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Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

462 replies

Callcat · 03/02/2022 15:37

Just that really!

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hivemindneeded · 03/02/2022 21:44

No. It gives me the creeps.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 21:48

@TatianaBis

It’s an ED and thus covered by my above comments about medical conditions.
That is being fussy unless he’s on the spectrum.

What’s the betting he’s fine with the textures and smells of chicken nuggets and Big Macs.

Comments like this suggest you don't actually get it though......

I'm not on the spectrum but have ARFID. I'm fine with smells and tastes that fall into my safe list which, until I had therapy, were bland , beige types if food.

DwangelaForever · 03/02/2022 21:48

You people are all judgemental weirdos 😶

Lockheart · 03/02/2022 21:49

It would probably put me off, unless he ate a lot of fruit, salad, grains etc as a substitute.

Fruit and veg are (in my opinion) a fairly major and essential food group.

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 21:55

@SpinsForGin

And having already covered the medical condition angle in previous posts I didn’t bother to write them all out.

Don’t you think that poster would have mentioned if her DH had an ED?

You’re the one who doesn’t get it - there are plenty of men who don’t have ASD, ED, IBD, IBS but simply never grew out of vegetable refusal as kids, and carry on eating an unbalanced diet as adults. Those are the men this thread is about, whom nobody wants to date.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 22:02

[quote TatianaBis]@SpinsForGin

And having already covered the medical condition angle in previous posts I didn’t bother to write them all out.

Don’t you think that poster would have mentioned if her DH had an ED?

You’re the one who doesn’t get it - there are plenty of men who don’t have ASD, ED, IBD, IBS but simply never grew out of vegetable refusal as kids, and carry on eating an unbalanced diet as adults. Those are the men this thread is about, whom nobody wants to date.[/quote]
And I don't have a problem with that. Everyone is free to date whoever they like.

It's the comments that are levelled at 'fussy eaters' in general that I have an issue with. Those people who are quick to label people childish, pathetic and ignorant without considering that it might not be a choice! I would honestly do anything to change my feelings about food.

If you met me you'd never know I have an ED. I'm very good at hiding it and don't like to draw attention to it if I can at all help it. If you did notice that I have issues with food calling me childish isn't going to help matters.

All I'm asking is don't be so quick to judge. You can never be sure what's actually going on.

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 22:09

So create a thread on EDs, which is a very valid issue on a women’s forum, and let women don’t want to date men who don’t like peas crack on.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 22:25

@TatianaBis

So create a thread on EDs, which is a very valid issue on a women’s forum, and let women don’t want to date men who don’t like peas crack on.
I'll comment on whatever threads I like if it's all the same to you 🙄

If people are going to make judgemental comments they shouldn't be surprised when they get called out.

Date who you want. I couldn't care less 🤷🏼‍♀️ but don't be a dick and make sweeping judgements about people because they're different to you.

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 22:39

Eat what you like I couldn’t care less. Like every other poster I’ve simply commented on what I find attractive in a man.

But the OP does care in a very minimal sort of way - she started the thread because she wanted to know who we would date.

Why you have to make thread all about you I don’t know.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 22:48

@TatianaBis

Eat what you like I couldn’t care less. Like every other poster I’ve simply commented on what I find attractive in a man.

But the OP does care in a very minimal sort of way - she started the thread because she wanted to know who we would date.

Why you have to make thread all about you I don’t know.

ALL of that is fine. At no point is anyone forcing someone to date someone they don't want to! That's not the point I'm making

It's a simple request lay off the insults....

Not wanting to date someone with a restrictive diet is fine.

Calling people with a restrictive diet childish, pathetic, ignorant, bad in bed (?) ..... not fine.

I'm not the only one who has called people out for being judgemental.

FreakinFrankNFurter · 03/02/2022 22:52

No, because he'd be really unhealthy

I don't think this is true. I know someone who doesn't eat vegetables and he is unbelieveably fit. As in completing ridiculous extreme physical challenges fit.

