Do you have a “type” of partner..?

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Watching the amazing Married At First Sight Australia- current series.

A couple are in turmoil as the guy, on an honesty box question, said his (unknown 3 days before) wasn’t exactly his type. His type was blonde and tanned and she is blonde.

Just checking in with everyone - I’m fat dumpy and was continually bullied - I don’t have a “type”. I’m not privileged enough to have a choice. My husband is wonderful and I adore him. Is short balding Scottish guy a “type” or just the guy I fell in love with. When I was 15 I was obsessed with a blonde 6ft footballer. So is my “type” a Viking footballer.

Guys have never swarmed over me enough for me to pick a “type” of guy. I’ve never had the luxury to have the ability to choose a “type”.

Are other women so surrounded by guys who want to be with them that they can filter their options by “type”.

I’ve discussed this with my amazing DH and he hasn’t got a clue about his “type” either - he just knew the first day he met me that this was forever.

Do people genuinely filter potential partners because they “aren’t their type”..??

Well, I wouldn't sit there going "I like long skinny geeky types with brown eyes pointy noses and scottish accents so I'm not going out with him"

but I've been looking at men long enough to know that the set of Men I Fancy has a disproportionately high rate of long skinny geeky types with brown eyes and pointy noses (the scottish accent is quite particular, tbh )

and I might well say "sorry Mr Pitt [or Mr Elba, or Mr Momoa] but you're not my type"

When someone says "you're not my type" it's a vaguely polite way of saying "I don't find you sexually attractive" while acknowledging that you may objectively be reasonably good-looking.

I wouldn't say I have a particular type but in saying that I haven't dated an English person in over 20 years. It's as much to do with the people who are interested in me as well though.

I agree with PP that having a type can differentiate between someone you find attractive and someone you're sexually attracted to. I find quite a few people to be good looking for varying reasons, but I guess I do have a more specific type of guy that I am sexually attracted to, and this isn't limited to only physical traits.

There's a difference between having a type that you might usually be attracted to at first sight, and actually falling for a real person you know. My 'type' has always been tall, slim/skinny, dark hair. But I've been out with some men who weren't like that because something else attracted me. That's normal isn't it?

Yes I have a type and think most people do despite what people say I would need to get to know someone who wasn’t my usual type to feel attracted to them because then it could grow but on first sight no I wouldn’t usually be attracted to someone who wasn’t my type

In a group photo of a group of men, I can point out which one would be my preference, but sometimes that isn’t the one I reckon I would have most success with. But I find I don’t tend to go for looks as a big factor, usually because I don’t have the bait

I had a dream type when I was younger, right down to nationality, hair length, colouring, etc.

When I started OLD after coming out of my studenty relationship in my mid twenties- I only swiped right for this type. I was lenient on the nationality, but the ‘look’ was the only thing that got my swipe. Friends said I was being ‘picky’ but I didn’t know why I should compromise as I was happy being single if I didn’t find my perfect person

Met my soon to be husband this way and he is just as lovely as he looks 15 year old me is very proud.

My type would have been a tall blonde surfer guy with long flowing hair . I've had two husbands - one a dark army guy with a very short buzz cut , who did like surfing , and one bald guy who has never been surfing. I personally think that your "type" is just something in your head, your idealised lover , not to be confused with reality.

I certainly do filter people by 'type'.

There are certain physical traits that are mandatory for me to feel any attraction whatsoever to someone. That comes before personality, sense of humour etc. If these traits are missing, then it doesn't matter how well I get on with the person, I'll never find them physically attractive so anything other than a platonic relationship would be completely impossible for me.

Conversely, if someone has these traits but they turn out to be an absolute idiot, I'll still feel physical attraction for them, but would never view them as relationship material anyway.

It's not really about 'type', more that there are a few subtle physical characteristics that are absolutely mandatory before I can feel any sort of attraction.

I've never found a guy whose legs are short in proportion to his overall height attractive. I've fancied tall guys, short guys, outgoing,, introverts, long hair, short hair, skinny, chunky you name it, but all of them had legs that were long for their height. Dh is leggy and I love it about him.
Would one feature you find a turn on count as a type?
I also adore red heads but have had zero joy in real life with that feature sadly.

