What are the worst things your in laws have done or said to you?

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Struggling a bit as my future in laws can’t stand me (or my husband to be it would seem!) but everyone around me has a great relationship with their in laws.
Anyone else got an amazing partner with awful parents and/or siblings?

Hoping this is vaguely light hearted!

My favourite: I told them I got my wedding dress from a high street shop for £200 and they told me the wedding would be “cheap and disgusting”, and that the dried flowers we’re having will be “stinking, dull and boring”. They haven’t seen the dress or the flowers!

@darumafan I am so, so sorry for your loss good riddance to the witch

When I first met my DIL (13 years ago), she told me she was on Twitter.
I am not on Twitter but you can still look up someone's tweets if you know their username. I looked her up and she had criticised our house and my cooking and described our meeting as a waste of a day.
I never mentioned it to my son or to her but I am so nervous of cooking for her now.
She also asked at our first meeting if we wanted her to take control of our financial affairs and give her financial power of attorney. We were in our early fifties and both working full time in professional jobs.
She is not from the UK and she requested repeatedly that we contribute to her parent's flights over her to see her. We didn't actually spend time with her parents because she wouldn't let us, unless they wanted to go out for a meal, in which case we were invited along to pay.
Six months after meeting her my son was buying his first flat. We gifted him the deposit. She phoned up to shout at us because we had gifted it to him only. It had to be done through a solicitor. We had to do it again including her name in the gift.
We paid for the wedding at her request. We were never thanked. The guests lined up to thank her parents at the end. This one is incredibly common. Lots of my friends with sons have paid for weddings and, apparently, it is wife work to say thank you so they never mention large financial gifts. Ditto buying presents for DILs from wish lists. Thanking a MIl for a gift is apparently wife work. No acknowledgement is usual.
She is very direct and we are all quite scared of her including my son. He is not allowed to buy me a present at Christmas or on my Birthday because that makes him a Mummy's Boy. And no, she doesn't buy me anything because its wifework.
Loads more but actually I am fond of her.

Mil tried to change dh's wedding suit choice behind his back and after not seeing us for 6 months and assuming an invite to the wedding. Dh went round and told her she wasn't invited..
Fil came but left soon after. Sadly he followed suit with mil and we haven't seen them for 7 years now.

When I announced I was pregnant FIL's wife said 'Really? I thought you'd be barren at your age'. I was 36.

Ha! Where to start, my MIL is evil.

During my first pregnancy told us to our faces she will never love our child the same as she does her daughter's children.

Announced my second pregnancy on Facebook when I was 5 weeks pregnant, then denied it for a year and said I was lying when a friend had shown me (she blocked us both before posting)

Told me I was the worst mistake DH has ever made and announced that she had been "warned" about me. I was 16 when I met DH, not sure what I could have possibly done to warrant a warning.. compulsive liar.

Messaged me in the middle of the night 3 years into no contact telling me I was ugly 🤣

Vile vile woman, I hate her.

Ours emigrated because “well there’s nothing to keep us in England” - their sons and granddaughters didn’t factor!

Grandparents in law told me 3 months post partum that I looked 3.months pregnant and was I sure everything had "gone back to normal" bastards I held it together til we left then bawled my eyes out.

@Toomanypeople

In our wedding video mil can be heard saying 'it'll never last'. When dh told her we were expecting first DC she said 'oh well it's done now'. Overall she ok but these 2 comments will never be forgotten

@iklboo fucking hell

MIL is convinced I’m a gold digger. In the (very nearly) 20 years I’ve known DH I’ve earned more than him for 12 of them, and the same as him for a further 4. I’m obviously not a very successful gold digger.

My MIL is awful. When we got married in a registry office she said it “wasn’t a proper wedding”. When my daughter was having toddler tantrums MIL suggested she was possessed and should be exorcised.
Yes she’s a Christian.

When I was pg with DD2 (but hadn't found out the sex yet), MIL told us our lives wouldn't be full if we had another girl

@notacooldad

3rd trimester of pregnancy. Told in laws the baby was very tiny, dropping down percentiles, and the pregnancy was being managed on a week by week basis

MIL said ‘that sounds very positive’.
Forgive me with this but I dont understand what is wrong and it sounds like something I'd say. By saying 'it sounds positive' I would mean it's a good thing they are keeping a close eye on you and managing the pregnancy to make sure they (professionals) can step in and help.

