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Are you in touch with school friends?

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DaisyChains3 · 06/02/2022 18:45

I wonder how many people are still in touch with people they knew at school. I sometimes look people up to see what they are doing, but i am not in touch with anyone now.

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YesitsBess · 06/02/2022 19:10

My best friend since we were eleven. She's coming to visit in 4 weeks and am very excited!

ImInStealthMode · 06/02/2022 19:12

I have about 4 people from school on Facebook, but just 1 that I communicate with regularly and consider a real friend. That 1 is a bloke, funnily enough.

I don't think many of the people I was friends with at school still live in our home city, we're wildly spread so no wonder we've lost touch.

Panicmode1 · 06/02/2022 19:13

Yes, a large % of them, three of them are godmothers to my children. But I went to boarding school and there were only 40 of us in the year, so they are more like sisters than schoolfriends. I've known one of them from playgroup and our mothers were friends before either of them were pregnant!

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Benjispruce5 · 06/02/2022 19:13

I’m 50 so a long time ago now. Just one and I see her a few times a year.

Wanttosleepproperlyplease · 06/02/2022 19:16

About 3 or 4 a few times a year. We live in the town where DP grow up and see his school friends that still live here often - it’s nice! My dad has 2 friends he has been friends with since he was 5 and started school; they are all now 62 and soul mates really

Grantingmum · 06/02/2022 19:16

Yes. We live all over the place now but try to meet up usually 2 times a year. We message regularly on WhatsApp.

sixtiesbaby88 · 06/02/2022 19:17

@steppingcarefully

Still best friends with best friend from primary school, 46 years later!
Me too!
ABitOfAShitShow · 06/02/2022 19:22

Not a single one. I did move from north to south a very long time ago though. And I left school at 16 to go to college to do something creative whereas they all stayed on at sixth form so we were already drifting.

I’m in touch with someone from college but she neither lives here nor there so I see her very rarely (we managed to overlap in Newcastle at Christmas so that was great). Smile

My two best friends are from work (different places and I don’t work with either now). I have a few friends from my current org who I spend time with too.

MissCalamity · 06/02/2022 19:24

One.
I left school in 1995 and initially had a large group of friends, but slowly lost contact through the rest of the 90's.
Fb friends with a few but don't really have much interest in rekindling a friendship now.

wendywoopywoo222 · 06/02/2022 19:24

I have seven friends from school that I still see regularly and I left school 40 years ago.

Scubalubs87 · 06/02/2022 19:25

My school friends are still my closest group of friends - some of us have been friends since primary school. We're in pretty much daily contact via WhatsApp and I see them all regularly. Our social lives have evolved - we all now have our children - but, it's pretty special to have moved into new phases of life with each other. A few in particular, are the people closest to me outside of my family. The people who knew I was pregnant as soon as I did and who I'd call in an emergency.

Those of us that went away for uni returned home. My town is a London commuter town and it's pretty common that most people return home eventually, even if they spent part of their 20s living in the city, which I suspect is one of the reasons we've all remained close.

Cam2020 · 06/02/2022 19:26

Nope. In my late teens to late twenties I was fairly close to one of the girls from senior school who was in the same crowd but not a close friend during school. We were in different phases in our lives after that though and never really in sync again so the friendship fizzled. We still catch up occasionally but we're both busy with families and other friends.

I had good friendships in school and fond memories but they were of their time.

Cheekypeach · 06/02/2022 19:27

Still best friends with 2 of them, 20 years later ❤️

ShirleyPhallus · 06/02/2022 19:28

I know a few, but I honestly find it really depressing that the only thing that binds us is school. One friend in particular will only talk about school days and it’s really frustrating that we have had 20/25 years since leaving school and barely talk about careers / life / children cos the topic de jour is still how Sally Smith got fingered on the dance floor of Legends

FoamBurst · 06/02/2022 19:28

I see loads in passing. But I have one who weve been friends since pre school so nearly 40 years and see each other every school holidays. Either just at home or go out for the day

autienotnaughty · 06/02/2022 19:28

2 friends, we were very close n our twenties but have sadly grown apart as we have got older. We still occasionally meet tho.

notacooldad · 06/02/2022 19:30

Only one male friend who was two years above me at school and that is on Facebook. He was and still is the life and soul of every event and such a nice man. I think he has got everyone from his school days on Facebook and his posts are always fun and positive. I’ve not seen him in 42 years though!

peboh · 06/02/2022 19:30

My closest friend is a friend from secondary school, we've been friends going on 16 years now, also still good friends with most of the same friendship group we had in school. We've grown up together, seen each other at our best and worst, weddings, children, funerals etc. I can't imagine not being friends with them for the rest of my life.
I only have a couple of friends who I've met after school, but those are the kind of friends where I see them every couple of months and text sporadically.

BrinksmansEntry · 06/02/2022 19:31

Yes - secondary not primary though.

ParkheadParadise · 06/02/2022 19:32

Yes, my best friend I met at school. We text daily and meet up at least once a week. When my dd died my BF was abroad on holiday she cut her holiday short and fly home the next day.
I also have a couple of friends from school on FB and we message occasionally.

Longdistance · 06/02/2022 19:33

My bf since I was 5 and we went to Sunday school together. We are now 46 and she is godmother to my dds. She’s amazing 🤩
I have other friends from school on FB and then I know those that were arseholes at school.

RonCarlos · 06/02/2022 19:33

Yes, I lived with or near my close school friend group in my home city after graduating and at 43 I still meet up with them quite often despite having moved away.

The friends I am most myself around are old friends.

hivemindneeded · 06/02/2022 19:33

Only on FB, except two who I genuinely intend to meet up with at some point this year. The FB ones, we comment on each other's threads a lot but don't really chat.

BusySittingDown · 06/02/2022 19:36

Yes, I'm in a group of 8 and we've been friends since high school. One of them has been my friend since reception though.

We try to meet up every few months. They're genuinely the nicest ladies that I could know. I'm extremely lucky - however, we still live in the same area.

DH (who is a lot more friendly and sociable than I Grin) doesn't really see his school friends except on FB but he has moved around a lot.

Forshorttheycallmecomp · 06/02/2022 19:42

I’m still very good friends with a friend from sixth form, and chat on fb with a friend who was one of my best friends through school/sixth form. But I moved away, and the vast majority of people don’t make the effort with people outside of their area. There is another friend I stayed in good contact with until late 20s, but then she said something ridiculously racist (and didn’t even notice) and I realised her views and mine were just not compatible at all.

I’m still fb friends with a few though, and there are a few I would love to meet up with against. And there’s a group I went to secondary school with and who had known each other since pre-school and still appear to be as closely knit, which is nice to see.