I very much had a type. Tall, strong, broad shouldered, bearded, dark/ Mediterranean looking. The love of my life is grey/ prematurely bald and Irish which bemused me a bit.. But, he is an ex boxer/ rugby player. My gay friend from uni met him and said, yep your type. "Macho as hell but older, as are you" 🤣 it's the personality that the looks convey, I guess

I've been with my DH for most of my life (got together at 20, now mid to late 40s), so even though I don't date, I still have a type. It's the sort of man I find attractive. For me it's geek chic - dark haired, skinny, clever. Just like my husband was when we met (but not anymore!). However, if I had a pic of lots of different blokes, my DH could pick out which ones I'd find attractive, which ones were my type. I could do the same for him. We're both happily married though.

Yes I am not attracted to men who are either blond, short or skinny.

I am only attracted to dark, tall, broad-shouldered thick set men who run to fat!

They tend to be rugby players and policemen!

I have a type. Physically, I'm always attracted to shorter men with very dark/black curly hair and strong noses.

But I don't stick to that for dating because I prioritise other qualities.

I've dated short, bald men; men over 6 foot with long blond hair; skinny men; stocky men and everything in between.

But what my boyfriends have all had in common was a mischievous glint in their eye. My boyfriend has that. He's nearly 60 (I'm nowhere near) but I see past all of that because the glint is there and he always looks like he's up for some mischief. And he is!

To be honest yes I do have a type - two actually, and I've very much stuck to them. (I'm a lesbian just to preface). They're more down to personality than looks though.

Type 1 is tall feminine women who like wearing vintage dresses, have long hair and wear glasses. Personality wise usually they are into books in some way, as well as music like Stevie Nicks. And the moon/astrology/some form of witchcraft. Usually they're artists or writers or something.

Type 2 is literally the exact opposite 🤣 Butch women who dress exclusively in button ups and waistcoats or sportswear, have very short hair, play football, roller derby or another sport, and are interested in watching football and undertaking outdoor pursuits. Usually they've also tended to be quite sciencey and very clever. I like it when they have a touch of creative spirit in them too.

I'm marrying my type 2 and I wouldn't have it any other way. In many ways she is my dream human!

I dated certain types. Usually tall with dark hair, but also, they were dickheads.
Dh is blonde and only slightly taller than me. Hey ho!

I don't have a type physically at all. I'm more attracted to personality than looks, I generally like funny confident men who have similar values in life to me.

I'm very heavily tattooed so I usually attract a certain type myself though, and I know that tattoos are incredibly off putting to some people which is fine.

I do unfortunately, which I know is quite shallow. I’m generally attracted to slim, blue eyes, curly hair and quite full lips. I quite like small/narrow wrists.

I think most people have a physical "type" that they are drawn to/attracted to initially, but plenty of people don't end up married to them because once you get into a relationship there's a lot more to it that looks.

My perfect physical type would be 6 ft, chunky but not flabby, short hair going grey, with stubble, blue eyes (David Ginola makes me stare longingly at the tv). I would never have dated anyone shorter than 5' 10, or anyone skinny, or with long hair. DH is tall and chunky with short hair but he doesn't make me go weak and the knees.

His type (who he's attracted to, he never really dated anyone else) is blonde, very slim, long legs. I'm dark, not slim, and short. So clearly whatever your type is, you won't necessarily end up with them as there's far more to it.

I have a type. I married two of them. I have dated outside my type but I keep going back clearly.

But it's difficult if your type is 'looks like Chris Hemsworth' rather than 'dark hair light eyes'. I mean throw a broken nosed rugby player at me, I'm fine. It's not picky about looks per se, just particular.

Skinny men and short men just don’t do it for me, even if their face is attractive. I need the ‘package’ and thus my type is tall and well-built, ideally med/latin colouring but I’m not averse to blonds either. DH is a French rugby player, so ticked the boxes. His type is fair, blonde and petite, ideally Northern (I’m from Birmingham but it’s plenty north of the south of France!) which is me. I guess sometimes opposites do attract.

Yes, definitely have a physical type. Women with strong/muscular arms and shoulders, on the 'soft butch' side.

I remember talking about types as a teen. My best friend at the time liked blonde shorter guys. And I preferred dark hair and taller - probably just to be the opposite to her tbh .

I married a 6ft, blonde, blue eyed, curly haired guy .

Tall, dark hair and eyes, olive/brown skin, well built.

I wonder whether people say ‘they aren’t my type’ in these shows because it’s easier than saying you just aren’t attracted that person?

My DP doesn’t have the characteristics I thought I’d have gone for when we met. Luckily it was a chance meeting so I wasn’t looking at boxes to tick.