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Can you get bigger nappies than size 8?

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goldsparklyChocolate · 24/04/2022 12:31

My 1 year old is quite big and the size 8 ones are getting a bit snug! Can you even get a bigger size ??? Not sure what to do ?

i was looking at pull ups but are they as absorbent ?

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goldsparklyChocolate · 03/06/2022 14:08

So we managed to get an accurate weight and height on Wednesday and on centiles this is 7th for height and over 99.9 for weight

still keeping a food diary, waiting for paediatrician appt but not sure what’s going on as everything so far is normal with tests . Will have another height and weight done in 2 weeks

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WishILivedInThrushGreen · 03/06/2022 14:37

Thank you for your update OP.
Glad to hear that nothing untoward has been flagged up and that you're getting support.

All the best. 💐

OverCCCs · 03/06/2022 16:42

I’m so sorry OP! I hope they figure out what is wrong soon and can get your LO healthy. Be pushy if you need to if the tests keep not finding an answer. Good luck!

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:11

Today I’ve had a call from a different health visitor wanting to go over things. Asking me about the food diary and she said they’ve had some feedback from the dietician and they are all wondering if I’m sure what I’m recording is accurate?
She said the wait for the paediatric appt still could be a while and they are just considering if they should ‘do some other investigations’ while we are waiting for that and how would I feel about either a referral to the obesity team or a short stay where dd can be ‘monitored’ as an inpatient at hospital.

Ive declined both and said I will just stick to the planned weighing appts with our usual hv . I feel like they think I’m lying about the food diary ??

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Dinoteeth · 07/06/2022 16:19

Op they must be really concerned to consider treating her as an in patient. I think it might be worth considering if that is an option.

It could be they are looking for an something underlying rather than just diet and what a dietician can deal with.

PurpleFadesToGreen · 07/06/2022 16:20

If I was you I'd accept both offers, the difference in the centiles is so great that I'd take the help.

Even if to prove you are feeding her appropriately.

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:24

I’ve been totally honest with the food diary and if they want her to be seen sooner they can ask for an urgent paediatric appt there is no way I’m taking her into hospital I think she will be unhappy and scared as she’s not used to that many different people (due to covid restrictions for most of her life). She’s not unwell.

Initial bloods were all ok and the gp did an examination when they had seen her so it’s not urgent, if they are that worried they can ask the paediatric dr to see her sooner. In regards to the obesity team I think that’s just a dietician and regular weighing which is the plan already under the hv

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:27

I’m going to look into whether I can see a paediatrician privately if it’s quicker. I don’t want to take her into hospital as that feels wrong when she’s not actually unwell 🙁
The tone was just very sceptical about the food diary which i find insulting. I’ve even weighed/measured portions and taken photos.

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Beees · 07/06/2022 16:31

She’s not unwell.

I think you're being quite defensive of their offers of support if I'm honest. You don't know she is not unwell. If you were honest with her food diary then actually she may well be unwell as the difference in centiles is huge.

I'd be working with them and taking any support they offered to find out what is happening.

Dinoteeth · 07/06/2022 16:31

Remember you'll be with her in hospital. Children's wards aren't as scary as you think.
I'd phone them back they must be worried about something else going on other than her eating too much.

Babyboomtastic · 07/06/2022 16:31

I would say yes to both, just in case there is a medical reason for it (bloods won't show everything).

Also, if they don't believe your food diary, then best to nip that in the bud with a few days in, and then you don't have to deal with it again and they can concentrate on finding the real reason. Otherwise, they are always going to have their doubts by the sound of it.

Babyboomtastic · 07/06/2022 16:35

goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:27

I’m going to look into whether I can see a paediatrician privately if it’s quicker. I don’t want to take her into hospital as that feels wrong when she’s not actually unwell 🙁
The tone was just very sceptical about the food diary which i find insulting. I’ve even weighed/measured portions and taken photos.

I was reluctant for my child to be admitted overnight as she 'wasnt unwell'. It turns out she was actually very very unwell.

That's likely not the case here, but many medical diagnosis come from a place of 'my child is fine' so getting them to check is probably sensible.

Its not going to upset your child if you frame it as a little holiday with sleepovers with you, playroom etc whilst the doctors do a few checks. It really will depend on how you present it to her.

