Can you get bigger nappies than size 8?

[goldsparklyChocolate]

My 1 year old is quite big and the size 8 ones are getting a bit snug! Can you even get a bigger size ??? Not sure what to do ?

i was looking at pull ups but are they as absorbent ?

I know I’m just upset at being spoken to like I’m lying when I’m not. I will think about it tonight and speak to this new hv again when she calls back tomorrow

I know I’m just upset at being spoken to like I’m lying when I’m not. I will think about it tonight and speak to this new hv again when she calls back tomorrow

I appreciate it must feel terrible thinking people feel you're being dishonest but remember at the end of the day this is about your child. Try to put those feelings aside and remember they are just trying to help you work out what the issue is. These people are not your enemy.

But I’ve told them what she has and I’ve weighed and measured everything!!

I’m sure you have. I’m also sure people aren’t always 100% honest with HCPs, and HCPs know this, so HCPs rule out the most obvious answers before looking for more unusual/rare reasons. For example, HCPs don’t take a woman’s word that they aren’t pregnant, they test. Another example, people often understate their alcohol intake but HCPs know this and if someone presents with symptoms that could be attributed to excess alcohol intake that is going to be the first thought to rule out rather than something less common.

If I was offered an inpatient appointment for my DD I'd have bitten their arm off!

@Dolares me too, not related to weight but DS1 is currently waiting for a bed to become available and has been for a week. Children aren’t offered inpatient admissions unless absolutely necessary.

I believe your portion sizes OP, but that's more or.a reason to get her seen ASAP. Take them up on the referral.

Just to say, I hadn't considered the effect this could be having internally on your daughter.

Another poster upthread has mentioned the strain on her heart etc.
Everything they say about morbidly obese adults could also be happening to your child.
You just can't see it and she can't verbalise it.

You're waiting for a paediatrician to say X,Y,Z is wrong...where do think the paeds will be??
On that hospital ward, where they want you.

Just go, I get your reticence, at the moment your child is just too heavy but going to hospital means facing the reality of something being really really wrong, no parent wants to go down that road.
Unfortunately some of us have too.

OP they may want her to undergo something like a cortisol curve to screen for hormonal conditions. This would mean some repeat blood tests over a period of several hours. It will help give a picture of what might be going on medically.

I know . I’m sorry. I don’t mean to be defensive I’m just worried anyway and then just being spoken to by someone with zero tact was just too much 🙁
Ill sort it all out tomorrow when they call I’m just feeling really down about it all right now

You’ve put up with a lot on this thread OP, and rarely been defensive.

I’m not surprised an insensitive health visitor, who was doubting your food diary, put your back up. I’ve experienced a very rude health visitor before and it’s horrible.

Good luck getting a private paediatrician appointment, and I’m sure you’ll give the other points some thought once you’ve had time to digest it, taking the emotion of rude-HV out of it.

I know I’m just upset at being spoken to like I’m lying when I’m not. I will think about it tonight and speak to this new hv again when she calls back tomorrow

you know you've recorded things honestly, but I imagine they see people all the time who will swear blind they've recorded things accurately and haven't.

My son has been in hospital a few times, the children's ward isn't scary (nowhere near as bad as a blood test in the gp surgery!). They have specialist teams including play therapists and I suspect that it will be the quickest way to prove that you're food diaries are accurate. I imagine there's quite a few people they come across who swear blind their kid only eats XYZ and in reality that's not the case - a couple of days in hospital eating a sensible diet will normally result in weight loss if the child is being otherwise overfed. In your case it'll likely show your daughter doesn't lose weight which will then prompt further investigation

Don't feel down about it, try to think positively, if something is wrong the quicker they find it the better.

Yes it is inconvenient being in hospital with a LO but you'll have time to prepare for it.
4 times I've had to do it with no notice plus an injury that needed an operation but not an overnight stay. Family managed to rally round to help out, and actually my neighbour was amazing with the injury. People friends will help with the other kids if you need them too.

