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Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

462 replies

Callcat · 03/02/2022 15:37

Just that really!

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MermaidEyes · 03/02/2022 20:50

SpinsforGin that sucks. Too many posters on here thinking they're better than others simply because they eat more veg....wonder how many of them also consume far too many calories, takeaways and alcohol? But as long as they've had their daily carrot quota 🙄

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 20:54

I don't feel superior to anyone for whatever they eat. God knows I'm not perfect. I just know I probably wouldn't want to date someone who doesn't eat any veg whatsoever, unless it was for a medical reason. That doesn't make me superior in any way. Any more than someone saying they would only date a tall man for example, doesn't make them superior to shorter men

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 20:55

@MermaidEyes

SpinsforGin that sucks. Too many posters on here thinking they're better than others simply because they eat more veg....wonder how many of them also consume far too many calories, takeaways and alcohol? But as long as they've had their daily carrot quota 🙄
I actually eat quite healthily but I just eat a small selection of food. My diet pretty much just consists of veg! I've had therapy which has helped a little. I would give anything to eat 'normally'
Lampshading · 03/02/2022 20:57

@MermaidEyes

SpinsforGin that sucks. Too many posters on here thinking they're better than others simply because they eat more veg....wonder how many of them also consume far too many calories, takeaways and alcohol? But as long as they've had their daily carrot quota 🙄
What an odd comment, and no I'd bet people who ate are a variety of veg are less likely to eat a tonne of crap, even if not though I don't think anyone has said they think they're better.
DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping · 03/02/2022 20:58

@fleurpots

It really depends. Being rigid about food because of a condition such as autism is very different to being rigid due to fussiness. As an autistic person it is difficult to read so many people saying that they would write someone off due to this without knowing anything else about them because they're 'childish' or 'unadventurous'.
Indeed! I feel the same, @fleurpots. It’s sad how many people leap to harshly judge anything they don’t understand.
TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 21:04

@DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping

Have you actually read the thread - in which it had been said multiple times by multiple posters that asd and medical conditions are not included.

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 21:06

"You’re the one that seems infantile to me, @FrugalFrancine, with your inability or unwillingness to try to understand others. But it takes all sorts, eh!"

Oh yes, I can see that you're not the sort of person to harshly judge...very non judgemental Confused

I never made a personal judgement about anyone on here. I merely answered a question about sexual attractiveness and compatability in a general way. And I was careful to say that if there was a medical reason for it, I'd probably feel differently. You deliberately then singled me out and made a pretty personal attack against me. But it takes all sorts, eh Wink

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 21:06

@FrugalFrancine

"You’re the one that seems infantile to me, *@FrugalFrancine*, with your inability or unwillingness to try to understand others. But it takes all sorts, eh!"

Oh yes, I can see that you're not the sort of person to harshly judge...very non judgemental Confused

I never made a personal judgement about anyone on here. I merely answered a question about sexual attractiveness and compatability in a general way. And I was careful to say that if there was a medical reason for it, I'd probably feel differently. You deliberately then singled me out and made a pretty personal attack against me. But it takes all sorts, eh Wink

To @DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping
LaQuern · 03/02/2022 21:08

Nope!!

Decided a first date would be the last based on a conversation where he told me all he ate veg wise were peas and carrots,

I fast forwarded in my head ten years where I feeding my faddy husband and our faddy kids and said no thanks

thefamous5 · 03/02/2022 21:08

I'm married to one.

He's kind, he's an amazing dad, amazing husband, pulls his weight in every aspect of family life and housework, works hard - basically is what husband and a dad should be.

He just doesn't like vegetables.

No big deal. Doesn't affect me, doesn't affect the kids. Do I wish he would eat them? Yes, of course. Is it a huge thing in the grand scale of things? Nope, not in the slightest.

SarasCat · 03/02/2022 21:10

Yup, married one! No issue with it. He has sensory issues which prevent him from being able to eat vegetables.

As usual, I'm not surprised by the responses. I don't get why you'd judge a guy on if he eats vegetables. Love my DH to bits, he's an amazing guy.

Oh, and our kids love fruit and veg. As they don't have sensory issues in the same way. It's not childish to not eat veg, it's simply a preference and is very often sensory related.

DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping · 03/02/2022 21:11

@zurala

I don't understand what they are eating if they won't eat any veg. Just meat and dairy?

Everything else is veg/plants so do they literally only eat meat and dairy?? That's really unhealthy.

