rings when lifting weights so I just stopped.
DH doesn’t wear his either as it gives him a rash.

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CheshireDing · 09/05/2022 06:31

I don’t wear mine really, I put on weight, work from home etc what’s the point

MajesticElephant · 09/05/2022 06:31

Me! I lost mine in the first year or marriage and never bothered to replace it. DH doesn’t wear one either as he’s lost 3 stone since we got married so it just flies off and neither of us are bothered. I wear my engagement ring sometimes if I am ‘dressing up’ but like you don’t wear it day to day as it catches.

OneCup · 09/05/2022 06:31

We don't wear rings. Never liked them. Noone has ever cared!

JustATomCat · 09/05/2022 06:31

Nope - I proudly wear mines! It's up to you isn't it. Neither you and your husband wear one so no need to give it another minutes thought.

carefullycourageous · 09/05/2022 06:32

I don't wear one, it just wasn't something I felt like doing back then.

cookiemonster2468 · 09/05/2022 06:33

It doesn't matter if you are happy not wearing it. You don't stop being married because you're not wearing a ring, it's just a symbol.

You could look at the reasons people do wear wedding rings and decide if you care about them. I suppose the main two reasons are as a physical reminder to yourselves of your partner's constant love, and also as a symbol to the world that you are married - do you care about those things? If not it really doesn't matter - do you!

ehb102 · 09/05/2022 06:33

I stopped wearing my ring after I left it on the gym floor for the second time. Then I bent my finger back and it didn't quite go down.so it's a bit tight. I can do without a patriarchal symbol all the times let alone one I have to worry about losing. I loved my rings, but they are just things. My husband never wore his anyway. No one has ever commented.

franke · 09/05/2022 06:33

I don’t wear mine. It's not a badge of honour. It's nobody's business whether I'm married or not. I wear other jewellery. Dh wears his 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bentoforthehorde · 09/05/2022 06:37

I don't usually. Been married 6 years.
I don't have an official wedding ring. I'm a bugger for losing things so I have a few different cheap 'engagement' rings and 'wedding' rings. I take them off when I have a bath/sleep/garden etc and put them down somewhere or DC pick them up. It's usually my intention to wear them, I just forget. DH wears his.
I can't sleep with jewellery on, that seems to be the main problem, with 4dc and 2 cats a ring on the bedside table never seems to stay there and if it's knocked onto the floor etc I just forget it.
We have joked in the past about just permanent markering one on me.

Goatinthegarden · 09/05/2022 06:38

I rarely wear mine. I’m a primary teacher and was constantly taking it off and putting in my pocket for messy activities, constant hand washing etc. and became worried I’d lose it. Then came the pandemic and the constant sanitising….

DH wears his, but he has a very robust, plain band. I’m thinking I might get something similar, I just haven’t seen one I like yet.

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Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:45

I have fingers that actually look better with rings on them lol.
I wore, at least a wedding ring for the first 15 years of our marriage. During that time I felt weird without my wedding ring.

I dont know what it is now, but I really DON’T want to wear a ring on that finger. I’m not looking for validation and I really don’t know why I feel that way. I just wondered if anybody else feels the same way, and maybe their reasoning would resonate with me. I think perhaps I feel that my marital status is no one else’s business and…?

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gamerchick · 09/05/2022 06:46

I don't wear mine. It's too big and kept coming off. I could get it resized but haven't.

Traumdeuter · 09/05/2022 06:47

I don’t wear one; we never exchanged rings. Same reasons as most PP have said - between exercise, gardening, hand washing, baking and being prone to losing things, I decided against it. DH doesn’t wear any jewellery and didn’t like the feel of a ring.

It has occasionally been mentioned as unusual, mostly by colleagues or new friends.

Reallyreallyborednow · 09/05/2022 06:47

Nope. Never had one, don’t want one. Or an engagement ring.

i just don’t like rings, or jewellery in general.

i also don’t use mrs, didn’t change my name, and don’t give a crap whether people know I’m married. I don’t find it the badge of honour some people seem to be think it is.

emmy4 · 09/05/2022 06:47

I can't wear it for my job. I put it on if I remember. I'm not bothered either way, my husband has never had one.

ThatshallotBaby · 09/05/2022 06:48

I don’t. Married for 16 years. I’ll have to think about why. I have gone off jewellery in general but I’ve never really worn my wedding ring.

StoppinBy · 09/05/2022 06:50

I love mine but don't wear them because they give me allergic dermatitis (my hands spent a lot of time washing dishes in my old job and this triggered it but it's never completely gone away).

I do wear them on special occasions but it only takes a few days before the rash kicks in again.

Reastie · 09/05/2022 06:54

I never wear mine - I need to have it resized but I’m convinced if I do it’ll be some kind of trap and I’ll put on weight and need it resized again. Haven’t worn it for about 8 years and tbh prefer not wearing it - I have dermatitis and it always used to be a pita around the ring as it woujd trigger a reaction

MotherOfCrocodiles · 09/05/2022 06:55

No, it's uncomfortable and gets water under it when I wash hands. I also dislike the patriarchal element and didn't want one in the first place but DH really wanted them and wears his at all times which negates that argument a bit.

I used to put it on in the morning to go out. Then during covid I got used to not having to. Now I don't.

Paperyfish · 09/05/2022 06:58

I don’t wear mine, but my husband wears his. I have a messy job and would have to take it off multiple times a day. I’ve got used to not wearing it and now never bother even when not at work. Am still married though!

Chipperfish · 09/05/2022 07:00

We dont wear rings. DH is a musician and wouldnt wear jewelery on his hands, so we didnt bother getting him a ring. Im in a medical field with a lot of patient contact and although we are allowed a plain wedding band I dont particularly like the feeling of jewlery on my hands and it would just give me something to lose. We also dont use the same name. I have a lovely engagement ring though that I wear on special occasions.
The only issue its caused is a bit of confusion when emigrating and also in housebuying where one solicitor didnt realise we were married and so had been a bit confused by some of the paperwork - all easily cleared up with showing our marriage certificate when needed.

BreezeofGreen · 09/05/2022 07:03

I stopped wearing mine when I spent half my life digging the DC out of sandpits. Now it's too small for me. I have another ring I wear on that finger if we're going out somewhere posh, but the last time DH and I went out together was a few years ago. DH had a practical job for the first 10 years of our marriage so never wore his. I know where it is, don't know if he does!