OP, I've had dc in hospital for various reasons and it will be the quickest way to find out what is causing your DD's weight to be so out of proportion with her height. It will be a pain for you but it shouldn't be scary for your dd apart from if she needs blood taking etc but that would need to be done in outpatients anyway. Our local children's ward is lovely with lots of toys and even guinea pigs. My 9 year old always asks if he can go and play on the ward whenever he goes to outpatients.

I suppose it is their job to double and triple check all this before putting the child through blood tests and genetic testing which is invasive, costly and takes a long time. Please don't take it personally. You know you don't overfeed your DD so stick to your guns - I don't think you'll have a long wait with such a small baby. They'll want to make sure her thyroid and everything is working ok sooner rather than later.

Big hugs OP, I know this must be difficult for you

@goldsparklyChocolate, you're getting the best help for your little girl. All good wishes.

I'd accept the NHS investigations because you've then got a plan in place if going private doesn't work out. It is hurtful if HCPs seem to doubt your honesty but it is likely that parents lie and they need to check out obvious scenarios before going down more invasive investigations.

While she's happy and active now, it needs addressing as excessive weight gains usually accumulate and accumulate with time. The cute chubby toddler faced children I knew in yR are now in the upper years of juniors and visibly obese, unfit and struggling with normal levels of childhood play and activity and that's not good for their quality of life and self-esteem.

I hope you can get some answers and a helpful course of action in the near future OP.

Op did you speak with HV today?

My almost 7 year old only weighs 2st 12, she's in nappies at nighttime still (ready to come out but she's not quite confident with using the toilet at night yet) and size 6 fit her comfortably.

Good for you.
However the thread has moved on somewhat, your comment is not helpful considering the HV wanted to hospitalise the OPs DD.

Sorry OP wrote my reply without reading the whole thread, have now read it, glad you're getting some help and advice.

I went to see the gp yesterday as was so stressed. The paediatrician dd has been referred to sees no reason why an inpatient stay is needed but agrees with the referral to obesity clinic . They’ve done all the initial tests they need to when they did bloods etc but they said they will try to get an appt asap. Gp was very reassuring.

The new HV is saying that an observation stay needs to happen as she is concerned. The dietician apparently agrees with her . Our regular HV hasn’t been in touch I’ve been trying to get hold of her but can’t as she had been helpful. New HV seems to think I can’t possibly be telling the truth about what I’m feeding dd 😞

So the plan now is to see the obesity clinic when appt becomes through and the gp has said I can go back at any time they’ll see us and they have made sure the hospital will get us a quicker appt with paediatrician.

I wouldn't have thought the HV would be able to get her admitted if it wasn't necessary.

Speak to the other HV and ask for more details on the tests, and time scales?

I'm just a lay person but my fear is you waste time waiting to see the dietitian who maybe tweaks her diet and she then concludes its not diet. And she needs to be observed in hospital.

Its almost like the HV are skipping a step but I don't believe hospital will keep her in a second longer than they need to.

we have seen the dietician who seemed helpful but apparently she shares concerns with the new HV about the accuracy of what I’m recording in the food diary.

The gp was lovely though and had got hold of the paediatrician and they are fast tracking dds appt

I can’t seem to get hold of old HV and the new one is just not being very pleasant

If they share concerns over what you are recording then I can't see how you prove it without the hospital stay.

Your other kids, family aren't this heavy are they?

Just read through all your comments, goodness what a lots of stress and negativity from poster to you when you are clearly a very conscientious and attentive mother. When I was reading through your posts I was thinking to myself ( medical professional) that I would have no concerns at all about your child’s weight as long as bloods and tests here clear for genetic / development issues and a plan was in place for monitoring growth via the clinic.
I also can’t see how an inpatient stay would helpful unless it was for a period of time such like a week where they fed your daughter same calories you give her and see if weight changes. So many variables here- I wouldn’t take it personally re. the health visitor , I would remind them that you were proactive in seeking the help in the first issue.
i hope you get talking to the hv you know well and things go smoothly from here on. You are doing a great job !

No we are all slim or within normal bmi (either lower end or middle at most - this has made me weigh and check everyone)

we eat healthily as a family