Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 20: Calmly through the day

[MissConductUS]

I've started a new one. Please join us and share the boring and mundane things happening in your world. It will be calming for all.

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Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 19: Calmly through the day

Silkie, the hospital has treatment protocols. They should be adjustable based on the wishes of the patient and the attending physician. If they are not, it's probably because it's faster and easier for them to standardize everything.

lemons, I'm sorry about the conflict with your MIL. I read so many awful stories about MILs on MN. The ones that particularly puzzle me are the stories where the MIL wants to spend scads of "alone time" with the baby, sets up a nursery in her house, etc. I've never heard of that here and neither my DM or my MIL had any desire to provide child care.

Helena, what's gone wrong on your car and why do you have to wait two weeks to get it fixed? I'm afraid my running days may be over for good. The doctor told me to do less walking and spend more time on the stationary bike and lifting weights. It was -15C here this morning, so I didn't really fancy walking anyway.

The nerve pain in my leg does seem better today after two doses of the new medication. It's Gabapentin if anyone's curious.

Since we usually post pictures on weekends, I took this one of that same structure in the reservoir that I posted the fog-shrouded photo of a few months ago. The reservoir is now starting to ice over, as you can see.

That’s stunning iwandered

Miss it needs a new radiator and DH wants it to go to the garage who always do all the work on our cars. The earliest they can fit it in is the end of the month.

I’ve had a lovely afternoon with a great friend, walk and then a baileys hot chocolate and churros. She happens to be my sister but we are pals.

If I had stunning countryside like that to walk in the family would have to send out search parties for me on a regular basis, IWandered. Instead, I live in a very built up area that is flat as a plate for several hundred miles.

Silkies is there any way to approach someone one or two levels up from the uncooperative nurse who seems not to understand the nature of the disease you are battling, in order to get assigned to someone else?

In weather news, we had a little snow last night. I thought we would only have flurries and left my wipers down on my windshield.

Also, I bought a little yellow teapot in my local thrift shop, which probably dates from the 1940s or 50s, with 'Lipton Tea' embossed on the bottom.

DS found a YouTube video featuring my exact dishwasher model and how to take apart the innards to clean out deposits left in the draining area from years of use, and is excited to finally get to the bottom of a drainage problem it's been having. He managed to clean out a nice lump of goop yesterday without taking the machine apart and is hopeful that there will be more. I bought rubber gloves and we'll be starting in about an hour.

Dentist is done, 2 fillings but teeth colour as private, x rays clear for anything else, the really lovely dentist again who is so kind and gentle, next appointment 6 months. Good to have work done and up to date as not been for years. Was £240 this time but DH paid it for me and was 1.5 hours for 2 of them so not that bad. No food and drink for 2 hours but now can eat and drink again though said ideally no tea, coffee or red wine as stains for 2 days but he said as you have cancer you can ignore that and he will fix it. I don't drink red wine anyway, drink a lot of tea and some milky coffee but will see.

Lovely pics MissC and Iwandered

DD has gone out with friends and tonight has some US maths competition, think its some New York school that runs it. Silkiecat has injured her paw falling off the table, hazards of sleeping half on, half off the table and getting grumpy with anyone who moves you.

Well done on your cleaning Prok

Thanks Math The assigned nurse does not make too much difference as you have numbers for all of them. I think the issues are they are superbusy as short staffed and more patients than ever and also the nurse incharge is very rigid and overrules the kinder nurses. But if you go complaints route / above there I think it would get solved as that solved the surgery delay and not been allowed to speak with a doctor. The cancer charity actually told my GP to immediately phone me - I got the one that said it was nothing in June - argh - though he was very nice and I said I know you must have been very busy at time doing covid vaccines as well as normal work but you should not tell women with big, rock hard lumps it will be nothing. He said oh that was nothing to do with covid vaccines I have always told all women their lumps will be nothing as women get anxious. He did at least see why he needed to change his phraseology by end of call and he was on phone an hour and did say I am supposed to get a choice and not be pressured and can also get a second opinion on NHS and he did say sorry. Other people have also got results given to them at home which they have said no to and people accompanying them which they have also said no to but think both of those may be achievable with a battle.