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 23:00

It’s not fine to kill a light-heartedthread with your issues. Rather - the height of narcissism.

Starseeking · 03/02/2022 23:02

No, because he sounds like a 5 year old.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 23:12

@TatianaBis

It’s not fine to kill a light-heartedthread with your issues. Rather - the height of narcissism.
Yeah it was really lighthearted......🙄

These threads are always a barrel of laughs. Who doesn't love a bit of name calling and judgement of an evening.

Maybe consider having a bit of compassion?

ZealAndArdour · 03/02/2022 23:15

No, lol. That’s deeply unattractive for reasons I can’t adequately explain. It’s instant ick territory.

RampantIvy · 03/02/2022 23:16

there are plenty of men who don’t have ASD, ED, IBD, IBS but simply never grew out of vegetable refusal as kids, and carry on eating an unbalanced diet as adults. Those are the men this thread is about, whom nobody wants to date.

That is how I understood it, and why I prefaced my comments with medical/mental issues excepted.

For me it is about a shared interest. I like good food. It is one of the pleasures in life, so for me having a partner who shares that interest is important. Just the same as a keen cyclist would probably like their partner to be a keen cyclist or other shared interest.

I'm sorry you have food issues @SpinsForGin. I guess that as eating is fundamental to life, and something that most people enjoy it is very difficult for most people to understand, and I admit to struggling to understand it myself. Is it very difficult to get help for this?

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 23:18

Oh Jesus the boredom. You’re clearly going to argue all night, I’m off to bed.

StellaGibs · 03/02/2022 23:20

Yeah. What a person eats is up to them. Jesus.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 23:26

I'm sorry you have food issues @SpinsForGin. I guess that as eating is fundamental to life, and something that most people enjoy it is very difficult for most people to understand, and I admit to struggling to understand it myself. Is it very difficult to get help for this?

Yes. Although it's a recognised ED the NHS isn't equipped to deal with it. I had to pay to see a specialist which wasn't cheap,

ARFID is essentially a phobia of food. I'd be delighted if I didn't ever have to eat again. It's not pleasurable for me at all. I have some safe food that I'm fine to eat but eating outside of that list can be quite traumatic.

But you'd never know .... I hide it really well. Which is why I get annoyed at the name calling because while I accept that some people are just 'picky' some people genuinely have issues but we don't wear a badge so how do you know?

Calling people childish or pathetic just makes us feel even worse because those with conditions such as ARFID would love to be able to eat like the rest of you and we hate feeling like we're a burden.

Nat6999 · 03/02/2022 23:26

My brother is 49 & gas never eaten a vegetable in his life, he lives on beige food. I think he has a phobia around some foods, my mum spent most of his childhood battling with him to try eating healthy food.

ABitOfAShitShow · 03/02/2022 23:32

😂 No but I have a friend like this and I find it hilarious. The key difference is that she and I don’t share food or eat home-cooked food together so it rarely affects my life.

Cromple · 03/02/2022 23:50

No, I'd find it really off putting and I'd hate that we couldn't have the same meals or go out to nice restaurants.

RampantIvy · 04/02/2022 00:00

@Cromple

No, I'd find it really off putting and I'd hate that we couldn't have the same meals or go out to nice restaurants.
And that just about sums it up for me.
BadLad · 04/02/2022 01:05

I probably wouldn't date a non-vegetable eater, as I'd be worried about her health. If vegetables weren't necessary for a healthy diet, I probably wouldn't eat them very often. I eat meat because I enjoy it, and vegetables because I'll die if I don't.

No onions if I can help it - I'd have been like a PP's unsuccessful date, picking them out of my fajitas. Horrible things.

There's no way I'd ever date a vegetarian or vegan either. Wouldn't even try that.

TomPinch · 04/02/2022 03:20

Some mention of ASD on this thread. DD is diagnosed with ASD and is the least fussy eater in the house and has no problems with fruit and veg.

There is an attitude that 'oh your ASD and so you can't be '. Thats a gross simplification. It's possible to be both.

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