@IncompleteSenten
I just do not understand why people who clearly do not love or want their children keep them. Why they lie to social services. Why they don't say I cannot cope, I am a danger to this child. Why they fight to keep a child they just want to hurt. Is it that they fight to keep the child because they enjoy torturing them and want to carry on doing it? I don't expect anyone to be able to answer that, it is just what goes round my head. Just - why? If you hate your child, give them up.
I honestly don’t know. An ex friend of mine had her baby removed (finally) at 4 months old (after having 2DC removed and given to her ExH who has full and closed residency, she isn’t even allowed letterbox contact due to her addictions and MH issues). She should never have been allowed to keep that third baby.
6 years on, it still fucking haunts me. Baby was adopted and again not even letterbox contact granted, however baby suffered in those 4 months when there was no fucking need for it. Chance after chance was given, even after removal, even after the only person supporting her was found to be telling lies in order to help Mum get the baby back.
It’s basically Narcissism mixed with addiction issues for her. I can’t speak for anyone else.
She was charged with multiple counts of abuse and neglect, found guilty and basically got a slap on the wrist.
I was furious and devastated. She is very pretty, well spoken and doesn’t “look the type”.
I maintained low contact after she lost the first 2DC due to mitigating factors that I won’t go into here, but after the third baby, I cut her off.
You can’t make people engage with services.
You can’t get rid of the narrative that kids are better off with their parents at all costs.