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She took my bloody co-op card

627 replies

HollowedOut · 10/03/2022 01:18

I’ve had a friend staying with me for the last few days, she due to go home tomorrow. As a thank you for letting her stay she offered to cook us a meal this evening which I gratefully accepted. She needed to go up to Co-Op to get the ingredients so I said to her to take my membership card if she hasn’t got one.

She went up and bought all the ingredients and cooked a really lovely meal. We had a bottle of wine with the meal but fancied another so I popped up to Co-Op again to buy another. I scan my member card like always and she’s spent all my points! There was about £30 on there that I have saved up for months. I like to know that I’ve always got a bit on there in case I’m short one month, it’s just a bit of reassurance.

If someone asked you to take their loyalty card to a shop when you had offered to cook them a meal would you assume that meant the person was offering to pay for the meal with their points? Or would you think they just wanted you to scan their card at checkout so you have a few more points?

Apologies if I’m rambling but it’s 1am, I’ve drunk a bottle of wine and I’m disproportionately pissed off that she’s spent my points!

OP posts:
PearlyShamps · 11/03/2022 18:26

If it is out of character for her to be dishonest, or behave in a CF way - then I would assume that it's just some kind of miscommunication error.

I guess she either assumed you were offering to use your points to pay for the ingredients, or misunderstood how the card worked.

mam0918 · 11/03/2022 18:26

cantbecoping - How morally middle class of you, nice to know you are so comfortably off that it's abhorrent and beneath you to be seen to collect free store credit or save money for a friend/family member.

It must be so utterly embarrassing to not just throw away potential savings, god forbid someone thinks you might need points better to let that money that could be saved vanish into the ether for no one to use.

The epitome of snob class to be unnecessarily wasteful and to look down on those that aren't isn't it? when in reality it just makes you look really, really stupid.

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/03/2022 18:30

I work for Co-Op and I can tell you that this did NOT happen accidentally. We scan the card, we dont ask if someone wants to spend their points, if they do then they will ask us to use the card as payment.

She did this deliberately. She saw your points balance, thought she would save herself a few quid, possibly not realising that you keep a close eye on it. That will also why she didnt offer to pay you back, its theft pure and simple.

Also, I dont agree that its cheeky to get the points on the OP's card, its not like the friend is losing out by not using her own card, those points would have just disappeared into the ether, better in the OPs pocket than no ones surely?!

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GatoradeMeBitch · 11/03/2022 18:35

I agree, that never happens. The cashier asked if she wanted to use the points, she said yes. She might have thought there was just a couple of quid on the card. But she definitely knew at the shop, not the morning after.

DaisyDoll7878 · 11/03/2022 18:35

I think she probably thought you meant use your points towards the meal. It doesn’t sound like you were very clear what you were giving her the card for. She’s your friend so if she isn’t the type to take advantage usually and you value her friendship, then personally I’d let it go and put it down to a miss understanding and move on.

Amaksy · 11/03/2022 18:37

No it’s clear - you said “take my card if you haven’t got one” so that meant not to spend.

I’d be raising it incase she wasn’t aware…

Sceptre86 · 11/03/2022 18:37

I would have understood you meant to add to your points not use them but I do the same with my dh and my boots card. If I've got enough points for him to use to buy nappies or whatever else I will tell him to use them quite clearly. I would have been annoyed with her using your points when she is supposed to be treating you to make a meal. As she expected you to clear up she is a cf and I would ditch this friendship. Also how do you get sauce on the floor when making a curry?

mswales · 11/03/2022 18:40

[quote HollowedOut]@BlueOverYellow I’ve never had them take points off without asking either, they don’t even normally offer. It’s not an easy mistake to make on the self checkout either as you have to physically select the points as your payment option.[/quote]
I've nearly paid with my points by mistake before, it definitely is possible to do this without meaning to

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/03/2022 18:44

It may be possible to select the wrong option on a self scan till but to then see the total payable and not realise and not say anything? Nope, calling bullshit. She knew.

wentworthinmate · 11/03/2022 18:59

I am dumbfounded by some of the comments on here!!! Jesus some people are so horrible. Why have a go at the OP about asking to use the card in the first place. A/ that wasn't the point of the post and B/ it's none of your business.
OP, yes you have to purposely select to use the points at self check out or request at the till. She is CF and thought you wouldn't notice.

tolerable · 11/03/2022 19:09

could be shes total..not thought//misunderstood why gave her card?..genuine mistake.Would surely merit a thankyou-wasnt expecting that.

a12356777 · 11/03/2022 19:11

Is she quite skint ? I think she did it on purpose do you think she couldn’t afford the meal really ? I think you should of asked for the money back if she has money that is?

