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Any married women on here who don’t wear a wedding ring?

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Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:27

I’ve been married for many years. I got proposed to with an engagement ring which I wore, and when we got married we both exchanged rings. For years I wore both my engagement and wedding ring put but after a few years I stopped wearing my engagement ring because it got caught on things. Several years ago I took my wedding ring off and I can’t really remember why.
For probably the past two years I found that I really do not want to wear a wedding ring again and I don’t know why. Is this unusual? Are there other women who feel the same way? If so, what are your reasons for it wearing a wedding ring?
DH doesn’t wear his wedding because he says it no longer fits due to weight increase. Mine no longer fits due to the same reason, but although I could get it resized so that it fits I have no desire to do so

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ThomasinaGallico · 09/05/2022 08:37

I do wear mine to work and when out, but if I’m at home, at the gym or doing the weekly shop I leave them off. They’re slightly tight and I usually need some handcream to slide them on and off. Also the engagement ring has a bevelled shape which catches dirt on the inside and can dig in at the edges. I do still love how it looks though.

JustSoStory · 09/05/2022 08:37

I rarely wear mine. I remember my mother getting all in a froth when I was going out with old school friends, as though not wearing a ring meant I was liable to cheat. A close family member's wife always made sure he wore his - turns out the women at his workplace viewed it as a challenge and he'd shagged almost all of them, with his wedding ring firmly on.

Aethelthryth · 09/05/2022 08:40

Never had one. When we got married lots of men didn't wear a ring and I hated the way for women a ring marked one out as "taken". It felt like a proprietary mark. I also never wanted an engagement ring: I hate the competition that goes on about who has the biggest/sparkliest- feels like a competition for who has managed to sell herself for the highest price. This is perhaps all a bit over-scrupulous and puritanical; but I'm still glad not to have a wedding/engagement ring. I adore jewellery and have lots of lovely rings which I may or may not wear on that finger

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Parker231 · 09/05/2022 08:40

Reallyreallyborednow · 09/05/2022 06:47

Nope. Never had one, don’t want one. Or an engagement ring.

i just don’t like rings, or jewellery in general.

i also don’t use mrs, didn’t change my name, and don’t give a crap whether people know I’m married. I don’t find it the badge of honour some people seem to be think it is.

Same here - we’ve been married 26 years - two DC’s. Never wanted engagement or wedding rings although I have other rings. Haven’t changed my name.

Squidwitch · 09/05/2022 08:42

I wore mine for first year, but it gave me that horrible pink itchy skin, so just took it off and never bothered again. In 17 years only two people have said it's strange. I also double barreled my surname with his, as I'm the last of my line. I literally don't care if anyone has an opinion on either.

Dundonian · 09/05/2022 08:44

I only wear mine when I go out; never around the house. At the moment, though, I'm not wearing either ring as I've lost weight and they keep sliding off my finger! My husband wears his wedding ring round his neck as he doesn't like wearing it on his finger.

I certainly don't worry about not wearing them all the time. I'd worry about damaging them around the house and garden.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 09/05/2022 08:48

I loved wearing mine when we were first married. 7 years ago, we were going on a camping holiday in France and I knew it would be hot and my fingers would swell and I'd take it off and have to mind it for the duration of the holiday, so I left it at home, and I've just never bothered putting it back on. I'm not really a jewellery person anyway. DH wears his though.

CockingASnook · 09/05/2022 08:50

I never wear rings. I find them uncomfortable and impractical. And I dislike the suggestion of ‘ownership’.

Clevs · 09/05/2022 08:51

I stopped wearing my engagement ring when I lost the diamond out of it. Then I stopped wearing my wedding ring when I developed an allergy to it and it was causing eczema on my finger.

I work in healthcare and am patient facing so washing my hands a lot which I think contributed to it.

Zazdar · 09/05/2022 08:55

When we got married lots of men didn't wear a ring and I hated the way for women a ring marked one out as "taken".

In a way, I’m glad to wear my rings for this very reason. It’s a bit more subtle than wearing a sign around my neck saying “Don’t bother asking, I’m not interested.”

InconvenientPeg · 09/05/2022 08:56

Married 19years. I got pregnant on honeymoon and neither ring fitted after that. I had my engagement ring resized a couple of years ago when we had some spare cash and wear it all the time because I love it but never bothered to get wedding ring resized as it was cheap and plain and I'm not really bothered about wearing it. DH sometimes wears his and sometimes doesn't.

It isn't a big deal for either of us.

Blanketpolicy · 09/05/2022 09:00

Sometimes wear it sometime don't.

It is a sentimental piece of jewelry. Confident enough in myself not to be concerned about what it does or doesn't symbolise.

