Today I felt the judgement of other shoppers

[bloodywhitecat]

My little one, not quite 2, had a bit of a meltdown today as we popped into a local store, he threw himself on the floor, prostrate and screaming so I picked him up and gave him a cuddle. Some fellow shoppers let me know that he was a "naughty boy" and that he would "...never learn to behave" if I dealt with him that way. I wanted to tell those shoppers that this little boy has lost the only man he knew as a father figure just two weeks ago, we are both grieving. What he needs now is love and reassurance not rejection or anger. I wanted to tell them to go away and wind their necks in but I didn't. He's not yet two and the world is a confusing place for him right now, every day he asks for my husband and every day I have to say "

DuckyNoMates

MrsSkylerWhite
Again, not what I meant at all. Please see my reply above. I was expressing astonishment that people could be so rude but obviously put it very badly.
I get you @MrsSkylerWhite. Its hard sometimes with messages to get the tone but I assumed you were expressing astonishment at the rudeness rather than accusing anyone of lying.“

Thank you, I was. Not very well, obviously 🥴

neverthenot

@MrsSkylerWhite I am sure the people who made the comments to OP did not realise they were being rude either. I suspect you have spent quite lot of your life unwittingly making upsetting comments to people as ' you were only saying' and 'that's not what I meant' .“

I haven’t. I don’t comment on other people’s behaviour. Sorry that I upset OP/you.

(I can see now, how what I said could be interpreted as hostile. I’ll try to be more careful in how I put things from now in.
I really wasn’t questioning OP, I was surprised that anyone would be so rude).

@MrsSkylerWhite Thank you

I’m sorry for your loss OP, your son is fortunate to have a caring and sensitive mother, it’s a big loss for you both

Today I walked through a churchyard and noticed one of the graves was much better kept than others, fresh flowers etc - a young mum who’d passed away nearly 30 years ago. Family cherish the memories of those who’ve gone

Feel more than free to embarrass anyone who criticised your little one

I find the best comment is “please go away complete stranger”

[quote bloodywhitecat]My little one, not quite 2, had a bit of a meltdown today as we popped into a local store, he threw himself on the floor, prostrate and screaming so I picked him up and gave him a cuddle. Some fellow shoppers let me know that he was a "naughty boy" and that he would "...never learn to behave" if I dealt with him that way. I wanted to tell those shoppers that this little boy has lost the only man he knew as a father figure just two weeks ago, we are both grieving. What he needs now is love and reassurance not rejection or anger. I wanted to tell them to go away and wind their necks in but I didn't. He's not yet two and the world is a confusing place for him right now, every day he asks for my husband and every day I have to say "