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To think this is not far from been incest AIBU

186 replies

Sandysunnyhotbeach · 08/05/2022 14:39

I know a young couple in their early 20's who have a young son, who is nearly 20 months old. The Girl's mother is dating her boyfriend's dad. So if they were to marry, they will be step brother and sister, her mother will be also her stepmother and also mother in law, if the girl marries her boyfriend.
I know there is no blood relation, only by marriage, but think this is werid and borderline incest.

OP posts:
Fizbosshoes · 08/05/2022 15:29

They are not related by blood, I don't think its incestuous (if somewhat unusual)

MrsPopplecat · 08/05/2022 15:29

I thought you were going to talk about first cousin sexual relationships.

That's not incest either. Maybe weird to British ears but not illegal here and very common in many, many cultures.

Tschecked · 08/05/2022 15:31

Don't be ridiculous.

Suzi888 · 08/05/2022 15:31

Not incest…

wonkygorgeous · 08/05/2022 15:33

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/05/2022 14:42

I don't understand the problem. It might all get a bit confusing if the older couple had a child together, but otherwise, what's the issue here?

I agree.

What's the problem?

No blood tie at all.

Blossomtoes · 08/05/2022 15:35

I honestly can’t see the problem. At all.

balboaconstrictor · 08/05/2022 15:37

How ridiculous! It's nothing like incest. An unusual situation, yes, but there's nothing creepy or gross about it, imo.

SylvanianFrenemies · 08/05/2022 15:39

So, a mother and daughter are in separate relationships with a father and son.
All are adults.
None were raised together.
Neither couple contains people related to each other.
No, not incestuous.
YABR - You Are Being Ridiculous

StanleyGreen · 08/05/2022 15:40

You obviously don't understand incest, neither do you seem to grasp the difference between been and being.

ReadyToMoveIt · 08/05/2022 15:40

There’s no such thing as ‘borderline incest’. Something is either incest, or it’s not. This isn’t.

TheCanyon · 08/05/2022 15:42

The best bit is if you have to buy family gifts it will be much cheaper.

Moodycow78 · 08/05/2022 15:42

Well no it's not incest at all which needs a blood connection of which you know there's none. It's certainly messy but none of your business Tbh

natty350 · 08/05/2022 15:42

Not incest at all, they are not even blood related. I hope this isnt the same couple i am thinking of, as shes from a very nice family. Her mum has 2 younger sisters and she has 7 sibblings.
Op I would get this thread deleted asap as this girl suffers from mental health and shes a mumsnetter, and if she sees this might tip her over the edge😥

DariaMorgendorffer · 08/05/2022 15:42

YABU

Norhing at all like incest Confused

muddyford · 08/05/2022 15:44

I have friends where this happened, where his father was widowed and her mother, and both couples married. It isn't incest. And the girl's mother will not be her stepmother.

TurquoiseSwirl · 08/05/2022 15:45

Of the young couple got together first and then the parents then absolutely fine and no way near incest and it’s happened to people I know and was actually lovely.
if the people on the 20’s were brought up as brother and sister then yes it is. But it doesn’t sound like that here.

Scabbyknackers · 08/05/2022 15:46

I don't even see why it has to be messy tbh, as long as they met as adults.

diamondpony80 · 08/05/2022 15:48

Don’t see the issue really. They’re not related in any way. They’re adults so clearly they haven’t been brought up together as brother and sister. At their age even if their parents were to marry they’re not going to have a step parent/step child relationship. I’ve seen stranger situations.

Springdaisy · 08/05/2022 15:50

TurquoiseSwirl · 08/05/2022 15:45

Of the young couple got together first and then the parents then absolutely fine and no way near incest and it’s happened to people I know and was actually lovely.
if the people on the 20’s were brought up as brother and sister then yes it is. But it doesn’t sound like that here.

Even if they grew up together it wouldnt be incest. It would then be a bit weird, but if theres no blood relation, then its not illegal.

FiveNineFive · 08/05/2022 15:51

If they were not raised as family and there is no blood tie it's not remotely incest

Hugasauras · 08/05/2022 15:51

It's unusual but not incestuous in any way! Confused

Rosebuud · 08/05/2022 15:51

This is judgey op and really over the top, it is not incest. It’s not even close.

is it a bit weird, yes of course, but no more than that.

Stravaig · 08/05/2022 15:52

'Step' relationships are only during childhood surely? My mother is on her third marriage: he's not my (second) step-father, he's my mother's husband; I've barely met his children, they're definitely not my step-siblings.

paddingtonstares · 08/05/2022 15:53

I knew of a couple who had DC..her mum had a affair with her partner..they split and her kids dad moved in with the kids granny..

ReadyToMoveIt · 08/05/2022 15:55

Stravaig · 08/05/2022 15:52

'Step' relationships are only during childhood surely? My mother is on her third marriage: he's not my (second) step-father, he's my mother's husband; I've barely met his children, they're definitely not my step-siblings.

Exactly. My dad remarried a couple of years ago… she’s not my ‘step mum’, she’s my dad’s wife. And her adult children aren’t my step brothers and sisters. I’ve only met them twice 😂.
If they’d remarried when I was a child and lived under their roof, she’d have been my ‘step mum’.