PumpkinCrumble · 09/05/2022 09:01

I actually love rings, always have! But my wedding ring is yellow gold and doesn’t really go with the look of silver stacking rings I’m wearing at the moment. I don’t any less married without my ring, I’m not sure I notice wedding/engagement rings though! Give me a cocktail ring every time !

Herejustforthisone · 09/05/2022 09:03

Parker231 · 09/05/2022 08:40

Same here - we’ve been married 26 years - two DC’s. Never wanted engagement or wedding rings although I have other rings. Haven’t changed my name.

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Same here. I’m Ms. Still have my own name and don’t wear any rings.

Some of my friends get very upset if their husbands don’t wear their rings out. It has never occurred to me to look at someone’s hands to see if they’re married, so I guess that’s why I don’t care.
I don’t like the idea of being ‘marked’ as owned by another.

Fluffycloudland77 · 09/05/2022 09:04

I took mine off at the start of the pandemic because I work in healthcare (never wore it to work anyway).

Id be upset if I lost it but I’ve got a strong happy marriage anyway. I know couples where the dw is very proud she’s never taken her ring off but you wouldn’t describe it as a happy marriage.

doingitforthegirls · 09/05/2022 09:05

I took mine off during lockdown and WFH so seemed to point to put them on - I guess they were more of a getting ready to go out ritual rather than things I'd wear around the house. Then I got pregnant with twins and haven't worn them since - they don't really fit anymore and yea I could get them resized but I can't really justify the expense at the moment especially as still WFH a lot

Reallyreallyborednow · 09/05/2022 09:05

*When we got married lots of men didn't wear a ring and I hated the way for women a ring marked one out as "taken".

In a way, I’m glad to wear my rings for this very reason*

or, it would be nice to be able to say you’re not interested, and be respected. Rather than needing a physical “mark” that you’re another man’s territory.

cleareyesfulhearts · 09/05/2022 09:14

Reallyreallyborednow · 09/05/2022 06:47

Nope. Never had one, don’t want one. Or an engagement ring.

i just don’t like rings, or jewellery in general.

i also don’t use mrs, didn’t change my name, and don’t give a crap whether people know I’m married. I don’t find it the badge of honour some people seem to be think it is.

Same here.

Am genuinely perplexed as to why someone would feel pride wearing a wedding ring.

Zazdar · 09/05/2022 09:14

or, it would be nice to be able to say you’re not interested, and be respected. Rather than needing a physical “mark” that you’re another man’s territory.

I used to, but ring is so much easier. Although not entirely effective.

In any case, in this day and age in the UK, I doubt anybody still really believes that I am any man’s chattel.

confusedlots · 09/05/2022 09:15

Me. I don't really wear jewellery unless I'm getting dressed up and going out somewhere. I did wear my rings when I first got engaged and married, probably because it was a novelty. I've started to wear them less and less, and now only really wear them if I'm going out for the evening (which is rare!) but I wear them as jewellery, not as a symbol that I'm taken.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 09/05/2022 09:15

I've been married for 31 years. About nine months after we married I had an allergic reaction to something and had a lot of swelling, lips, eyelids, fingers, ankles etc. The swelling started when I was asleep and the pain of my wedding and engagement rings digging in woke me up. I had to ice my hand to get the rings off and I never put them back on again. I'm not really a jewellery person and find rings quite annoying anyway. I kept them in my jewellery box and they were stolen when we were burgled about eight years ago.

ErrolTheDragon · 09/05/2022 09:17

I stopped wearing mine because it got a bit tight if my hands were hot, and dug in when I was pulling ropes when sailing.
I don't think anyone has ever noticed. DH never had a ring anyway so there's no reason for me to.

MustBeThursday · 09/05/2022 09:24

I don't wear mine anymore - 2 pregnancies and general weight gain mean they don't fit anymore. I stopped wearing them while pregnant with DC1 and haven't worn them at all since I was pregnant with DC2. Wore them again for a bit between DC1 and DC2.

HippyChickMama · 09/05/2022 09:27

Mine got too tight to get off due to weight gain and then I fell and injured my wrist around 5 years ago and they cut it off at A&E. Still haven't got round to getting it repaired. I occasionally wear my engagement and/or eternity rings but rarely as I wasn't allowed to wear rings with stones in my previous clinical roles so I'm not used to wearing them and it feels cumbersome

Sodthatforagameofsoldiers · 09/05/2022 09:31

I took mine off when pregnant with my first 7 years ago as my fingers were swollen and I've never put it back on. I liked wearing it before then so not sure what changed.

I've never given it that much thought but I use Ms because I don't think my marital status is anyone's business but mine, so maybe it is linked to that on some level.

DH wears his and feels weird without it, but then he also bought himself an engagement ring as he didn't want to miss out 😁