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Any married women on here who don’t wear a wedding ring?

139 replies

Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:27

I’ve been married for many years. I got proposed to with an engagement ring which I wore, and when we got married we both exchanged rings. For years I wore both my engagement and wedding ring put but after a few years I stopped wearing my engagement ring because it got caught on things. Several years ago I took my wedding ring off and I can’t really remember why.
For probably the past two years I found that I really do not want to wear a wedding ring again and I don’t know why. Is this unusual? Are there other women who feel the same way? If so, what are your reasons for it wearing a wedding ring?
DH doesn’t wear his wedding because he says it no longer fits due to weight increase. Mine no longer fits due to the same reason, but although I could get it resized so that it fits I have no desire to do so

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Mumwantingtogetitright · 09/05/2022 07:06

I have one, and am engagement ring, and I'm fond of them but have never worn either on a regular basis. No particular reason, I just don't want to. DH doesn't wear one either.

PrincessRamone · 09/05/2022 07:06

In my 30s I found it useful as a man-repellent. Now that I’m nearly 50 I don’t need it so much. DH and I still remember we are married, so no need for it for other reasons.

Reallyreallyborednow · 09/05/2022 07:11

In my 30s I found it useful as a man-repellent

funny isn’t it, if you tell a man you’re not interested, it makes no difference. If another man tells them to back off- even if not actually present, just by placing a ring on your finger, then they respect that.

probably why I don’t want to wear a ring. Men can listen to me when I tell them to fuck off. Me. Respect my wishes, if i don’t want you hassling me, stop. Backing off out of respect that I’m “claimed” by another man is just everything that is wrong with men.

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workworkworkugh · 09/05/2022 07:14

We don't wear ours either, we've been together for 21 years and married for 17.

We both used to, but DH works in a job where it's dangerous to wear one so he doesn't anymore and I stopped wearing mine in the last 5 years or so as I lift heavy weights at the gym and it would always rub and get in the way, so now I just don't bother.
We know we're married 😆

spidersenses · 09/05/2022 07:56

I don't wear mine either. I put on loads of weight through health reasons and my hands can also swell up a lot with water retention. The swelling in particular makes it uncomfortable to wear any rings.

veronicagoldberg · 09/05/2022 07:57

I only wear mine on special occasions.

Herejustforthisone · 09/05/2022 07:58

Neither me nor my husband exchanged rings. I didn’t feel the need for anymore jewellery and he didn’t want one. I also never wear my engagement ring.

GiltEdges · 09/05/2022 08:02

I don't wear mine; have some sensory issues around certain clothing/jewellery and rings are one of the things I just can't tolerate. DH wears his if we go out, or if he's actually going into the office for work which is rare, just because he likes to. I couldn't honestly care whether he did or didn't. Also don't really buy into the symbolism behind wedding/engagement rings.

WhereIsMyGlasses · 09/05/2022 08:02

I don't wear a wedding ring. I used to wear both my engagement and wedding ring but while breastfeeding I felt my engagement ring got in the way and came too close while fumbling about trying to latch so I took it off then. Its also gold (and old) and has had repairs as a couple of the claw parts broke so because I was in and out of water a lot too I felt it better to keep it off. Then during early lockdown when we were all scrubbing our hands too much I took my wedding ring off as under it wasn't getting properly dry so my skin was getting sore. I think because I've not worn it in over 2 years now it feels uncomfortable, and I don't wear any other rings. Dh doesn't wear his either, that's more work related as it could catch and be dangerous. He's worn his on and off over rhe years because of this. I don't think it matters.

2022babyhope · 09/05/2022 08:05

Sometimes I wear my wedding and engagement ring, other times I forget 😊 my husband doesn't wear his (bricklayer so not safe) and lost the rubber one we got him 😅

Just personal preference I think 😊

Thedogshouses · 09/05/2022 08:10

I don't for the same reason I didn't change my name. Marriage used to be the father transferring ownership to the husband. Now its more a legal formality and I do not need to wear a ring as a mark of being owned. Sod that.