I am - to put it mildly - suprised at the GP, but then I am in a different system and would never see a GP with 'female health' problems.

We had a very healthy midday meal: lots and lots of carrots as they 'needed eating'.

I'm surprised too. In the US your insurance has to allow you to select a gynecologist as your primary care prover or self refer to one whenever you like.

In the US, that GP would possibly be facing a lawsuit right now too.
People complain about Americans being lawyer-happy, and about all the testing American doctors order, and I can see how it all looks from afar isn't necessarily great compared with the good points of the NHS, but I would personally prefer a battery of tests to being fobbed off.

DS went out to play with his friends instead of sorting out the dishwasher with me, I'm relieved to say. He did a load of laundry earlier, resulting in a flooded basement because a plumber had failed to reconnect the outlet tube to the washing machine when installing a new Belfast sink down there. LL called the plumber back and DD3 spotted his van outside. I'm going to see if I can do laundry. If not, I'll have to lug all the laundry that can be dried in a dryer to a local laundromat tomorrow.

DH decided no more chocolate until Easter (for DH and me), I agree and will switch to pepper and carrots instead.

+1°C and dry but grey.

The IT guys have not reconnected me with the office and I now cannot do what I planned, which will cause additional work during next week. I ssent them an e-mail and will moan to them on Monday.

Nelly the robovac has been out this morning. She's missed a quarter of the front room again. Nothing on the floor to stop her. Odd.

-15 C here this morning. I may go to early church services anyway as I haven't been in two weeks.

Fortunately, it's going to warm up and the big snow event that was predicted is now going to be mostly rain. This will mean the roads will be better for DS to drive back to uni on Tuesday.

Math, I quite agree. Malpractice liability has a lot of good effects on the practice of medicine in the US. The main reason our cancer survival rates are so much better here than in the UK is because we screen and test very aggressively for cancer, so it's usually diagnosed early when it's more easily treated.

Prok, what do your IT guys have to do to connect you? We use a VPN (virtual private network) software to connect securely back to our network.

I'm a bit sad that DS is leaving on Tuesday. We're taking DD back next Saturday.

Miss I am one of 5 who are still allowed to work using private equipment until we, too, get 'official' laptops. Mistakenly they cut my private PC off, but were convinced and insistent they didn't. That is why I will have a lot of fun with them on Monday.

Lovely pictures.

I wish I never asked MIL as we do have a good relationship. I am lucky though that DM will do anything for DS.

Decided against abroad this summer DH doesn’t want to take risk. I have decided we are going 2023 come what may! Minus side of my job is no term time holidays which adds over £1000 to any holiday.

Went swimming with DS today as soon as we got out of pool his eyes were gunky and green again.

The pool water really affects his eyes.

You can also sue here though its a lot rarer for people to do that and something I decided I would not do as GP was so busy at the time and its really the government's fault for leaving it underfunded. Oth nothing is changing, the government know its underfunded and things are getting worse for cancer patients and still they do nothing and maybe if you sue and got money it may change things. I had not really considered it but the GP put it all in writing in an e-mail though did say something like I think it will be nothing but we are always very cautious on these things so another GP will call you and probably insist you go for tests. A second GP then tried to call 4 times who apparently knew it would be cancer but gave up when they could not get through. This is our fault but I just use DHs phone as wabbit ate the landline cable and DH did not tell me. But we do live about 200 metres from doctors surgery and they also have my e-mail. My previous GP would have either made a referral anyway or carried on until he got me. But it was very clearly likely cancerous from my initial e-mail, think I described it as a 2 inch cubed rock hard lump like a walnut causing skin to pucker. I did say I thought it varied in size throughout the month and its because of that first GP has said will be nothing. Second GP was the one who referred me in November who knew it was cancer and said she knew it was 4 months earlier. The second GP was verbal and I do not know if that would be sufficient to win or not or how much it grew in the 4 months, size wise felt the same but could well have gone into lymph nodes in that time. The hospital just said not to think about it but also said its something they have happen quite a bit and then often the women does not go back for longer and its at stage 4. I wish the system was you went straight to a specialist and we were monitored from 45 and they sent e-mails to you making you aware about breast cancer, biggest killer of women in my age group but I have never been screened or told about it before I got cancer.

