So many things.
They’re racist, they pretend they can’t understand me (like the woman from fat fighters!), I have a Nottinghamshire/North London accent, his mother with sometimes say “oh sorry, was that in Urdu” in her faux concerned voice.
She regularly tells my husband he is going to tell for marrying me, she also has a photo of his girlfriend from when he was 13 to prove that he is straight and satan has led him astray. She doesn’t have any photos from our wedding on display, my husband sent her a few wedding photos and made sure they were all of us kissing.
She didn’t come to the wedding so she didn’t know her son had taken my name, that went down well. She said only stupid people change their name when they get married, my husband did point out that she changed her name, so she had just called herself an idiot.
She has recently become a Grandma, so we thought this may mellow her, or at least encourage her to keep her mouth shut a bit more so she can have a relationship with her Grandchild. We had decided not to share any pictures with anyone until my son had met his little sister, so we decided it would be nice to send her a photo of her daughter and a little family photo. Her only response was “you didn’t tell me it was brown”.
Her behaviour is bizarre, she is never racist etc to your face, she bought my son christmas presents and a birthday present, she plays with him etc and no signs of racism when she visits. But anything via the phone is just vile.
Her husband paid off my husbands mortgage when we got married so he could escape my money grabbing ways. We used it to buy a joint little holiday home and used the rest toward our joint mortgage.
She tells people her son abandoned her and ran away to another country, in reality they sent him to boardinh school in the UK when he was eight and he stayed here.