Tayegete · 09/05/2022 08:10

Never had an engagement ring, we did buy cheap rings to exchange on the day, wore it and it’s two successors for a while but now don’t bother. DH does tend to wear his although forgets sometimes. I do sometimes wear DMs wedding and engagement ring though as it reminds me of her. Married for 16 years.

Roselilly36 · 09/05/2022 08:13

I wear mine, never taken it off, DH had never worn his, doesn’t wear any jewellery not even a watch. Never bothered me, we have been married 28 years.

ChessieFL · 09/05/2022 08:13

I haven’t worn mine for about 2 years now, but only because I’ve put too much weight on and they don’t fit! I’ll wear them again when I lose weight. Having said that, I’ve got used to not wearing them now so it might feel too weird when I do start wearing them again.

DH has never worn a wedding ring as he just doesn’t like them.

RollOnWinter · 09/05/2022 08:16

I've been married for 42 years (tomorrow, actually). I haven't worn a ring for 39 of those years. I put on weight (naturally) during my 2nd pregnancy, and I'm ashamed to say that I've been too fat ever since. Nobody's bothered that I don't wear a wedding ring.

Owwlie · 09/05/2022 08:16

I don’t wear mine. Took it off in pregnancy when my fingers got fat and I just didn’t put it back on again. I don’t know where it is actually. DH doesn’t wear his either, he can’t at work so he would be putting it on and taking it off all the time.

Ejk1990 · 09/05/2022 08:18

We both don't wear ours. Mine because I have dry hands and constantly moisturise. Husband doesn't fit in his and we haven't got around to replacing.

We both know we are married, so its not an issue

Thisisit2022 · 09/05/2022 08:18

I'm very single and I wear my Nan's engagement ring and a gold band that I love on my "wedding finger" because that's where they fit.

NoodletheSchnoodle · 09/05/2022 08:18

I'm exactly the same as you, excitedly wore an engagement ring, plus wedding ring (which was set with diamonds all the way round the band so fancier than most!)
The wedding band was always slightly uncomfortable though, and wouldn't fit on securely without the engagement ring holding it in place.
When DS was born I stopped wearing them as I scratched his face with the engagement ring (it was quite a high, square cut setting so sharp corner!) and have never worn the rings since. (DS is now 8)
I gained a lot of weight since the newborn days so neither fit comfortably now anyway but I have no interest in getting them resized. I can't explain why but feel no need to wear them.
Don't even think about it to be honest.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 09/05/2022 08:18

Dh and I dont wear ours. Together 19 years, married 11.

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 09/05/2022 08:19

I wore mine for a year, haven't worn it for the following 12. Dh took his off straight after the wedding. Neither of us is big on jewellery.

Favouritefruits · 09/05/2022 08:24

My rings really irritates me, I hardly ever wear my wedding or engagement ring. My husband doesn’t mind as he’d rather me be happy than have a ring on! I’ll wear it if we are going to one of his work events or a special occasion but I couldn’t stand to wear one everyday.

Thesearmsofmine · 09/05/2022 08:24

Nope. I don’t wear mine because rings annoy me and not wearing it doesn’t make me less married. I also kept my maiden name.

Discovereads · 09/05/2022 08:27

We wore ours for first twenty years, even though I hate rings. Mostly because I didn’t take my DHs surname and back then landlords wouldn’t rent to an unmarried couple where we were living. So it was visual proof we were not “living in sin”. Nowadays we don’t wear them because people are less judgey.

80sMum · 09/05/2022 08:36

I've been married for 44 years and no longer wear my wedding ring. I took it off about 10-15 years ago during a hot summer when my fingers were swelling and it felt uncomfortable. I've not worn it since and have no wish to.
I've not worn my engagement ring since the day before my wedding day.