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Any married women on here who don’t wear a wedding ring?

139 replies

Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:27

I’ve been married for many years. I got proposed to with an engagement ring which I wore, and when we got married we both exchanged rings. For years I wore both my engagement and wedding ring put but after a few years I stopped wearing my engagement ring because it got caught on things. Several years ago I took my wedding ring off and I can’t really remember why.
For probably the past two years I found that I really do not want to wear a wedding ring again and I don’t know why. Is this unusual? Are there other women who feel the same way? If so, what are your reasons for it wearing a wedding ring?
DH doesn’t wear his wedding because he says it no longer fits due to weight increase. Mine no longer fits due to the same reason, but although I could get it resized so that it fits I have no desire to do so

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KohlaParasaurus · 09/05/2022 09:31

DH and I didn't exchange rings when we married (second marriage for both of us) because neither of us wears jewellery, it's just not something it occurs to us to do most of the time and our jobs and some of the sports we do mean that it's better that we don't wear rings. We're still very married.

The registrar specified that we were not allowed to exchange items of sports or work equipment at the "rings" part the wedding ceremony.

impossible · 09/05/2022 10:09

We've been married 18 years and together for 32. Our marriage was for practical reasons and neither of us wear rings. We haven't wanted to, they don't look good on me - and I think, like you OP, there is an element of me feeling my status it's no-one else's business.

Because we were together for so long before we married, and we already had DCs, I continued to call my DH partner. I suppose people we've met since wouldn't know we're married.

JimMorrisonsleathertrousers · 09/05/2022 10:49

I stopped wearing mine for about 6 years - my fingers expanded during my last pregnancy and never went back to how they were, despite me losing about a stone since.

I eventually got them resized a few months ago and really enjoy wearing them again! But they had to resize them up 4 ring sizes! 😱

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BonjourCrisette · 09/05/2022 10:50

We don't have rings. I hate wearing them so it seemed pointless.

Bimster · 09/05/2022 10:54

I wear a ring some of the time but not in summer as I swim a lot and worry about losing it.

DH never wears a ring as he doesn't like them. When we were getting married, multiple people asked me whether I was ok with this and was I worried that not wearing a ring meant that he was going to be unfaithful! People are really bonkers.

Atl · 09/05/2022 10:59

In my 30s I found it useful as a man-repellent

Same. I still wear my engagement ring, on engagement finger, even after the marriage ended, in some situations. It's ridiculous and I should have a word with myself and stop doing it.

Donkeyinamanger · 09/05/2022 12:45

I wore mine for the first few years I was married, just because it was what I thought you were supposed to do. I then heard a hideous story about a friends son getting his finger degloved when his ring got caught, and that was the end of that. I spend a lot of time doing things where I would be likely to catch a ring and injure myself, and I don't want to risk it. I am also not keen on indicating to complete strangers that I am married. Everyone I care about knows already, and it is no one else's business.

ThorsBedazzler · 09/05/2022 12:54

I took mine off during lockdown 1 because my skin was getting irritated from the anti bac gel and hand washing.

Only occasionally wear them now. I still like them but my fingers aren't used to the rings so it can feel a bit tight when I put them on at first definitelydefinitely not weight gain or maybe just a smidge

ILoveAllRainbowsx · 09/05/2022 13:00

Me. I don't like wearing jewellery.

YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 09/05/2022 13:00

I initially wore mine and my engagement ring all the time. I had them resized when my fingers got fatter but the designs won’t allow a further resizing.
Then when I was a DN I stopped because constantly washing my hands was making my hands rough and they were uncomfortable.
I haven’t worn them now for probably 25 years!
I couldn’t get them over my swollen knuckles now, doesn’t bother me, DH would prefer I wore them but tough!

BemoreDerek · 09/05/2022 13:03

Neither of us wear a ring, I'll be honest we had to sell them years ago when times were tough and have never got round to replacing them Blush I don't want to start wearing one again but purely because rings and jewellery in general get on my nerves, not for any deeper reason.

