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Are you in touch with school friends?

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DaisyChains3 · 06/02/2022 18:45

I wonder how many people are still in touch with people they knew at school. I sometimes look people up to see what they are doing, but i am not in touch with anyone now.

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katscamel · 07/02/2022 00:42

I've got a couple of close friends from Secondary school. Due to moving away etc we lost touch for a few years but then with the magic of Facebook (), found each other and our friendship continued as it had been. Also have several that are Facebook friends more than anything but we're still there for each other.
My mum is still friends with people she met at school/secretarial college back in the 50s/60s...without the help of social media.

Pyriah · 07/02/2022 00:44

What friends? They didn’t want to know me when we were at school together so they certainly aren’t going to be my friends now.

CharSiu · 07/02/2022 00:57

I am still friends with a girl I knew at school I was 5 so that’s 50 years. I was in touch intermittently with 3 others. I missed the Christmas card from one this year and found out recently that she died in early December. I have also found out another friend died recently. It’s sad they were 54 and 55, one had children that are only 10 and 12.

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thaegumathteth · 07/02/2022 00:59

In touch with loads on Facebook and talk to each other on there but in terms of people I actually meet up with - 3 of them although not regularly as I don't live local to any of them and in a different country from all of them! They're all friends from secondary school, I am in touch with people from primary as I said, via Facebook, but not proper friends with them.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 07/02/2022 06:04

Yes, my 3 closest friends are all people I've been friends with since primary school.

WahWahWahs · 07/02/2022 06:34

Yes, my main group of friends are my school friends. We don’t live near each other now but we have a WhatsApp group and plan meet ups and weekends away whenever we can. We’ve been through it all together with hopefully many more years to come.
I am also FB friends with quite a few (we are all in our 40s) so ‘chat’ sometimes that way. I like seeing their lives.
Also have a couple of friends I might meet for a coffee when I am visiting my parents’ home town.
It’s nice to stay in touch if you’re lucky enough to have positive memories of school. I know that’s not possible for everyone.

playthatviolin · 07/02/2022 06:41

I have one i've stayed close friends with for 45 years, another who moved away but I still speak to and catch up with in person occasionally, and a few I am friends with on fb.

notsureofname · 07/02/2022 08:00

Yes one from primary - so 60+ years and at least 5 from secondary school so 50+ years. Spread out over London and meet for lunch several times a year.

Wasitworthita · 07/02/2022 08:37

Yes daily but I live in a small town. Unusually, most of us stayed here, settled down and had kids. It’s in a beautiful but not well known location. Nowhere else looks or feels as good.

DelurkingAJ · 07/02/2022 08:40

Very much so, a few from primary, a whole tribe from secondary and many from sixth form too. We’re scattered all over the country (and overseas) so don’t meet up as much as we’d like but manage a few times a year in normal times.

ifonly4 · 07/02/2022 09:22

I'm still friends with someone I met at nursery and we went through school together in the same friendship group. We only see eachother every couple of months but text and phone occasionally inbetween.

One really nice thing that came out of our friendship is that we got talking to someone where I lived, he invited us to his party and I ended up marrying him. My friend ended up marrying his friend! We both still with our DHs which is really nice when we get together.

spiderlight · 07/02/2022 11:25

Yes - still close with a couple and in touch with a handful more on FB. Two people I hadn't seen since leaving school came to my dad's funeral, which meant the world to me.

Fifthtimelucky · 07/02/2022 13:27

I have two proper friends from school - one of whom dates back to the beginning of primary school. We went through a few years of not seeing each other much when our children were younger, because we all lived in completely different parts of the country, but we now usually manage to see each other three or four three times a year - sometimes just two of us and sometimes all three.

I am also in a Facebook group of people from my year at secondary school - very few of whom I actually remember. That was set up in order to plan a reunion to mark our 60th birthdays. Covid put paid to that - twice - but we're hoping to do it this summer instead. There's really only a handful of people I'm interested in seeing again.

StCharlotte · 07/02/2022 13:40

Yes. Spent the weekend with one and am going away with another in the year. Also in touch with two or three others on Facebook and saw them fairly recently.

Most of DH's friends are school friends as we live where they all grew up.

pitterpatterrain · 07/02/2022 13:48

3 from secondary school still meet up with here and there and chat, 3 from uni - I wasn’t really so close to that many people at uni as I was a bit of a fish out of water.

Allsorts1 · 07/02/2022 13:51

I’m still actively friends with some of my high school friends and I have one friend from primary school who I would still consider a friend (go to each other weddings and catch up a few times a year).

onedayoranother · 07/02/2022 15:07

I live 3500 miles away from where I went to school. I'm still in touch with one, who I see every few years. I'm in touch with a couple of friends from university, but I went in two different countries and live in a third. Most of my friends are either from my first few years at work when we were all single or from the 'school gate'. A couple people I met as they worked for me and became friends.

Disneyblueeyes · 07/02/2022 15:43

Nope none of them. Not even university either (both times).
Not sure why really.

I am however still good friends with my childhood next door neighbour (2 years younger). We live a way from each other now but still make the effort.

To be fair I spent most time with her outside school than friends in school so that's probably why.

timestheyarechanging · 07/02/2022 15:46

Yep, still in touch with several school friends - we are in our 50s now and still meet up a few times a year. Some of us were closer than others so we see each other more. I love my school friends - our kids have grown up together and our partners have become friends. I feel blessed.

timestheyarechanging · 07/02/2022 15:50

Yesterday I was with my friend from school (we are 50 and 51- were at school from 11) with our husbands. I still live where we were brought up but my friend doesn't. We have fabulous days/ weekends/ holidays together

timestheyarechanging · 07/02/2022 15:51

And also still in touch with many many school friends - I'm 51 and glad that I am

NannyGythaOgg · 07/02/2022 17:39

I'm 66.

I have known my best friend since I was 2. We grew up on the same street and our mothers were friends.
Another friend I have known since I was 7 and we still meet up every couple of months and chat every week or two.
A third, mutual friend of the second, I have again known since I was a tot living on the same street but we rarely meet up and just touch base on FB occasionally

StCharlotte · 07/02/2022 18:10

@StCharlotte

Yes. Spent the weekend with one and am going away with another in the year. Also in touch with two or three others on Facebook and saw them fairly recently.

Most of DH's friends are school friends as we live where they all grew up.

Should have said - I'm late 50s.

seethecolours · 07/02/2022 18:30

No, none.

timestheyarechanging · 08/02/2022 20:58

Yes lots and I'm 51. Some I see rarely due to distance and some regularly. Was out with one on Saturday (friends since aged 11 and our partners also went to school together - her husband introduced me to my partner) and am meeting another two this coming Saturday who I went to junior school with!

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