That is how I interpreted it too.

Told me that I had failed at giving birth as I had an emergency C section. I was still in hospital recovering at the time.

Told DH that she had the same life limiting illness when he was diagnosed with it. She doesn't.

Told us that we were bad parents as our then 3 year old hadn't been on an overseas holiday.

Told dh that she had given me £8k. She has never given me a penny, nor would I ask her to.

Told everyone at our wedding that my dh didn't really want to marry me, but I had nagged him into it and I was after his money.

We had been together 30 years and I earned more than him.

Now NC with MIL. But blimey she was vile for a long long time beforehand.

When I was heavily pregnant and staying with ILs, I took the dog out for a walk. Arrived back desperate for a wee, and MIL opened the door, let the dog in and then closed it in my face

Refusing to help me in any way when I was alone and suffering from PND. It’s okay, when she’s older and frail, I’ll tell her what it feels like to be vulnerable but not receive help and wish her good luck.

This sounds quite ungrateful although it was the comment rather than the gesture but, but invited ILs for DDs first birthday (mine and DH first child - MIL had previously got v emotional that she thought DH would never have kids) and they didn't bring anything "because the novelty of GC has worn off now" (they had 8 older GC)

You all sound like you have horrific in laws .. mine doesn't seem too bad in comparison.

They just REALLY wanted DP to stay with his ex. She was a lovely woman and a lovely stepmum to his son. She did nothing wrong. But he didn't love her and they were just coexisting. She was happy with that, he wasn't. I was NOT the OW, a year passed between them splitting up and us even meeting.

But the best comment was 'you were a much better dad when you were with ex. It's just not the same anymore.'

I was sat right there. There have been numerous comments about the ex and all the things she used to do - although lovely, she was a bit of a doormat. I'm absolutely not. We've been together 4 years and are very very happy. I wish they would accept that.

You'll never have any friends if you have more than 2 weeks of dust on your mantlepiece.

Sounds ridiculous, but being already socially not confident it took me 2 years to let anyone on my house, and I still hate visitors because I feel judged all the time.

Silly thing is that she's not exactly cleaned the two weeks of dust from her house when we've popped in. Nor the dead flies from every windowsill.

Bumped into my ex-mil and ex-fil one day and they asked what I was doing with myself these days as they never see me. I replied that I was really busy with work and never get a minute. To which ex-mil replied " oh well I suppose that makes up for all the years you were at home doing nothing!" (All the years I was at home doing nothing was when I was raising her grandsons whilst her wonderful ds was living it up with lavish holidays (which she paid for), weekends away, out most nights of the week pretending to be single whilst I was left on my own with babies and toddlers!- hence why he's an ex!) I wish I'd said something to her but it would have went right over her head anyway. Funnily enough he's repeating history with his new wife and kids....

"If I looked like you I'd be ashamed to leave the house" was probably the worst of her 'just say it as I see it' pearls of wisdom.

Mil Posting a fb post about todays children being snowflakes two weeks after our child who was 11 tried to take her life.

Shes a millionaire yet didn't help pay a penny towards our wedding, which would be fine if she didn't criticise the whole day, make my bridesmaid cry, shout at me and insult my family. The worst was when I was having my dance with my dad, she decided to get up and dance right infront of us to take the attention away from me.
She cannot be happy for anyone. If we book a fortnight's holiday to Spain she shrugs, sneers and says so what??she's going to the Caribbean for 3 weeks.

Another pregnancy one... We have a relatively (but not massively so!) small age gap between our DC (22 months) and when we told PIL we were expecting our second, they were visibly shocked, didn't congratulate us or anything...

Then when DH said, "DC1 will love it!", MIL suddenly came out with "No he won't!".

The pregnancy had come a bit earlier than planned (it had taken a year to conceive DC1 so wasn't expecting it to happen straightaway with DC2!) so I was already feeling a bit sensitive about it like I had ruined DC1's life and PIL's blatent feelings about it really did not help at all.

(My own mother is dead and father is an alcoholic with whom I'm LC so didn't have any other family support).

I'm a little bit smug now though as DC are 6 and 4 and get on so well, whereas PIL's golden grandchildren who have a larger age gap fight like cat and dog.

My mil said she wouldn’t ever have kept my daughter if she was me, my daughter was then 5 and diagnosed with autism. 😒