Tell that to the Maasai.
Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/02/2022 21:11

Different doesn't mean better and it doesn't mean worse. Some people see food as fuel, which is fine, but for a lot of us it's a lot more than that. Sharing food is a great pleasure in life. I think this thread illustrates that divide pretty well.

Having said that, the current medical advice is very clear - that just about the top recommendation for good health is to eat plenty of vegetables, fruit and pulses, and to avoid too much highly processed food, especially refined carbohydrates.

Eating just meat and eggs is a very unbalanced diet. Even with vitamin and mineral supplements, it's not as good as a varied diet of real food, and it's very lacking in fibre, which is essential for bowel health.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 21:15

I fast forwarded in my head ten years where I feeding my faddy husband and our faddy kids and said no thanks

That doesn't have to be the case. My DS is brilliant with food despite my issues.
I made sure of it

HandlebarLadyTash · 03/02/2022 21:19

No

DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping · 03/02/2022 21:21

[quote TatianaBis]@DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping

Have you actually read the thread - in which it had been said multiple times by multiple posters that asd and medical conditions are not included.[/quote]
Yes I’ve read the whole thread, @TatianaBis, including your patronising and contemptuous ‘yawn’ comments. What I’ve read, is that most posters assume lots of things about someone who doesn’t eat vegetables, from them being ‘childish’ (over and over again), to ‘playing with barbie dolls’, to being shit in bed… the people who don’t eat veg could have any reason for that, from sensory sensitivities (whether due to autism or not), through to trauma or a medical condition. Most posters aren’t giving any thought to any of those things before labelling people as infantile, so don’t give me that bollocks about ‘not included’. 🙄

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 21:27

In fact I yawned as someone was trying to patronise me. As to the rest - of course those people are not included, if you don’t understand that you’re really not getting the point of the thread.

DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping · 03/02/2022 21:27

@FrugalFrancine

I find it really infantile; like someone saying they still play with Barbies as I said. It doesn't have to affect all aspects of their lives for me to be Hmm Sorry if that's rubbed you up the wrong way Flowers
Seems pretty specific to me @FrugalFrancine.

Where did I make a personal attack? You said you find someone not eating veg to be infantile. I said that the attitude of judging someones maturity by what they eat seems more infantile to me than what somebody chooses to put in their mouth.

BlissfullyIgnorant · 03/02/2022 21:28

He will block your toilet with his massive shit the first time he manages to squeeze one out of his constipated arse.
So, no

kateg27 · 03/02/2022 21:31

I live with one. But then again I'm not shallow and I understand that it's not always down to just being a fussy eater. A lot of the times it's down to textures and smells.

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 21:33

I don't think you've understood my posts very well tbh, even though you've read them drinking.

I only explained why a man who says he doesn't eat any vegetables as a rule, simply because he doesn't like them, would not be attractive to me. We wouldn't be compatible at all.

As I explained to another poster earlier, do you know when something just turns you off? Even if it isn't a serious matter like him being a criminal or a rampant right winger or whatever? Something just makes you think "no, not for me". Well for me, a man saying he never eats any vegetables would probably do that. I never say never obviously and definitely if I got to know him and found out more about why etc, it may change my mind, but ultimately I would guess we wouldn't be compatible.

I actually think it has been well explained on both sides. I understand there are numerous reasons for people not liking vegetables other than just not liking them. That point has been well made. I think other people have done a decent job of explaining why a man who doesn't like veg wouldn't be the one for them. You don't have to like it tbh. What people find sexually attractive or not or compatible in a partner, really can't be bullied out of them, no matter how sweary and unpleasant you become.

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 21:37

I've also explained why your calling me infantile was more personal than me making a general comment about a hypothetical man I wouldn't be dating. But if you don't see the difference then we'll have to agree to disagree there drinking

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 21:38

@kateg27

I live with one. But then again I'm not shallow and I understand that it's not always down to just being a fussy eater. A lot of the times it's down to textures and smells.
That is being fussy unless he’s on the spectrum.

What’s the betting he’s fine with the textures and smells of chicken nuggets and Big Macs.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 21:42

TatianaBis have you heard of ARFID?

You don't have to 'be on the spectrum' to suffer from it and it is ALL about texture, smells and 'safe' foods which are often bland/beige.

It's not being fussy. It's a recognised eating disorder

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 21:44

It’s an ED and thus covered by my above comments about medical conditions.