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If you’ve finished having children, Do you wish you had had more ?

157 replies

LovelyYellowLabrador · 14/02/2022 16:01

I sort of do
I could have sotsrted a family mid 20’s as was with dh from early 20s
But we wouldn’t have been able to do things how we wanted to if we had starters earlier

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Fridaysgirl17 · 14/02/2022 17:14

Nope I had 2,3 years apart, youngest is 18 months & that's it for me I only wanted 2 & it's plenty,I had 2 complicated pregnancies with premature births & I couldn't go through it again even if I wanted to,my relationship with their dad ended a few months ago due to him cheating,his OW is expecting now so he's ok,so between them they have 5 kids but ours are non existent to them,if I find myself in a relationship again will be going into it on the premise of no more kids also I'm 39 so for me that's it

TimBoothseyes · 14/02/2022 17:19

No. I only ever wanted 1.

SockFluffInTheBath · 14/02/2022 17:26

No. We nearly had more (scuppered by a failed house move) and I’m very glad we didn’t.

bellsbuss · 14/02/2022 17:28

I have 4 and sometimes wish I had had a fifth but DH said 4 was plenty Grin

SartresSoul · 14/02/2022 17:29

I have five so that’s obviously more than enough, DH has had a vasectomy so that’s the end of it for us. Youngest is only 18 months so not massively bothered right now, it might suddenly hit me in my late 30s or something. Ultimately feel ok with the amount of DC I have, I can cope well with them and we have the money and space for them.

mamatoTails · 14/02/2022 17:31

We really wanted 4, and our 4th was twins so we have 5.
That's most definitely enough!

RRBB1920 · 14/02/2022 17:31

No because I nearly died having my daughter, two births but only one bought home is enough for me.

Soubriquet · 14/02/2022 17:33

Yes. I’ve got two and dh had the snip about a year after ds was born. Ds is nearly 7 now and I’m broody as hell Sad

Soubriquet · 14/02/2022 17:34

Edit to add, dh would love to have another one too. He had the snip because at the time my health was that bad, we couldn’t imagine bringing another child in the world and potentially killing me. Now it’s 200% better

TheDuchessOfMN · 14/02/2022 17:34

No. Lots of my colleagues and friends are currently having babies, and I’ll take a quick glance at a newborn photo, but have absolutely zero desire for it to be me.
Done.

Notdoingthis · 14/02/2022 17:35

I have 3 and can't imagine life with less. Then again, 4 would be a stretch in zo many ways. 3 is perfect for us.

pumpkinpie01 · 14/02/2022 17:35

I have 4 and that's plenty , 20 years between the youngest and oldest

TheWeeDonkey · 14/02/2022 17:37

3 pregnancies, 1 child. We would have loved more but it wasn't worth our sanity. I'm hoping we'll have lots of lovely grandkids, but that will be a while yet.

InvincibleInvisibility · 14/02/2022 17:41

Im happy with my 2. DH wanted 3 and we went back and forth for years about whether we should have a 3rd.

Both have ADHD and dyspraxia so I am soooo glad we stopped at 2. Although the reason at the time was that they were so difficult as babies and toddlers, which in fact was explained by their diagnosis

whoruntheworldgirls · 14/02/2022 17:48

@ivfbabymomma1

I have one... some days I think that's it other days I want another. I just can't decide
Same here, she's 5.5 and i've been like this for 2.5 years. Really sick of my indecision
audweb · 14/02/2022 17:52

Nope, I have one she’s nine, that’s enough. I look at others with two, three… and that’s fair enough for them but I’ve never wanted anymore.

bobsholi · 14/02/2022 17:54

I have 3 and I'm happy we stuck at that. I felt very broody for the first 2 years of DC3s life, but now that things have got so much easier there is no way I'd want to go back to the baby and toddler stage!

CanIHaveASnaaaaak · 14/02/2022 17:54

We have 2 and are happy. Theoretically we’d have lots more, practically we know it wouldn’t work out well.

We can have a standard car, afford holidays, have simple days out.

We thought about going for 3, but unfortunately practicality and affordability made the choice for us.

TomAllenWife · 14/02/2022 17:55

No 3 is plenty

I think it's true you know when you're done!

If no3 had been no1 he'd have been an only child Grin

LizzieSiddal · 14/02/2022 17:57

Not at all despite the fact I had 3 miscarriages trying to have a third child.
I’m now 56 and so glad I only had two. You never stop worrying about your children and I’m so glad I only have two to worry about. We also are able to help them as adults, helping them through university, paying for their weddings, helping with deposit for a house, we would have really struggled to do that for three!

CosmicComfort · 14/02/2022 17:59

I have 2 and there have been times I wished for a 3rd. I think with me, it was because I had to have a hysterectomy when ds2 was young so had no choice but to stop.

I haven’t wished for that for many years now though. Our dses are 19 and nearly 18 and am very happy we won’t have to support a 3rd through university.

I think the decision not to have anymore or nit being able to have anymore makes you question yourself and triggers broody feelings sometimes, certainly did for me anyway!

ThomasinaGallico · 14/02/2022 18:02

My two are 20 and nearly 18, one of each. If we had had 2 DDs we might have considered trying for a third child, but I’d had two C sections (and 3 pregnancies, the first a MC at 6 weeks Sad). I knew when DS was about 6 months old that that was it for me; I did not have the physical energy or emotional resources for more. And though I love my kids to bits (and they seem to have turned out fine) I’m shocked at how little talent I have for interacting with children.

Wedonttalkaboutbruno1 · 14/02/2022 18:03

Yes - I really wanted another, but it wasn’t meant to be Sad

TwoBigNoisyBoys · 14/02/2022 18:05

Yes, I think I would have if I’d been married to a different man. If I’d been with the partner I was with now, I definitely would have had more than 2, as he’s a lovely dad to his 3 and I think we would have had a great, happy family together. As it is, I’m glad I stuck to 2.

BrutusMcDogface · 14/02/2022 18:07

Very lucky to have four, and very VERY done. I’m back working full time and feeling like I can’t do it all.