What are the worst things your in laws have done or said to you?

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Struggling a bit as my future in laws can’t stand me (or my husband to be it would seem!) but everyone around me has a great relationship with their in laws.
Anyone else got an amazing partner with awful parents and/or siblings?

Hoping this is vaguely light hearted!

My favourite: I told them I got my wedding dress from a high street shop for £200 and they told me the wedding would be “cheap and disgusting”, and that the dried flowers we’re having will be “stinking, dull and boring”. They haven’t seen the dress or the flowers!

*Hellocatshome

My DH is lovely my PIL are awful, at one point they wrote us a letter threatening that if we didn't go NC with another family member they would kill us and take the children and raise them as their own.

Did you report them to the police?*

No because they do in fact know a lot of scary people and it wasn't worth the hassle. I do still have the letter though.

My ex mil and fil died early on in our relationship, both alcoholics but generally were nice people.
I have never met my current partners parents as they passed years before.

Bloody Hell!!!! Where do all these weirdos come from?

I live with my DS and Dil because it's the only way they can afford to have a home.

I wouldn't dream of interfering in any way, making any stupid comments or showing any disapproval at all because it isn't my goddamned business what they do.

@Lifeispassingby

My ex Mil used to call me by my then DP’s ex girlfriends name. One day over dinner she did it and my then DP said jokingly “you keep using the wrong name- why?!” She replied “probably because I liked her more”. At which point I replied “shame she didn’t like your son more than the neighbour she was shagging for 6 months behind his back” and promptly left the room!

😍🤩😍🤩😍🤩 I wish I could put the clock back and have you representing me in painful situations throughout life!!!!!! Nice job, @Lifeispassingby!

Name changed for this because it’s pretty outing. I don’t know anyone else with a MIL rude enough to do this.

Had me (the bride) photoshopped out of my own wedding photos as she wanted photos that were just of ‘her family’.

When my first child was born I was incredibly ill, lost a lot of blood and nearly died. When I was finally home from the hospital my husband FaceTimed her and she screamed ‘where’s MY baby?!’ Down the phone at him and didn’t ask how I was once.

A few weeks later, knowing full well I had ptsd from the delivery, started badgering me about having another baby saying my 1 month old son was lonely.

Just a small snapshot of the many, many things I could list.

Very shortly after my mum's sudden death in her fifties, we went to a party with in laws. We said we might not be up to a proper party and they rolled their eyes at us as if we were being massive drama llamas.

Making faces at me when I was breastfeeding as they found it disgusting. They all breastfed too. It was specifically me breastfeeding they found disgusting.

I genuinely find their antics funny now. Used to upset me too op. But then realised they have very odd personalities and that's actually unfortunate for them, not me

to some of these. Especially those around pregnancy loss how unbelievably insensitive.

My MIL is a very odd character. She does struggle in social situations. She has always favoured her other sons over my husband. They both have been given tens of thousands of pounds for houses, cars and businesses. We have never been given a penny. What I have struggled with the most is the favouritism of the grandchildren. Our DS has always been seen as ‘difficult’. He really isn’t he is very sweet natured. But because I breast fed him and didn’t use a dummy he was much more attached to me. Her other DGC live closer and have had more contact from the start. She is always, always comparing my two less favourably to the other two.

Her and my FIL never ever call on birthdays or Christmas, if we want to speak to them we have to call them. Then she complains we don’t contact them enough. She has always been very critical of my weight (I’m on the heavier side than the other women in the family) and it’s horrible. I don’t want to hear constant digs about what I’m eating ect.

After 18 years we are pretty low contact now.

Told me they could recommend a good abortion clinic when we told them I was pregnant. They are no longer my in laws.

Not my inlaws - but my mother's (my paternal grandparents)

Hours after the arrival of my sister (a second daughter and an eventful birth involving a snowstorm /being cut-off from aid), my grandfather (expecting a male heir) said 'never mind, you can try again'.

My mother did go on to have two boys eventually... but not on purpose!

On my wedding day my exMIL told me that my exDH would always love her more than me.

My MIL never used my name, couldn't remember it apparently. Three letter name, not strange in anyway. Things reached a new low when she took to referring to me as "It" DH lost it with her. I found it quite funny but also sad but he went mental. Strangely she never forgot my name after that.

Ex MIL stood over me in my hospital bed, post emergency c section and told me 'what a shame I failed to give birth naturally' I had a very poorly newborn DS in NICU and I was mid blood transfusion at the time as I had a PPH earlier so I didn't have the strength to clap back at her so I just cried instead. I couldn't have given a shiny shit at that point how DS arrived, I was just glad we were both alive and she turned up at the hospital with the sole intention of upsetting me.

I forgot the worst one. In front of 2 teenage sons she asked me if her having my husband circumcised when he was a baby had affected our sex life. It gave the boys a good laugh at least.

Mil and I get on great now. I've been married for 27 years this week!

However, when dh phoned her to let her know we had got engaged (we were at my parents house, dh had wanted to do everything "by the book" and ask my dad, which, as it was 27 years ago I was ok with (would tell him where to get off these days, and he knows it!!).

