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What a repulsive man John Barrowman is

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Tequilabeliever · 22/02/2022 16:51

John Barrowman, indecent exposer extraordinaire has been on tv this morning talking about how it’s not sexual harassment to lob your knob out in front of your colleagues and everyone had a great time and thought it was hilarious whilst he was doing it.

How tone deaf can one man be. Even given it was over ten years ago, has it really ever been ok to behave in that way, anywhere, let alone in a workplace.

I’d love to hear from the women who were present when this was happening. I believe he actually put his penis on the shoulder of one woman. The man should have been arrested but no, he’s on tv talking about how painful it’s been for him, for this to have been brought to the attention of the public.

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Jux · 22/02/2022 17:54

I don't like him. I don't know anything about this, other than what I've read on this thread. It seems that some people were upset by it, complained, received an apology and he hasn't done it again.

Sounds OK to me.

Thoosa · 22/02/2022 17:54

@SNUG2022

His American accent is fake??
He emigrated halfway through his childhood, so has two accents he switches between. Same as Gillian Anderson, for example.

I can’t stand the smarmy little sex pest but I don’t think being a two-culture child is something he should get shit for.

DameHelena · 22/02/2022 17:55

I know a woman who worked with Barrowman when he was doing this. She told me about it at the time, as a gossipy story. She was laughing about it. I don't know how she feels about it now; haven't spoken to her about it more recently.
She was quite senior in her work and is by no means a pushover or a 'boys will be boys' type but I guess it was the work culture. I got the sense it was one of those things you kind of expect/see as 'normal' working in that world.
Not saying any of that is OK, just that that's my closest experience of what women (a woman) might think of his conduct.

AndAsIfByMagic · 22/02/2022 17:59

[quote Blue4YOU]@AndAsIfByMagic
Over and done with?
Like the passage of time makes it any less vile?
Personally this man and his actions and current views as expressed recently strike me as very dangerous.
Cancel culture?
He’s basically saying that gay men can expose themselves to women, sexually harass or assault them - because it isn’t “real”, it’s just comedy.
I was sexually assaulted by an allegedly gay doctor (I say allegedly as I don’t actually know how he considers the assault nor do I know whether he claims to be homosexual or bisexual or something else, but he is in a same sex marriage).
The reason my complaint to his employer was refused was because he is married to a same sex person.
That’s a large part of why the police didn’t even take the case to CPS.
That man single-handedly ruined most of the last two and a half years of my life.
Oh and he’s a real joker too.
Everyone thinks he’s just a lovely gay chap who sometimes goes a bit too far with his jokes.
Do you see what that means?
He can earn a fucking living (the doctor) scrubbing shit from a public loo for all I care.
And the same applies to this twat, and any other twat who has such low level intelligence and awareness of other people’s needs and boundaries that they imagine it’s ok to put their stupid penis on their shoulder.
Exactly how could this be defensible?
Had his colleagues signed up for assault just because they went to work?[/quote]
What happened to you was awful. But it wasn't John Barrowman who did it.

Be angry with the right person.

It's inexcusable today but, like it or not, "theatricals" often behaved in inappropriate ways. I've seen it happen may, many times.

BoredZelda · 22/02/2022 18:01

Addressing the accent point, are we sure it is affected? I had a friend as a child who was from Scotland and then moved to England. She switched between accents depending who she was talking to. English accent to us and Scottish to her family. It was a shock when I first heard her do it but it was completely natural and not affected. Could be the case here.

I do this. I never knew I did until my husband pointed it out to me.

BoredZelda · 22/02/2022 18:02

I don't like him. I don't know anything about this, other than what I've read on this thread. It seems that some people were upset by it, complained, received an apology and he hasn't done it again.

Except from what’s written about his appearance today, he didn’t sound very apologetic.

OneThingAndThenTheNext · 22/02/2022 18:02

I remember watching his Instagram stories, 2 maybe 3 years ago - constant taking down of his trousers and flashing his arse. Gambolling down the hall foyer in a hotel, naked from the waist down. Sitting on chairs with his trousers round his ankles, rubbing his bum on the fabric. This is not a “historical” thing, he’s only stopped as he’s been called out on it.

ChuckBerrysBoots · 22/02/2022 18:04

Another one with two accents here. Yes it’s weird. No I can’t control it.

Barrowman is gross regardless.

mummykel16 · 22/02/2022 18:06

@VioletLemon

Cannot stand the creepy AF mysoginist dickhead. Interested to know what the reaction would have been if he was doing this to men.

He certainly would not be on screen again. Women as per are supposed to grin and humour him. If he wasn't a gay man trading on camp "fun" he would be in jail. Imagine the reaction if Jeremy Clarkson went around doing this to women.

It's says everything about Barrowman, I happen to know he is a creepy weirdo. Can't believe he was on telly!! This Morning by any chance?

He was doing it to men
Jewel52 · 22/02/2022 18:09

@AndAsIfByMagic

It was over and done with years ago. Most people on set thought it was a laugh but 2 people didn't. They complained, rightly. He apologised to them and the behaviour stopped.

15 years ago.

He had tremendous public support last year when it was all dug up again. You don't like him? Others do.

He has a right to make a living. I hate cancel culture that allows for no mistakes. People need to accept that others are human and do daft things.

