How did you meet your husband or partner?

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I’m in my mid-twenties and I am single and ready to find my future partner or husband. However, I work in a small team so there’s no chance of finding my future husband at work. I don’t think online dating is for me either, and this really limits my options.

I’m wondering how you’ve all met your husbands or partners, because I could do with some inspiration. I would love to hear stories especially if you didn’t meet at uni, work, or online dating.

If you have ideas for how I can meet men, with a view to romance, then please let me know!

Eharmony

At a classic car show.
He saw my car enter the show field and came over to talk to the driver. Was surprised that the driver was young (at the time) and female. The rest is history.

Driving an old British V8 car is a brilliant way to meet men. Obviously it helps if you like cars and know enough about them to chat.

I would say most predominately male hobbies would be just as good for meeting men.

Mine was work so not helpful. But others I know were
Shared interest random event
Leaving their number on someone's restaurant table as they walked out after eyeing them all evening (!)
Church
Online dating, the most successful being when they switched from The Guardian to The Times
He was the plumber
Sports hobby
Going round artist open houses (both as mutual visitors and getting with an artist)
Randomly going up to someone in a national gallery
On a train

It seems the theme in my lot is having the nerve at that moment when you've seen a stranger and felt the butterflies, to act and not just walk on.

Match.com for us, been together 8 years and I've 2 beautiful children. I actually was about to give up looking as was starting training to be a teacher and wasn't sure I had time but I liked him on our first date so decided to see him again........ best thing I did and actually because I wasn't sure I wanted a relationship we took it slow and that I think made all the difference

I met my current boyfriend through a mutual friend years ago. We'd lost touch for years and she invited me out with her friends to a Mongolian BBQ. Boyfriend was there with his friend as they were all friends. We dated for 3-4 months then broke up but then reconnected with him last year.

Fiance years ago, I met him through an exercise class. The wife of his cousin was in the same class and she said that the cousin was a soldier on leave, looking to take out a woman in London. I met him and we dated and it snowballed from there.

Another long term boyfriend, was out for a friend's birthday in Covent Garden. He was in a bar with some friends and we all went onto a club and I didn't fancy him at the time. My friend dated his best friend though and a few weeks later his best friend invited us all out to a bar where we got chatting and turned out we got on and liked each other!

Another boyfriend, met in a club in London. Chatted and liked each other.

I personally think you can meet men (and women) anywhere but it's all about if you speak to them (I've been so chicken sometimes I've not spoken or not properly to them!). Over lockdown I was approached in a park by a nice man (was with my mum!) we were watching Egyptian geese goslings but he ended up buying us both coffee at the park cafe and then taking my number and we had a date separately!

It was Christmas. I was a widow with a young son and we went to my in-laws for the day. My (single) BIL was down visiting and I'd not met him before. He was sat under the tree in the front room. He moved in with me four months later. I've always thought of him as my very special present

@MrsGHarrison87

Plenty of Fish. Yes there's loads of strange people online but I think it's worth persevering if you're serious about meeting someone and don't have much opportunity in real life to meet single men.

@MrsGHarrison87 - actually now you say that - my friend who'd just been widowed (but was ready to date about a year later) met her now second husband on POF.

I tagged along on a mates work night out when I was 23. Stood like a lemon in Revolution because I refused to dance to the shite music. My mates colleague kept trying to get me to dance, and when we finally moved bars to somewhere with music I could dance to, I did.

So I basically pulled by being a grumpy twat. How it worked I'll never know and it's not a tactic I recommend

University, queuing at the refectory for chips.

I would say dance classes can be good - have tried - not necessarily met the men I'd liked to have met but...

Classic car shows - I used to go to an annual one in Alexandra Palace with a platonic male friend (curses!), I wasn't looking to date anyone then and I preferred the cars but there were loads of single men there or single looking anyway!

I met my ex-h at a house party when I was in my teens.
I met my current partner at my workplace - the clichè longing glances across the bar

Speed dating!

I was 29, happily single. A friend wanted to give speed dating a whirl but didn't want to go alone. So I went as support. He wasn't meant to be there - he'd had a call last minute to ask if he would be interested in coming as they were short of blokes.

Thank God he decided he was free that evening 😂 We've been together five years now, married for 2 (nearly) and expecting our first kid together in May.

Met my DP at a "last chance motel" dive aka divorced, separated, single night 26 years ago!

Both working in Asia and stayed at the same backpackers hostel.

@FlipFlops4Me

It was Christmas. I was a widow with a young son and we went to my in-laws for the day. My (single) BIL was down visiting and I'd not met him before. He was sat under the tree in the front room. He moved in with me four months later. I've always thought of him as my very special present

The way you phrased this sounds like you married your husband's brother.

Doing a new sport - joined a club and met him there.

Previously: a flatmate, a colleague, a fellow student.

OLD would do my head in.

Through my ex, he was/is a friend.

No cheating involved.

@FlipFlops4Me that's what I'm wondering too, did you marry your husbands brother? Nothing wrong with that, but how had you not meet him?

My DH offered me a job driving farm machinery in the back arse of no where in Australia! Pure co-incidence we even meet. That was 10 years ago, expecting our first baby this summer :)

We both regularly went to a bar/night club with our respective friends and knew of each other but didn't talk.
I started working there after a year or so and we'd have a chat when I served him. I wasn't particularly interested in him for a while but the more we talked, the more I realised how nice he was.
We went on a couple of dates and I wasn't sure but decided to give him one last try and then everything changed in an instant and I fell hard.

It's been 7 years and we're very happily married with 2 children.

His best friend came over to chat me up in a bar.

I met my husband in a car park 😂 was only 18 and use to go to the car park most nights to meet friends and sit in our cars all evening. He was there one night, i was friends with his ex too.

Been together 11 years, married for 18 months and just had our first baby 😁

At work. He joined the small team I was working in.

Through a doomed business with an abusive ex, he became a supplier, a friend, a best friend and after I left a support as I was for him through a death in his family, then more.

A girl I worked with at the time was with one of his friends. She went on a night out with them all and gave my now-husband my number as she just thought we’d get on. Clearly, we did, as we’ve been together six years, married three and have a baby son.

At your age I met a lot of men in pubs/clubs/gigs etc.