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Any married women on here who don’t wear a wedding ring?

139 replies

Ophanim · 09/05/2022 06:27

I’ve been married for many years. I got proposed to with an engagement ring which I wore, and when we got married we both exchanged rings. For years I wore both my engagement and wedding ring put but after a few years I stopped wearing my engagement ring because it got caught on things. Several years ago I took my wedding ring off and I can’t really remember why.
For probably the past two years I found that I really do not want to wear a wedding ring again and I don’t know why. Is this unusual? Are there other women who feel the same way? If so, what are your reasons for it wearing a wedding ring?
DH doesn’t wear his wedding because he says it no longer fits due to weight increase. Mine no longer fits due to the same reason, but although I could get it resized so that it fits I have no desire to do so

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RIPWalter · 09/05/2022 19:18

We didn't exchange rings, so neither of us have a ring to wear. My reasons were

I don't like wearing jewellery, I fiddle with it constantly and find it irritating.

I do lots of sports and gardening, and don't want a finger degloving injury.

I don't feel the need to publicly display the fact that I am married, this is mine and my DH business and it's ours alone.

edwinbear · 09/05/2022 19:34

Neither DH nor I, wear ours. He was always upfront about the fact he'd never wear one, so we bought him a relatively cheap one for the ceremony and I got most of the budget on a lovely band with channel set diamonds. It soon became clear that a diamond set band is completely impractical for every day use, so both it and my engagement ring now reside in the safe - they do come out for special occasions when I can be bothered to open the safe

2ndBorn · 09/05/2022 19:37

No, we both done.
DHs rubs & my fingers are too fat now!

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Stylishkidintheriot · 09/05/2022 19:39

I don’t wear one: neither does DH. At the start of the Covid pandemic (pre lockdown) I thought they got in the way of properly washing our hands, so we stopped wearing them.

then we both no longer fit into them!

FourTeaFallOut · 09/05/2022 19:43

No, I took it off again after my third pregnancy and it never went back on again. Well, I tell a lie, it went on once and then DH had to clip it with pliers before my finger exploded. Sometimes I think about getting another but after eight years I'm figuring it's not much of a priority.

NumericalBlock · 09/05/2022 19:43

I don't wear mine. It was too small when we married (forgot to buy it until a few days before the wedding!), got it resized but it didn't fit reliably so continued wearing my engagement ring until i had my youngest and now it doesn't fit 🤷‍♀️ I love my engagement ring so would like it resized eventually.

dontknowhow2help · 09/05/2022 19:45

Very rarely, only if I go for a meal or something. WFH, engagement ring isn't the most practical, and there's no point wearing them when out and about with a young child as far too much hand washing to do!

NumericalBlock · 09/05/2022 19:46

I had a friend who panicked when hers stopped fitting during pregnancy and wore hers on a necklace on top of her shirt as she was worried what people would think of her being pregnant without being married. This was 6/7 years ago, we're in our early 30s and she's not religious so I was utterly perplexed by that line of reasoning Hmm

springsmiles · 09/05/2022 19:47

Nope not worn wedding ring for 15 years since I have as first pregnant. I still wear my engagement ring though

Herejustforthisone · 09/05/2022 20:44

NumericalBlock · 09/05/2022 19:46

I had a friend who panicked when hers stopped fitting during pregnancy and wore hers on a necklace on top of her shirt as she was worried what people would think of her being pregnant without being married. This was 6/7 years ago, we're in our early 30s and she's not religious so I was utterly perplexed by that line of reasoning Hmm

What an archaic mindset. Crikey.

JollyWilloughby · 09/05/2022 20:47

Haven’t worn mine for years because I’ve put a few stones on and the ring now won’t fit.

MrsAvocet · 09/05/2022 20:50

I had to have mine cut off after an injury made my hand swell badly, probably about 15 years ago now. I've never got round to having it mended. I dont wear any jewellery at all these days in fact.

Reallyreallyborednow · 09/05/2022 20:57

What an archaic mindset. Crikey

yep. My mother banged on for years about my lack of wedding ring, terrified someone would think I was an unwed mother.

i was once sat in a cafe feeding baby dd, with a group of mums with similar aged children a couple of tables over. Two old ladies commented very loudly in my direction how nice it was to see them all with wedding rings on.

people are “proud” to change their names, wear rings, use mrs etc because their is the perception that it elevates their social status.

i’m a contrary old cow that thinks it’s amusing. Valuing my worth a a woman by whether a man has commited. Not by my education, whether I’m a good mum or a nice person, not the fact that I spend every day in a lab curing cancer or whatever, but whether a man wanted to marry me.

same kind of people that think I should use Mrs, and not Dr. Because it’s better people know I’m married and not have jumped up ideas.

diamondpony80 · 09/05/2022 21:13

I do have one, but I’ve never been into wearing rings so I don’t wear it. DH doesn’t wear his either as he’s a weight lifter and he’d have to take it off for the gym every day.

sheepandcaravan · 09/05/2022 21:29

Never wear them. Farmer DH never has, I used to until children then got out habit and have not since.

OrangeBananaFish · 09/05/2022 21:33

I'm not a jewelry person and don't wear anything. I did have an engagement and also a wedding ring. Haven't a clue where either are now. DH doesn't wear his either. We've been married nearly 18 years now.

Tiredmum100 · 09/05/2022 21:41

I've stopped wearing mine for the last year or so. I'm a nurse and wash my hands so much the skin underneath was getting sore and itching like mad so I hardly wear it now, which is a shame as I love my wedding ring its very pretty.

Neverreturntoathread · 09/05/2022 23:53

Yep

Fidodidit · 10/05/2022 01:21

Me. Married for nearly 20 years. Used to wear it I think but has been so long that I can’t actually remember whether am just imagining that I did. DH has never had one. I didn’t change my name when I got married and one bank card still says “Miss” (the rest “Ms”). I just can’t be bothered and I don’t care whether anyone knows whether I’m married or not.

GoodJanetBadJanet · 10/05/2022 02:49

Me.
Been married 20 years and never wear mine.
DH doesn't wear his either.

Weatherwax13 · 10/05/2022 02:58

I've only worn mine very occasionally for years. I guess I could make myself a badge if I wanted to advertise that I'm married :)
Mainly it's just because I have other rings I prefer to use.
DH has never taken his off in the 20 odd years since we married but I don't think he's ever even noticed I don't have mine on.

AllyCatTown · 10/05/2022 03:05

We’re getting married soon and we’re not exchanging rings as neither of us like wearing rings. Our parents don’t like it but it’s just pointless if you’re not going to wear them in our opinion.

Gina97 · 10/05/2022 03:09

I stopped wearing mine when I was 6 months pregnant and never put it back on. I don't really like jewelry.

Nandocushion · 10/05/2022 03:50

We don't wear rings, never exchanged wedding or engagement ring at all. Seemed like a waste of money when we were buying a house at the time. Now, he buys me all sorts of lovely rings and I can switch them around as and when I like. I do find the whole engagement ring/proposal thing to be ridiculously antiquated but I guess it keeps DeBeers happy.

StarlightLady · 10/05/2022 06:21

Opposite situation here, I am not married but wear a wedding ring. I flash it from time to time to try and ward off male attention when it is unwanted. If the attention is wanted, I can explain why I wear it.

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