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Are you in touch with school friends?

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DaisyChains3 · 06/02/2022 18:45

I wonder how many people are still in touch with people they knew at school. I sometimes look people up to see what they are doing, but i am not in touch with anyone now.

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ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 06/02/2022 21:16

Yes, some of them are still some of my very best friends. Even when we all went off to different unis and settled in different areas we stayed in touch. Still meet up regularly.

driftcompatible · 06/02/2022 21:33

No. To be really frank- I grew up and outgrew them. As an adult I don't have anything in common with people I went to school with 30 odd years ago.

I often notice on Facebook a group of women who were in a clique at school still refer to each other as besties in their 40s and do everything together. Just seems a bit sad. Like none of them progressed. Same group, same dramas, same nonsense - but at age 40. They've just stagnated.

bananaboats · 06/02/2022 21:35

Only 1 but DH is the opposite most of his close friends are people he's known since school

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Toddlerteaplease · 06/02/2022 21:51

None apart from one teacher. I didn't have any friends as primary school. And only a couple at secondary.

caringcarer · 06/02/2022 22:06

Only one, my best friend from school. We chat on phone and messenger every month. We live far apart. Neither of us live in our home town anymore. I only go back 3 or 4 times a year at most to visit my sister's since my Mum passed away. My friend only goes home once a year as overseas. When I go back to home town though I usually see several old friends in town and chat to.

OutdoorType · 06/02/2022 22:08

Only one but only see them occasionally as we live far away

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 06/02/2022 22:10

My best friends are girls I went to school with. One from infant school and the other from secondary school

Birdkin · 06/02/2022 22:12

My best friends are almost all people I went to school with and still see a lot of people from school as friends of friends at birthdays/weddings etc.

downtonupton · 06/02/2022 22:13

I left school in 1986 and am still besties with 3 school friends and FB friends with a dozen more. The besties all live in different areas and have different lives - but out kids have grown up with a cousiny relationship. We go camping or a festival at least once a year and see each other other times throughout the year as well as birthdays and events. Whatsapp group active daily. But I know I am lucky.

I have no uni friends to speak of (a couple on FB) and I have a lot of other friends - but they are the best - practically family and have gulp known them for over 40 years!

rambleonplease · 06/02/2022 22:13

Yes in touch with a lot from secondary school and 6th form. In touch only via Facebook with some from primary too. I'm in my 40's so it's been a while since I was at school!

Ragwort · 06/02/2022 22:18

Yes - my two closest friends are from primary school ... in fact one of them I met at nursery school - we are in our 60s. We don't live that near to each other now but I still consider them very good friends. I do have other friends I have met over the years of course but there's something comforting about knowing people 'all your life' ... we are all very different people though and I wonder if we would be such good friends if we met now? Interestingly, although I am close friends with both of them they really don't get on with each other and our one attempt to all meet up was not successful!

My 88 year old mother is still friends with someone she met at school.

SprayedWithDettol · 06/02/2022 22:21

Yes. We’ve been friends for 43 years. That’s frightening.

RestingStitchFace · 06/02/2022 22:23

A fair few of them via social media (lost touch for a few years but reconnected through Facebook. No longer live in my hometown so don't really see them in person though.)

NothingButADreamerOhNo · 06/02/2022 22:23

No one from school (11-16) but my best 4 best friends and from A'level (16-18j college and we are very close. We are all 41 now.

PrettyBluebells · 06/02/2022 22:25

No, I walked out of those school gates and have never seen a single one socially since. I moved abroad 2 years later but I'm now back in my home town, I'm not sure I'd recognise many people. My ds is good friends with the ds of one of the in crowd from my school, we are now friendly but only when we see each other, not socially.

BogRollBOGOF · 06/02/2022 22:27

I'm in casual touch, but not a proper active friendship.
Left school 20+ years ago and moved out of the area. No one could afford to buy locally so while people are around the area, there isn't a natural nucleus.

I still have active friendships from university.

addictedtotheflats · 06/02/2022 22:30

Yes my 3 closest friends and I have been friends for 22 years since year 7! We all speak multiple times a week despite living all around the north of england and see each other frequently.

Lanaaaa · 06/02/2022 22:32

I’m friends with maybe 4. One girl was my neighbour as well as classmate at primary school. Another girl was my best pal from 14-18 but we went to different universities and lost touch a bit - then became close again early 20s - then lost touch again as she moved away, but we exchange a few WhatsApps every month. One guy was in my history class, and another was in my form group - we share a few WhatsApps every so often.

Littlehouseonthefairy · 06/02/2022 22:32

Still see one group of school friends, 6 of us, about once a month. Meet up with 2 others less frequently and in WhatsApp, Facebook, bump into and have a chat with touch with maybe 10 others.

Marchon77 · 06/02/2022 22:36

A few left school over 20 years ago.oddly one of them is a girl I did stop contact with from about 13-15 now very close.

Benjispruce5 · 06/02/2022 22:46

I maintained a few friendships for a couple of decades but one emigrated and the other became distant after I had children and she decided to be child-free. Now my DC are adults we have gradually rekindled our friendship. Most of my friends are previous workmates.

TellerTuesday · 06/02/2022 22:52

Lots we live in a small town and the majority seem to have stayed local so I always see someone from schooldays at the supermarket etc.

Two of my closest friends are from primary and another 3 secondary school, see each other fortnightly on average and in constant contact. There were 3 more that were in our group who have broke the pattern and moved away though

RaininSummer · 06/02/2022 23:19

A few. Left school in 1979.

DerAlteMann · 06/02/2022 23:43

There were 3 I kept in touch with. Sadly they are all dead now.

RampantIvy · 06/02/2022 23:44

Only on Facebook.

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