Onthegrid · 09/05/2022 13:03

I haven’t worn my engagement or wedding ring for about 10 years, they do mean a lot to me but they have to be worn together to look good and I can no longer tolerate having 2 rings together on 1 finger.
i do still wear rings on each of my 2 ring fingers, they have to be simple thin bands, so could be a wedding ring but aren’t. I also have a really fancy ring which I love and can tolerate for a posh event but that is not practical for my day to day life.
DH never wears jewelry apart from a watch and although we did exchange rings I think he removed it after 5 years

KStockHERO · 09/05/2022 13:12

I've never had a wedding ring. Neither has DP.

The idea of wearing the same piece of jewelry every day for the rest of my life makes me feel really sad and a bit claustrophobic (for want of a better word).

seasaltstripes · 09/05/2022 13:22

Mine is a bit too small and I don't wear it anymore. I keep meaning to get it resized, but not enough to actually do it! It's a nice ring, so I might get round to it one day...

DH wears his wedding ring. I wouldn't care if he didn't though.

I remember my FIL noticing I wasn't wearing a wedding ring and asking if DH and I had had an argument!

IncompleteSenten · 09/05/2022 13:24

I don't wear mine because I hate wearing any jewellery.

My husband doesn't wear his because he lost it years ago.

I also have no idea where mine is but I wasn't wearing it anyway so I've never said anything. 😁

WombatNo12 · 09/05/2022 13:26

Gave up as it was getting bashed. Hands are wet othen & I weight lift.

Neurodivergent too, so it's a sensory issue as well, struggle with jewellery.

No problem.

MamaNewtNewt · 09/05/2022 13:26

I don't wear mine. Never been a fan of jewellery and when I put on weight my rings didn't fit anymore so I stopped wearing them and I can't say I mind. My husband still wears his.

JesusSufferingFuck22 · 09/05/2022 13:28

I wear mine now because it fits. I like wearing it and I fiddle with it all the time. It's been too loose or too tight. DH is the same but just now his is too loose. We could get them resized but it's not that important to spend money on. Our sizes and shapes may change again anyway.

gwanwyn · 09/05/2022 13:33

I wore them uneasily for years - always very aware they were there. Then lost wedding ring- alowed toddler to play with taken off rings then later broke the engagment ring - it was cheap and not dimond and couldn't seem to stop fiddling with rings.

I was given a cocktail family ring better quality but same fate - was given it as family picked up how off hospital staff were with us when DH was in for a while - constantly asking if we were actaully married and I was actually his wife. Family put it down to DH wearing his wedding ring and me not.

I do now think it's a sensory issue with me - I'm much happier without rings.

Mol1628 · 09/05/2022 13:35

I got fat pregnancy fingers and they never went back to normal so I don’t wear one

Jagsy · 09/05/2022 13:35

Married 22 years but don’t wear my wedding or engagement ring. I found that my finger swells up and makes it uncomfortable. I never used to wear rings anyway.

pussycatlickinglollyices · 09/05/2022 13:38

Mine don't fit thankfully but I've not worn them for a while and can blame the extra hand washing for finally ditching them.
They're mis-matched - chunky 22ct wedding ring and 18ct engagement ring.
I don't like haven't ever liked either of them.
I'd wear a thinner, lighter platinum band but CBA to buy one.

tiktok · 09/05/2022 13:38

Wear neither wedding or engagement ring - I have done in the past but found wearing them a nuisance as I was always worried I'd lose them. DH has never worn one. I don't think anyone has ever noticed I don't wear one.

Original poster
Ophanim · 09/05/2022 19:07

Thank you all for your posts. DH only wears his on special occasions (so maybe once a year lol) and isn’t remotely concerned that I don’t wear mine

my engagement ring is very pretty but too small. I keep telling myself that I’ll lose weight and won’t need to get it resized. I don’t think that’s going to happen. Maybe I should get it resized. I wouldn’t wear it daily though, and I wouldn’t bother getting my wedding ring resized to wear alongside it either

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QuebecBagnet · 09/05/2022 19:11

I don’t wear my rings, havent for 15 years. I think it’s a sensory thing. Blokes sometimes think I’m single and I have had to tell a few that I’m married. Less of an issue now I’m older. 😂