The swimming pool does that to some peopple Lemons, it does to me too. Wild swimming with a baby is out of the question of course, and many of those that do go wild swimming are reporting the rivers they swim in are too dangerous through pollution from raw sewage dumped by water companies to keep their profit margin higher.

When I was a kid you couldn't keep me out of the River Tern between April and October, there were about a dozen of us who would swim, kayak and fish to our hearts content.

Just looked up my friend, he is a barrister and it says he does medical negligence. I did not think he did that, he will know if there is a case and will do it for free if want to go down that route, not sure atm though I will now likely lose my state pension and it does not pass to my husband or children.

I have had a fairly lazy day with a lie-in, short walk to and around one of our local parks, some potterying and now waiting for great pottery throwdown to start.

Silkie I promised you not to go on about it and so I won't. But I hope your friend can help you.

Duo is a very happy owl and I have renewed my FutureLearn subscription. And there is not one single piece of chocolate in the flat.

Sorry, Silkies for the lack of sensitivity in my last message. For some reason your last two messages didn’t show before I posted. I really hope you get better treatment going forward xx

Thanks Prok and Nydj and fine Nydj that's what this thread is for. It was just math suggested it and I had never seriously considered it as always saw it as taking money out of the NHS but oth the government are aware there are lots of cases similar to mine and doing nothing to help and maybe some legal costs coming their way might make them listen though they will still make a net profit as lose my state pension. I am also not sure if have a case or not, the GP knew I had cancer symptoms in June which under guidelines must be referred as a cancer referral and did not refer but can they pass the blame back to me as missed their calls. Not sure though if they can't should be a strong case as almost everything is in writing.

Silkies Any compensation for medical negligence or malpractice would most likely come from the single entity NHS Resolution, and not result in a loss to the NHS in the sense of that much less money to treat a patient.
resolution.nhs.uk/ This is a cost management entity. When negligent doctors are identified and their adherence to protocols is improved, it costs the NHS less in the long run. It costs less to do tests than to treat someone with a disease that has progressed.
Now winding my neck in.

We had another plumber in the basement today, a different plumber this time. This is probably because the first plumber made such a massive mess of both the initial work and the attempt to fix it later on Saturday. The water was turned off at about a minute's notice but it's back on now. They will return tomorrow to do some rodding. I'm going to fill some pots with water tomorrow before I head to work. We all found clean clothes and underwear to last until Tuesday so I didn't have to buy quarters and head to the laundromat.

Lemons sorry that the arrangement with your MIL didn't work out, but here's hoping DS gets cared for properly and your relationship with MIL will thrive too a a result of your decision.

DD came in and said I want some bedding like your pink fleece bedding, I could take yours but I won't. DD has form for taking lots of my things so I quickly ordered her some as that is my bedding for the recliner for after the operation. She has some already but she does not know where it has gone and says it is DHs fault. Apparently he is guilty of moving her things from the tumble drier putting them in random places and then forgetting where.

Thanks Maths I saw a solicitors site saying its now comes centrally which is better as that is where the issue lies. DH thinks I won't stand a chance but not sure as I have a lot in writing, it appears you just have to show it caused you damage which is easy and that the doctor did not act as a competent one would have done but will depend if the onus is on the doctor once they know a patient has cancerous symptoms to refer or the onus is on the patient to keep going back. The hospital did say they thought the GP was at fault and the GPs when I phoned the second time said we need an internal investigation to stop this happening again, they were trying to shift blame on to me and part of it was my fault as did not realise they had called but they still knew I had cancer (and mentions referable symptoms of breast cancer and hip and rib pain which is sign of stage 4 when I checked) and did not refer until I went back 4.5 months later. Will see what my friend says.

DD has just told me she may be too ill for school tomorrow as she has a sore throat, I said do you have a temp no and she said I tested negative for covid. She does not look remotely ill, is bouncing around and has woken up Silkiecat, and she is apparently doing this for protecting others from her mild sore throat with no other symptoms. I can really feel a days attempted skiving coming up.

Silkie, it sounds like a bit of post nasal drip has irritated her throat. It's very common in the winter.