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If you’ve finished having children, Do you wish you had had more ?

157 replies

LovelyYellowLabrador · 14/02/2022 16:01

I sort of do
I could have sotsrted a family mid 20’s as was with dh from early 20s
But we wouldn’t have been able to do things how we wanted to if we had starters earlier

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Isthisrealisthisnow · 14/02/2022 16:32

No. I was decided I was done at 28w pregnant with DS2. The last trimester and birth put me off for life!

DH and I have always spoken about how it would be nice to have a daughter. But we have no chance, there's nothing but boys in his family (4 kids and 16 grandkids, all boys!).

Cottagepieandpeas · 14/02/2022 16:32

I would have loved more. I have one.

LBOCS2 · 14/02/2022 16:33

Yes, sort of.

We have DSS from DH's previous relationship, then DD1 and DD2. The period between the girls and after DD2 was born was quite fraught in parts and then in the immediate period after there were lots of life events going on, and so I feel like I missed the boat to have another - without really realising it, I was forging ahead with my career and suddenly DD2 was starting school.

If we'd thought about it at the time I would probably have liked another with a similar age gap (3ish years) but that passed us by and now DSS is 15 and DD2 is 6 and it's all a bit too late. DH doesn't really want to start again either, understandably - he's spent the last 15 years raising small children and would like some time for himself and I can't say that I blame him. There is a little bit of regret though - not much, but a little.

MintJulia · 14/02/2022 16:33

Yes, I have one and would have liked two but never met the right man, and it wouldn't have been fair to have another, knowing the relationship was failing.

momtoboys · 14/02/2022 16:33

Many many think I am quite daft but i have 5 and would have loved just one more. I feel like I was so stressed and just trying to get through every day in one piece that I didn't relax enjoy my boys enough when they were little.

Imsittinginthekitchensink · 14/02/2022 16:34

I've got one and I'm very happy. I would not have been a good mum to more than one,

FedUpWithBriiiiick · 14/02/2022 16:34

Nope, one and done.

gogohm · 14/02/2022 16:35

I have two with exh, I certainly would have loved more if I had met dp younger but we were both older and it's probably not even possible, certainly not sensible. Upshot is our kids are at university and we can do fun things, but there's a little bit of me that wonders what if

Dottychickens · 14/02/2022 16:38

No, mine are teens and I’m starting to get excited at being able to do more on my own or with Dh.

I also love the time I get with my teens, they’re older and days out are more fun/aimed at more adventurous activities.

At lot of my friends had children at similar times to me but have gone on to have number 3 or 4 and they’re still at toddler groups/struggling to find family activities that fit in all age groups.

Twospaniels · 14/02/2022 16:39

I have two daughters and often wish I had had a third child, but at the time I should have have it, I didn’t want one, but as my girls grew up I wished I took the plunge and had another.

Nevermind, they are grown up now and husband and I have freedom to do what we want, and before we know it there may be grandchildren

RonCarlos · 14/02/2022 16:41

Yes, I wish I had had one more but I was too knackered/scared besides which DH was adamantly against the idea.

RonCarlos · 14/02/2022 16:42

I'm now planning a dog instead and he's keener on this Smile

GeneLovesJezebel · 14/02/2022 16:44

Yes. DH said no to another, if I had my time again I’d have one anyway.

FieldOverFence · 14/02/2022 16:50

I have 2 and am done ! I often think I wouldn't mind having a third child, but I don't want a third baby ... like i basically want to birth a potty trained, talking, 4-year-old :D

strawberrycream45 · 14/02/2022 16:51

Yes. We have 2 (youngest is 1) and would love to try for a 3rd near the end of the year but if our finances don't improve we'll be stopping at 2. Breaks my heart as I still feel there's another soul waiting for us on the other side, but i couldn't stretch our budget anymore.

Looking forward to having some nieces and nephews in the future to cuddle, and at least I won't be the one being woken up by them 😂 x

ivfbabymomma1 · 14/02/2022 16:54

I have one... some days I think that's it other days I want another. I just can't decide

EmpressSuiko · 14/02/2022 17:00

Sometimes I do, I think it’s more to do with a miscarriage I had and I feel a longing for the child I never had if that makes sense?
I am very happy with two and they both have ASD so a having a third child may have been even more hectic, having a baby now would also be a big no no as our children are heading towards secondary school age, we will get some more time to ourselves in our 30s that we didn’t have in our 20s as we were running around after little ones!

FennecShandDoesEverything · 14/02/2022 17:01

I considered a 3rd, but the further we get out of the baby days the gladder I am we didn't do it. I feel speechlessly grateful occasionally that I don't have to deal with TTC, or worrying about miscarriage, or worrying about stillbirth, or worrying about SIDS, or breastfeeding, or maternity leave, or bedsharing, or broken nights, or weaning, or nappies ever again.

AledsiPad · 14/02/2022 17:01

I have 4. I frequently question my own sanity.

I'm done, thanks.

*Disclaimer - I wouldn't be without a single one of them, they are all utterly adored.

MinnieMountain · 14/02/2022 17:05

Nope. 1 and very happily done. I miscarried planned number 2 and we decided not to try again.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 14/02/2022 17:09

No, I am very happy with my one.

IrishMamaMia · 14/02/2022 17:09

Get broody very occasional but a third child would not fit into our lives. Had my kids relatively young and am enjoying my friends and relatives babies now :)

sofakingcool · 14/02/2022 17:09

Absolutely

Two DS's aged 13 and 18

Two MMC 2011/2012. I've never got over the fact we didn't have a third, although I made peace with it when DS1 hit 12/13 as I then felt it was the way it was.

I'll always have a weird sadness that I didn't say goodbye to the baby days, as I always assumed we'd have another Sad

TurquoiseDragon · 14/02/2022 17:10

I have 2. As I was birthing DC2, I told my ex there would be no more.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 14/02/2022 17:11

Nope. I have one. He's turning 9 this year. Never once wavered in my decision to have no more.