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If you’ve finished having children, Do you wish you had had more ?

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 14/02/2022 16:01

I sort of do
I could have sotsrted a family mid 20’s as was with dh from early 20s
But we wouldn’t have been able to do things how we wanted to if we had starters earlier

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ponkydonkey · 14/02/2022 16:03

No I don't I'm quite happy with my 2

Buy there was a 8 year age gap

Chasingsquirrels · 14/02/2022 16:04

I have 2 and would have liked 3.
It wasn't to be. 1st H only wanted 1 really and we split when the 2nd was young. With 2nd DH I was older, and he was older than me, but we'd have both been delighted of it happened, but it didn't. I'm definitely too old now, and wouldn't want a baby.

Justkeeppedaling · 14/02/2022 16:06

Yes! But I was late getting married, and 34 and 36 when I had my DCs. If I'd been younger, I'd have liked to have had more.

At the time I felt that I was getting on in age, and lucky to have had 2 healthy babies. I didn't want to take the risks that increase as you get closer to 40. However, if I'd been older "settling down", I would still have had children.

Disfordragon · 14/02/2022 16:06

Yes. I always wanted at least 3. DH wanted to stop after 1. Number 2 was an ultimatum. If I discovered I was pregnant now I’d cry for a long time.(46).

Comedycook · 14/02/2022 16:07

No...two is plenty

drpet49 · 14/02/2022 16:07

Yes, money was our factor in not having anymore

Roselilly36 · 14/02/2022 16:10

Yes and No really, yes because we would have possibly tried for a third if DS2 hadn’t been such a difficult baby, but no, because sticking to two we have been able to help them and give them more.

Trolleedollee · 14/02/2022 16:10

Absolutely not. I have 3, it's plenty

Whelmed · 14/02/2022 16:12

I have two and I'm turning 40 this year so partly feel like I don't want anymore and partly feel like I want another one...... Finances won't allow it but also I think I'm just missing the newborn stage. Certainly the idea of another boisterous toddler doesn't appeal as much!

Bridgetina · 14/02/2022 16:12

I really wish I had had one more but I’m 45 now so it’s highly unlikely.

HPLikecraft · 14/02/2022 16:13

Had 5. That, unsurprisingly, was enough!

Mayhemmumma · 14/02/2022 16:13

Ideally I wanted 3 close together before i was 30. But third never arrived - not been on contraception for 8 years now! (Am 37)

I'm only slightly sad about it, on most part I know the lack of sleep and not enough money would have been hard going. DH though is still hopeful!

FavouriteFortnight · 14/02/2022 16:15

If I was younger I might have been tempted to have a third but i am kind of glad that I’m too old for it to be sensible!

BusySittingDown · 14/02/2022 16:15

No, not a chance!

When my youngest was a baby I did think that I would want a third but as they grow more independent it's amazing.

I could never go back to the baby days. I have two fabulous DC and that's enough.

notacooldad · 14/02/2022 16:15

I went through a phase when Ds2 was about 2.5 maybe 3 where I desperately wanted 1 more child. Dh had always said from our dating days he wanted 2 no more. I did raise it my feelings with him. Dh is the most easy going person ever and always slots in with my plans. This was the only thing in 30 odd years he has been adamant about and wouldn't give in. A few months later my feelings subsided and I have never had that feeling again.
I am happy with two and dont have any regrets about not having a 3rd.

Florencenotflo · 14/02/2022 16:17

I've got 2 and I think im done. I've been hinting heavily for DH to get the snip since our youngest was born. I had awful PND after my youngest which I didn't really recognise until she was around 6 months. I still don't feel myself now if I'm honest and she's 2.5.

The last few weeks I've found myself really wanting another baby. No idea why. It's almost like an ache, it just won't go away. But if I give it a minute and think about how hard that first year of dd2's life was, I know, hand on heart I can't.

My DH was amazing through it all and I couldn't risk having another baby and feeling like I did then again. Especially with 2 children to consider already. Obviously with dd2 I didn't know I would get PND but now I know it could happen again I couldn't do it.

Plus our life is chaos 🤣 constant juggling of work and kids etc... no. See, I talk myself out of it. I may regret that in years to come but I'll live with it!

Sunshinedreaming2022 · 14/02/2022 16:18

Nope. We have 5 between us. It’s fabulous and I wouldn’t change it for the world but I do not want any more. I love not having to have a living room full of toys or always having to remember a massive bag every time we leave the house (youngest is 6).

spacehardware · 14/02/2022 16:19

I have 2 children with my ex husband; i sometimes feel slight wistfulness I didn't have one with my second (current - forever hopefully!) husband as it is the only thing "missing" from our wonderful marriage

PotatoGoblins · 14/02/2022 16:23

No. Definitely not.
I had 3 DCs in 5 years. The third one wasn’t remotely planned.
I love them, and would never be without them…but at the same time you couldn’t pay me to have another one Confused I am done. 100% done.

trilbydoll · 14/02/2022 16:23

Nope. Babies are very cute but I feel like I'm finally out of the fog of sleep deprivation and general chaos of small children and I wouldn't have wanted to extend that period!

Ricepops · 14/02/2022 16:24

I have two and have been going back and forth about having a third for the past 6 months. Mine are 7 and 4 and I'm now 38. Not sure what to do, but I've made and cancelled two appointments to have my IUD removed, so maybe that's telling me something!

snowone · 14/02/2022 16:27

No - had 2 DC, one at 32 and one at 36. Just approaching 40 and 2 is definitely enough for us

Elllicam · 14/02/2022 16:28

I have 5 kids and I do feel a bit wistful that I won't ever be pregnant again or have another baby. I know that I need to concentrate on raising the kids we have though and hopefully giving them a good start in life. Plus I've had 4 sections and 4 major haemorrhages so medically it would be very stupid.

stargirl1701 · 14/02/2022 16:29

Yes. I wish I had had 3. 4 pregnancies, 2 DC. Eldest is autistic so after her diagnosis I felt it was too much. She'll need extra support for her entire lifespan until we die.

HopefulProcrastinator · 14/02/2022 16:31

No. Medically it would be stupid, financially and emotionally it would be unfair to our existing children.

Frankly, it'd be a selfish decision to have more children for us.