What did Mumsnet do to you?

[ThanksMN]

(Lighthearted)

What have you learned from mumsnet - good and bad?

I came here all wide-eyed and innocent with good intentions, responding to every single @ because not doing so would be like ignoring someone when they say something to you irl; standing up for random posters on threads when someone's having a go at them; replying 'you're welcome' to every 'thank you' because that's what I do irl; thinking everyone cared; feeling so shaky and scared whenever someone responded to me in the typical aggressive/disagreeable MN way, etc.

• Now, after spending yeeeaarsss on and off mn, I have to say I now have nerves of steel! So that's a positive!

• I no longer do all the others as much because I notice most people don't at all and I'm a weirdo!

• I've taken up gossiping...but only online!

• I'm now highly aware that everyone hates everything and people judge you in secret irl.

• I came here saying full words like husband, child, son, daughter, etc then felt I was being too formal and "pretentious" when everyone used DH, DD, DS, etc. I started using the acronyms here and I'm now learning that a lot of posters find them cringy. I'm not sure if to go back or continue.

• To put "lighthearted" on threads or face the wrath of the gods!

What has MN done to you?

Haven’t read the whole thread yet but I rejoined to say:

Mumsnet taught me to store the duvet cover and sheet inside the pillow case. Exceedingly handy.

Oh and mooncups

@EsmeraldaandTeenytiny

Haven’t read the whole thread yet but I rejoined to say:

Mumsnet taught me to store the duvet cover and sheet inside the pillow case. Exceedingly handy.

Yes!

@PurgatoryOfPotholes life changing

@Squiff70 I still refer to things getting “darked” on

@EsmeraldaandTeenytiny

Haven’t read the whole thread yet but I rejoined to say:

Mumsnet taught me to store the duvet cover and sheet inside the pillow case. Exceedingly handy.

OMG what a great idea.

@EsmeraldaandTeenytiny

Oh and mooncups

I heard about them way too late, after I my periods had stopped. They are such a good idea for women who are able to use them.

I learnt that I was GC - a term I'd never heard before here. I learned that prostitution is paying someone to rape them - something that had never occurred to me. And I learned that I should get my DH a penis beaker.

Shower twice a day
Change bra everyday
LTB if he breathes wrong
Watch children constantly
One minute of screen time a day
People on benefits need to get a job
Trans women are not women (only on mn)
Phone police (for everything)

I'm am joking (kind of) but I do love it there's just some strange people out there

Trans women are not women (only on mn)

It really isn't "only on MN"

I like about MN that people are often shocked when they hear women putting reasoned arguments about for eg women's rights issues that they don't often hear elsewhere, and certainly not in any depth. Mumsnet has a wealth of knowledgeable posters in many fields and backgrounds.

There's even a book about the political importance of Mumsnet

www.waterstones.com/book/the-politicization-of-mumsnet/sarah-pedersen/9781839094712

I add mumsnet to a high portion of my google searches. Mumsnet knows.

Trans women are not women (only on mn)

'Only on MN' - lol!

I've learned not to take much notice of what is said on here

The good things: Definitely take less crap, aware of red flags from men, more in control of my dog, armed with some good arguments re. genderbollocks, care not a whit what people think of my children's names, realise that a lot of school gate mums around the country are cliquey and awful not just ours.

That some dog owners are completely barking.

I’ve learned that semi-open or closed curtains during the day is bad. ‘Dry wiping’ is frowned upon. I know the threads to avoid if I don’t want to see teeth and claws. I also know to avoid posting in AIBU if I don’t want to be ripped to shreds :)

@ThanksMN

(Lighthearted)

What have you learned from mumsnet - good and bad?

I came here all wide-eyed and innocent with good intentions, responding to every single @ because not doing so would be like ignoring someone when they say something to you irl; standing up for random posters on threads when someone's having a go at them; replying 'you're welcome' to every 'thank you' because that's what I do irl; thinking everyone cared; feeling so shaky and scared whenever someone responded to me in the typical aggressive/disagreeable MN way, etc.

• Now, after spending yeeeaarsss on and off mn, I have to say I now have nerves of steel! So that's a positive!

• I no longer do all the others as much because I notice most people don't at all and I'm a weirdo!

• I've taken up gossiping...but only online!

• I'm now highly aware that everyone hates everything and people judge you in secret irl.

• I came here saying full words like husband, child, son, daughter, etc then felt I was being too formal and "pretentious" when everyone used DH, DD, DS, etc. I started using the acronyms here and I'm now learning that a lot of posters find them cringy. I'm not sure if to go back or continue.

• To put "lighthearted" on threads or face the wrath of the gods!

What has MN done to you?

Most people cannot be trusted, especially when its, affairs, people's views on x, that e.g. Even 5.10.15 ect years together a relationship can still go south, and no matter of your views, choices, ect, most will have a counter point or debate about x issue, and people seem to make a fuss about what ever x may be then afterwards they have no use for x.

The first thing I learnt (along with some of the excellent points made above) was that if you go to a self-service cafe you don't send your husband and children to get a table while you order your drinks/food.

You all stand in the queue, order your drinks and food, and then hang around letting said drinks and food get cold while you look for a table.

Yeah. Trans women are men.

On Mumsnet and the rest of the world with their head screwed on.
But no one truly believes it, though.

As well you know.

I love MN - it started by giving me advice on a missed miscarriage when I was abroad with no one to talk to and since then has led me to buying many things I did or didn't need and has educated me on so many things (but in particular feminism - some of the most intelligent and wonderful women have been posting on that part of the site for years).

@Tal45

I learnt that I was GC - a term I'd never heard before here. I learned that prostitution is paying someone to rape them - something that had never occurred to me. And I learned that I should get my DH a penis beaker.

The infamous beaker, was how I came across mumsnet via daily mail