The Victorian age beckons.

I’ve done loads of silly things but they’ve not involved sexually harassing others. And the most significant thing here is that he still clearly has no understanding of what he did wrong. You hate that people aren’t allowed to make mistakes, I hate the current culture that says just apologise and it’s ok.
dworky · 22/02/2022 18:10

Yes, he's badly misjudged public opinion, believing he can sneakily ride the wave of the anti-woke backlash but his behaviour far exceeds sensitivity issues, instead failing every professional decency standard.

WanJames · 22/02/2022 18:11

Yanbu…I still haven’t recovered from the image of him tumbling down a hotel corridor with his arse out 😱

balalake · 22/02/2022 18:11

Just because something happened ten years ago does not stop someone going to the police now.

Chloemol · 22/02/2022 18:13

I have never ever liked him, he’s so slimy yuk

Tiredalwaystired · 22/02/2022 18:16

Chris Evans (the red headed one) is widely known to have done similar - stripping off on set for a “laugh”

Definitely a power thing

Horrible.

SpiderVersed · 22/02/2022 18:16

@Jux

I don't like him. I don't know anything about this, other than what I've read on this thread. It seems that some people were upset by it, complained, received an apology and he hasn't done it again.

Sounds OK to me.

He continued to do it for years despite being told not to by ALW and others, never apologised except in a “I’m sorry if they were offended” way, and gloats that he still has fans and the “mean women who can’t take a joke” hurt his feelings.

Entitled, perverted narcissist. No one wants to see his damned cock however much he feels the urge to flash it.

Blue4YOU · 22/02/2022 18:17

@AndAsIfByMagic
I am angry with the right person- thanks.
But it’s the worrying fact that he is using his sexual orientation to excuse his behaviour (which I admit I’m no expert on but was fairly extensive).
It’s not the case that “sexual intent” makes a crime sexual if by that we mean that the person doing the act (exposing/touching/ raping) only intended a “serious” (romantic or “purely” sexual encounter. The Sexual Offences Act is VERY clear on that.
He is using “cancel culture” to say that jokes aren’t sexual harassment or assault.
It’s not far off saying that gay men have an entitlement to jokingly assault people- especially when he doesn’t even try to apologise

daisychain01 · 22/02/2022 18:17

@AndAsIfByMagic

It was over and done with years ago. Most people on set thought it was a laugh but 2 people didn't. They complained, rightly. He apologised to them and the behaviour stopped.

15 years ago.

He had tremendous public support last year when it was all dug up again. You don't like him? Others do.

He has a right to make a living. I hate cancel culture that allows for no mistakes. People need to accept that others are human and do daft things.

The Victorian age beckons.

What a diabolical apologist for sick behaviour.

A man who actually respects people, especially women, does not feel the need to expose himself to other adults.

A mistake? Oh dear, somehow my knob just fell out of my trousers and landed on a woman's shoulder.

No, he's a disgusting pervert, nothing to do with cancelling culture.

blameless · 22/02/2022 18:19

Perhaps it's a peculiarity of the BBC auditioning policy for Doctor Who?

www.express.co.uk/celebrity-news/256454/Why-we-ll-never-know-the-naked-truth-of-Karen-Gillan-s-NY-hotel-shame

WhoreOfBabyliss · 22/02/2022 18:20

@EatSleepReplete

Sickos like this are one reason why I tend to keep my fingernails long.
Brilliant!
Cassop · 22/02/2022 18:20

I am sick of "omg cancel culture!?!" being wheeled out to stop people talking about wrongdoing, normally done by men.

There is no cancel culture in this case, like many rich, famous white men before him, he has been known to be completely sexually inappropriate in the workplace for absolutely years, he has a section on his Wikipedia page, kindly highlighting some of them.

Despite being a total pervert who can't keep his cock in his pants and this being known by the industry he worked in, he has had an extraordinarily long career. He is now back doing work and on the talk show circuit whining about cancel culture.

If the entertainment industry had been doing their job correctly, his career would have ended up in the 90s when it was shown he couldn't behave in a safe and nonperverted manner in the workplace.

Whines of cancel culture from these types of men or their supporters are ridiculous and the foot-stamping about how it was years ago, so why is it being dragged up again? So you can have decades whipping your cock out, but discussing this in any way after the fact, is somehow the wrong thing?

John and others like him, you have not been canceled because of some warriors on twitter or whatnot. You have been sacked/stopped being hired/not being hired as frequently because of your own disgusting behavior. Take some ownership and if you don't want this to be talked about don't do it?

CambsAlways · 22/02/2022 18:21

He makes me feel physically sick, he’s a weirdo

LizzieSiddal · 22/02/2022 18:22

I know people who’ve had to work with him. He’s well known for dropping his pants on numerous occasions, and for being a creep. Unfortunately people were too afraid to complain as they worried about the repercussions.

REP22 · 22/02/2022 18:23

Long before JB was on TV, he had form in the theatre for mooning out of his dressing room window. At fans waiting at the stage doors.

Also (apparently) for walking around at a party (possibly more than once) with his knob in a bread roll, as if he was carrying a hot-dog in front of him.

LizzieSiddal · 22/02/2022 18:24

This behaviour did not only occur 15 years ago. It occurred much more recently!