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:37

I’m going to try to see someone privately and take advice from them. If a paediatrician tells me this is what I need to do then I will or maybe they can arrange whatever tests need doing (if any) privately as outpatient appts.

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AReallyUsefulEngine · 07/06/2022 16:39

The fact you have been offered an inpatient stay should alert you to how seriously it is being taken. I think it would be a mistake to decline both. Obesity clinics for children often include a specialist paediatrician, if your nearest one doesn’t ask for a referral out of area. Just because initial bloods the GP did are OK doesn’t necessarily mean everything is OK. A child so off the scale needs further investigation and it would be better if that was by someone specialising in such matters.

If you think the HCPs think you aren’t being honest about the food diary (and I’m not saying you are) and you decline referrals you may fuel their suspicion.

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:39

I’m going to have a Google and see if i can get an appt somewhere this week or next

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:41

I fully agree investigations are probably needed but if the nhs appt isn’t soon enough I’ll go private and that might be both quicker and easier for dd as can be as an outpatient

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Daisypod · 07/06/2022 16:42

Op when one of my kids was putting on weight very fast I had hv's make me keep a milk diary (not yet weaned) and then they didn't believe what I had put down and were very accusatory. It is a horrible situation to be in.
I would maybe take up the offer of a hospital visit as their could be something going on health wise that isn't yet obvious and also not going will unfortunately make them very suspicious of your motives for not doing so.

Dinoteeth · 07/06/2022 16:42

Op seriously, please take up the offers you've been given. Previous poster is right they'll always doubt you.

My LO had 4 different hospital emergency admissions around the age of 2. At no point was he scared. I actually think by the end he was excited by the toy room and different stuff to play with and 100% of mummy's attention- what is there to be scared off?

Go let them get to the bottom of what is going on.

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:42

I will agree to the obesity clinic referral then, I was just upset as they were so suspicious of the food diary and almost argumentative with me wheh I said it’s exact as I’d even weighed the food.
Hopefully that will be ok and I’ll let them know I’m trying to get a private paediatrician appt

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AReallyUsefulEngine · 07/06/2022 16:43

A paediatrician does think an inpatient admission is necessary otherwise you wouldn’t be offered one. They won’t be able to observe and record intake accurately with only outpatient appointments.

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:47

AReallyUsefulEngine · 07/06/2022 16:43

A paediatrician does think an inpatient admission is necessary otherwise you wouldn’t be offered one. They won’t be able to observe and record intake accurately with only outpatient appointments.

But I’ve told them what she has and I’ve weighed and measured everything!!

we have a local private hospital and most of the paediatricians are also nhs so I’m going to see if I can get an appt asap.
the obesity clinic I’m not so worried about really I was just surprised by the call then irritated at how I was spoken to.

if I can get an appt soon then I’ll see what they say. The hv said she was going to call again tomorrow so I’ll have a think about it all. I just felt like I was spoken to so horribly ? I don’t know why it was really upsetting

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Beees · 07/06/2022 16:52

But I’ve told them what she has and I’ve weighed and measured everything!!

Surely you're not naive enough to think that everyone who engages with doctors tells the truth. They just want to clarify in a controlled environment that you're not telling them what you think they want to hear.

For everyone being honest there's another person lying through their teeth. Once they have confirmed this then they can focus on working out what's wrong.

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goldsparklyChocolate · 07/06/2022 16:53

Beees · 07/06/2022 16:52

But I’ve told them what she has and I’ve weighed and measured everything!!

Surely you're not naive enough to think that everyone who engages with doctors tells the truth. They just want to clarify in a controlled environment that you're not telling them what you think they want to hear.

For everyone being honest there's another person lying through their teeth. Once they have confirmed this then they can focus on working out what's wrong.

im going to have a think. I’ll try to get a private appt and I’ll speak to hv when she calls again tomorrow.

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Dolares · 07/06/2022 16:54

If I was offered an inpatient appointment for my DD I'd have bitten their arm off! You will likely get to the bottom of the issue far quicker and then get whatever help your DD may need.

Dinoteeth · 07/06/2022 16:56

Op if her diet is OK, something else must be the issue, underactive thyroid or hormone issues.

They must be wanting her as an in patient to observe her.

Carrying so much weight must be putting a load of strain on her tiny heart and organs. I'd take the offer get to the bottom of the issue ASAP. Remember where this all started nappies and posters recognising she seems really big for her age.