Bellie710 · 11/03/2022 19:23

Years ago the Co-op used to send out vouchers and dividends but now you can use them any time you want. I save mine all year and use them to buy either Xmas or new year shopping, I would be raging if someone did this!

Also all the people thinking it is odd giving yout card to someone is bizarre, I quite often offer my points to the person in the queue behind me if I don't have a card for that store so I would certainly give the points to a friend!

Calm33 · 11/03/2022 19:28

"TheRealityCheque Thu 10-Mar-22 02:20:38
Hmmm.

"Here, take my loyalty card" is not clear, imo.

It's £30. Suck it up."

Yes, she was deceitful, if she could not afford to pay for the shop normally people would say, wouldn't they. To be honest and above board.
But the above comment - it worries me
it is not about the amount but the deceitfulness of the act' this is what this is all about and the above comment makes me think some people don't or don't want to understand and take full ownership of bad behaviour.

Bertiebiscuit · 11/03/2022 19:32

I'd be furious - so cheeky, and ask her why the points have been used, as you were saving them for a particular reason - I would shame her into paying me back the money

Mumontour85 · 11/03/2022 19:36

Unless your friend is really dumb, I'm not buying the other comments that say it was an honest mistake. Utter rubbish!

This was flat out cheeky fuckery at minimum, actually stealing at worst.

rebekuh · 11/03/2022 19:42

Some thank you. Cheeky F*er

Ilovetheseventies · 11/03/2022 19:44

I do not think in hindsight there is anything wrong with you asking her to put points on yr card, i think my attitude has been petty tbh. I am sure you wont be giving put yr card again.
She is definetly 100 % in the wrong. End off. Just need to be blunt and say you owe me £30. Very very cheeky and worrying that she is ok with this, what else would she be ok with.

CottonSock · 11/03/2022 19:47

This gives me a bit of anxiety that I could really piss off a friend without meaning to. I'd never knowingly short change a mate, but I'm one person who can see this misunderstanding happening.

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/03/2022 19:47

Maybe when you ask for the money you could frame it as "If I had left £30 on the side would you have taken that to pay for the shopping? No? Then why did you use the points that are the equivalent of cash on my card?"

In her head it was a little CF bonus, she will not consider herself a thief until you point it out.

DPotter · 11/03/2022 19:52

I agree - send her your bank details so she can repay the money

Tiredmummy123456 · 11/03/2022 20:25

I'm 50/50 on this one. She might have interpreted the offer of the coop card as using the points to pay. You know her best though...is she the kind of person who would do this to get a freebie? Or is this more likely to be an honest misunderstanding? Trust your instincts.

Tilltheend99 · 11/03/2022 20:26

I’ve read all your replies op and you have proven that your friend is a thief. If she used the checkout they would have asked her if she wanted to pay by points and if she used self checkout she would have had to go into a different screen to select the option. She clearly thought you wouldn’t notice or she did miss understand what you said and was too embarrassed to admit it but it is an odd thing to lie about🤨

It is cheeky to ask someone to collect points for you unless they offer.

Thumpkin · 11/03/2022 20:29

She’s doubly dishonest. She thought the cashier undercharged her by £23? She’s dishonest and not truthful. The fact that she offered to pay, didn’t actually fully pay, and still didn’t have the decency to offer you any money afterwards means I wouldn’t really want to consider her a good friend after that. Cheeky thing.

Thumpkin · 11/03/2022 20:31

And nothing cheeky about giving her a loyalty card to use with the purchase. What’s cheeky about it, if she doesn’t have one? What’s the supposed politeness in collecting zero points?

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