Anyway, as I was saying, MIL burst into tears when dh told her, and they weren't happy tears! She was distraught "I didn't think you'd actually do it, is she the right one?". I didn't see her for 3 months, she lives in Belfast and at the time we were in Edinburgh, not living together.when I went over to NI for Easter, she came running out of the house to see my ring, and she's been ok ever since. Especially since I produced 3 wonderful grandchildren for her to spoil.

Now I talk to her most weeks even if she's had a chat to dh. She buys fantastic presents for me (this Christmas included a mug I love and my favourite chocolate which even dh didn't remember, though ds did!). And a voucher for Yours clothing as I'm a big girl but planning on losing weight in the new year and she thought id like a voucher to spend in the spring when I'm a size down. Or now. She doesn't mind!

I remember being at a wedding where the bride's MIL cried throughout the whole thing. Heartbroken, real tears.

I never did find out though if she treated her DIL okay or not.

Mother in law from first marriage is a self centred, narcissistic bitch. When I married her son she refused to look at the wedding photos. She had family photos displayed on the wall by the stairs. After the wedding she framed a picture of him and his sister, who was my bridesmaid, in their wedding clothes. The only picture of me was a tightly cropped picture of my bouquet. You could tell it was mine because it was a very big ,late 80s hedgerow style creation. Tiny bit of my cream dress visible but nothing else.

@Lifeispassingby

My ex Mil used to call me by my then DP’s ex girlfriends name. One day over dinner she did it and my then DP said jokingly “you keep using the wrong name- why?!” She replied “probably because I liked her more”. At which point I replied “shame she didn’t like your son more than the neighbour she was shagging for 6 months behind his back” and promptly left the room!

This is ice cold! Well done!

FIL:

• marriage isn’t real because it wasn’t done in a Catholic Church
• BIL’s marriage fell apart as we were engaged, as a result FIL decided to think our marriage was also ill-fated and kept telling us we were too excited by our honeymoon and not focussed on the marriage (we hadn’t been on holiday, even in the UK, for 3 years and we’d decided to make the honeymoon a priority in our budget - why wouldn’t we be excited?)
• BIL got his gf of 3 months pregnant and he was so responsible, we bought a dog after we’d got married and bought a house and been together for 7 years, we got the lecture on how a dog is a big commitment, it’s not something we should jump into 🙄
• we weren’t welcome on Christmas Day, that was just for him and MIL in now. We were welcome other days around Christmas but had to go elsewhere on Christmas Day (they live in Europe so it’s not like we can pop home). Unless we had children, then the children were welcome but we weren’t (we have DC now, and unsurprisingly she won’t be seeing her grandparents on Christmas Day).

I do mostly like FIL but I know how to tune him out now and also how to wind him up when he says something I don’t like.

BIL so many things. Most recently and something I will never forgive him for - he got pissy because we didn’t tell him I was being induced. Sending angry texts to DH at 3am and 5am when we were on the antenatal ward. Then mansplaining that an induction will only take 24hrs. He should know about what is going on in my uterus because apparently his child was excited to have a cousin. So excited that he couldn’t send a congratulations message when DC was born.

To my children when I was in the room: "it's a shame mummy likes her job more than you, you'll miss out on so much"

Because I work FT and she didn't agree with working mothers.

When I was pregnant with our first baby, my MIL announced 'Of course, as a grandparent, you only know for sure if it's really your grandchild when it's your daughter's baby!'

DD1 was 2 weeks old, DH went back to work, MIL came over. She told me all about DH's ex (they'd been split up for almost a decade at this point), how much MIL loved her, "she was like the daughter I never had, she was like one of the family, gosh I miss her". Thanks a fucking bunch.

When my wonderful Mum died in her mid fifties 2 years ago my MIL never acknowledged it had happened. Until she turned up at the funeral nearly a month later. And sat in the seats marked 'reserved for family'. When I asked her to move so a very frail and elderly relative could sit down, she said that she had every right to sit there because she was family!

@BenjiMcSchmenzie

That's awful

One of the most painful aspects of my "relations" with my in laws has been how dismissive they have been of my deceased parents.
They have never once asked me about my dm in 20 years and the only reference Mil has ever made has been when she saw a picture and make rude remarks.
They came around for something shortly after df death and offered me no consolations at all.

That was the final end for me after years of "trying!".

Had my first son by cesarean 3 days before Christmas. He was breech , it was planned. She knew we wouldn't be there for Christmas day but had decided that the thing I would most fancy the minute I got home on Boxing day was a giant family dinner at her house.The hospital was short staffed so we weren't discharged until the afternoon. I missed lunch so she didn't speak to me for 2 weeks.
Throughout my second pregnancy she went on and on about how much she wanted a granddaughter. I had a second son. She visited me I hospital and told me how disappointed she was .

They handed us an eviction notice on our son's first Christmas Eve with a "Merry Christmas". Needless to say, we have zero contact.