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If you’ve finished having children, Do you wish you had had more ?

157 replies

LovelyYellowLabrador · 14/02/2022 16:01

I sort of do
I could have sotsrted a family mid 20’s as was with dh from early 20s
But we wouldn’t have been able to do things how we wanted to if we had starters earlier

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DinosApple · 14/02/2022 19:31

I'm happy with two. I definitely wavered when I was younger, and so did DH. Fortunately we were never both wanted a third at the same time!

DC are lovely, but I find it much harder emotionally now at preteen age than as tiny tots.

GiantSpider · 14/02/2022 19:37

No! I have three and that's more than enough!!

padsi1975 · 14/02/2022 19:39

I have three, had three miscarriages and wish I'd had a 4th. But I'm hoping that as the grief of the miscarriages fades over the years, I will feel better about it all. Very grateful for the three I have, I know I'm so so lucky.

TrippinEdBalls · 14/02/2022 19:42

No, but then that's how I know I'm finished - my youngest is only one so I could have another, but I have absolutely no desire to. Ever since DS2 arrived I've felt complete and 'done'. I feel really lucky to feel that way - I know some women never do and it must be horrible if you keep having a really strong yearning but to know you've got to let your head (or just biology) win over your heart.

Timeturnerplease · 14/02/2022 19:45

I’m one of four and would happily have four children myself but NOT four babies. We can’t afford it anyway and DH is too old, but I just couldn’t do another baby stage. DD2 is 6mo and and I’m literally holding on by my fingernails waiting for her to learn to walk and talk!

I find people who love fhe baby stage quite baffling…

FindingMeno · 14/02/2022 19:46

Hell no!

DramaAlpaca · 14/02/2022 19:53

I have three. I didn't feel done until I had my lovely third son. I'd have loved another baby and I had time as I had DS3 at 33, but we decided it would be too much so we were sensible and DH got the snip.

HelenaJustina · 14/02/2022 19:58

Nope, married and started a family young, had 4 before I was 30. Didn’t want any more even though biologically had plenty of time.

rainrainraincamedowndowndown · 14/02/2022 19:59

Yes. I only have one, and happy about it, but for my dc, I do think it might have been better for him if I had at least one more. My dc had multiple health issues, spent a lot of time in hospital in early stage. It was a right decision. But do regret not giving him any siblings.

ChiefAdjusterOfRubensShorts · 14/02/2022 20:03

Absolutely not.

I only ever wanted 1 DC and DH felt the same.

MarshaBradyo · 14/02/2022 20:03

I’m happy with three

I had strong pangs for a while but too old and now they’ve completely passed

Whitefire · 14/02/2022 20:04

I have three, absolutely done, the last one made that very certain.

RJnomore1 · 14/02/2022 20:09

Yes. I have two, always wanted three but I am very bad at being pregnant and at risk of extreme preemie birth if I had another. My youngest will be 18 this year and I still feel like someone is missing, DH and I would do it all again in a heartbeat if it wasn’t for the medical risks though. I suspect im getting too old now anyway. It’s probably my one big regret in life. Although focusing on the positive, it would be much harder financially, career wise too, and we are free to do things we wouldn’t be with another younger one.

A580Hojas · 14/02/2022 20:24

No. I'm so happy I had exactly what I wanted - two healthy children born within three years of each other. Feel blessed.

Porthia · 14/02/2022 20:29

Always wanted 3, I now have 3. I do sometimes think it would be lovely to have another and i have been really broody again in the past - when my youngest was about 18 months particularly. But we won’t.

I don’t think I really do want another one, it’s more that I love babies!

Juanbablo · 14/02/2022 20:31

Yes. I wanted 4 but had a hard time with number 3, pregnancy, birth and afterwards. So we stopped. Now I'm 34 and my children are growing up and I wish I had more.

RiverSkater · 14/02/2022 20:33

Yes, but I started too late (40) and we would need to move house as ours is tiny!

Two is good though 😊

SoItWas · 14/02/2022 20:38

I used to regret not giving ds a brother or sister, but now I'm relieved I didn't.

inheritancetrack · 14/02/2022 20:39

No, happy with my 2

hellywelly3 · 14/02/2022 20:40

We had 3, I think I would of liked one more. But financially we didn’t want to stretch to a bigger mortgage etc.

Kitkat151 · 14/02/2022 20:44

I had 3 ...that was one more that I wanted....but wouldn’t be without them now....certainly never wanted anymore after that...Became a granny at 50 .... same year my youngest turned 18

PinkPansies · 14/02/2022 20:49

We have 3 and ideally I'd have liked to have had 4.

A fourth would have meant huge lifestyle changes though. A bigger car, dc wouldn't have had their own rooms, far less money due to childcare etc etc. So I know it was the right decision.

PrettyBluebells · 14/02/2022 20:51

I have 2 and a step, no regrets. I'm 54 now and I'm happy I didn't have anymore as there is life after children.

sunshineandshowers40 · 14/02/2022 20:55

I have 3, very happy and definitely don't want any more.

Worldwide2 · 14/02/2022 20:59

We have 2 and I always said 3 but now my youngest is nearly 2 I'm not sure. On one hand I feel like everything is much easier and much more fun on the other I keep having a pang for one more. So I don't know 😩