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Queen to miss Rememberance Day service

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KenAdams · 14/11/2021 09:22

As she has apparently sprained her back.

I do wish the Palace would be honest about her health (without giving details) rather than setting her up to attend events that they know she won't be at. It can't be good for her, they should just say she's out for a while, which at her age would be completely understandable.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-59280608

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Brefugee · 14/11/2021 10:30

I'm not a monarchist. I do think the Queen has made a rod for her own back with her ridiculous insistance that she will die on the job because it's not up to her to resign from a job given by god.

And of course, now sie is old of course she shouldn't be doing events like this. Regardless of what her health is doing, she shouldn't be planning these. I wonder how much of the planning is down to her and how much down to her staff. Because, tbh, i cannot imagine her staff pushing her to do these things (unless ulterior motives, which my fevered imagination can also picture)

I hope she has people she loves around her looking out for her best interests.

Faevern · 14/11/2021 10:32

I think she fully intended to go, and I think she must be very poorly not to. She has been pretty solid over the years but these last couple of years must have tested her resilience to the limit. Perhaps Phillip gave her more support and strength than we ever knew.

ethelredonagoodday · 14/11/2021 10:32

@christmastreeupalready

I think she's on the way out, my grandma and the queen share the same birthday and are the same age. I don't think my grandma has much time left either.

I wouldn't be surprised if an announcement is on the way.

My grandad is the same. He was strong as an ox, but is fairly frail now. 95 is elderly, it's not a surprise that she has ailments!
oneglassandpuzzled · 14/11/2021 10:36

@lollipoprainbow

If it really was a sprained back and she wanted to attend she could have sat down during it and then be whisked away when it was over. I don't buy it all.
Even getting in and out of the car would be painful.
Blanketpolicy · 14/11/2021 10:37

I dont have much time for the RF, but she is a very elderly recently widowed lady. She may be in declining health or not. Either way do you not think she deserves some privacy, dignity and respect until the inevitable conclusion whether that is in the next month or the next 5 years?

Threads like this are in very poor taste.

thecatsthecats · 14/11/2021 10:39

@MrsFin

Her mother lived much longer, but then her husband died when she was much younger too.

Not that much longer. Wasn't the QM 101 when she died?

That's a long time in terms of % extra over standard age expectations, though. Six years is a long time to survive the death of one's husband at that age, whereas the Queen Mother lost her husband much younger.
ancientgran · 14/11/2021 10:40

@Blanketpolicy

I dont have much time for the RF, but she is a very elderly recently widowed lady. She may be in declining health or not. Either way do you not think she deserves some privacy, dignity and respect until the inevitable conclusion whether that is in the next month or the next 5 years?

Threads like this are in very poor taste.

You are right, people speculating about her dying and that she has presumably authorised lies is in poor taste. I hope she's having a relaxing morning, nice and warm and hopefully with painkillers that are keeping her comfortable.
alicesfavouritepen · 14/11/2021 10:40

Having a royal family is in very poor taste.

DaisyNGO · 14/11/2021 10:42

@Whyamistilltired

Why does everything have to be a cover up? Maybe she has hurt her back who knows? She's a very elderly lady when all is said and done
Agree, poor lady might easily have done her back in.

I hope she's all right. I'm under no illusions about her age but nevertheless, I hope she's not in pain or too uncomfortable.

Sparklingbrook · 14/11/2021 10:43

I can't help but feel like this is a 'Oooh do you think the Queen is going to die soon?' type thread...

tootyfruitypickle · 14/11/2021 10:45

If it's a bad urine infection she'd have awful back pain if it had gone to her kidneys. So perhaps it's a half truth .

HarrisonStickle · 14/11/2021 10:47

She looked a bit confused at the opening of the Scottish Parliament. She dropped a pen and looked very puzzled, and someone picked it up off the table and handed it to her.

I don't think we'll necessarily see her in public again. We'll watch her Christmas message, we'll see pics of her on her estates, but I think she's become a little frail all round, and will not be carrying out anything of any consequence.

PupInAPram · 14/11/2021 10:47

I'm not a royalist. I think the Queen should be our last monarch as a country. That being said, I was born in 1960 and have never known anyone but the Queen as the head of state. When she passes, I will feel sad, in an end of an era kind of way. I speak as someone who thought the public reaction to Diana's death was ridiculous.

HarrisonStickle · 14/11/2021 10:48

@Sparklingbrook

I can't help but feel like this is a 'Oooh do you think the Queen is going to die soon?' type thread...
She's 95, of course she's going to die relatively soon!
Clun · 14/11/2021 10:48

Too much speculation on here.

HM put her back out. Simply doing a routine oil change on the Landrover before setting out for the forest. HM couldn’t find the wooden gurney she normally lies on underneath the chassis because Louis had knicked it to make a skateboard ramp.

(Taps side of nose)

donquixotedelamancha · 14/11/2021 10:49

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GrandDuchessRomanov · 14/11/2021 10:50

She has a right to the privacy of her own medical conditions as we all have.

donquixotedelamancha · 14/11/2021 10:50

She's 95, of course she's going to die relatively soon!

On MN, 95 is middle aged.

Sparklingbrook · 14/11/2021 10:52

She's 95, of course she's going to die relatively soon!

Maybe, maybe not if she takes after her own Mum. Nothing like a nice bit of speculation it might be very soon though.

Yarboosucks · 14/11/2021 10:53

Today is about remembering the fallen.

This speculation is a distasteful and disrespectful distraction

pictish · 14/11/2021 10:54

We’ll speak as we wish thanks.

HarrisonStickle · 14/11/2021 10:54

My grandad is the same. He was strong as an ox, but is fairly frail now. 95 is elderly, it's not a surprise that she has ailments!

My dad's the same. Was doing fairly physical work on his property till recently. Then all of a sudden he's become a frail old man who sleeps in his chair all day, uses a stick and has a pressure cushion to stop him getting sores. We all feel we've entered the waiting time now with him.

CrackersDontMatter · 14/11/2021 10:58

I work in elder care and in my (entirely anecdotal) experience, the healthier people are as they get older, the quicker the decline at the end. So someone with myriad health issues sort of plods along in a slow decline, often declining and improving and then declining again and perhaps dying sooner but those that are "fit as a fiddle" seem to go down much more quickly at the end.

I think we forget how old HM actually is. Her declining health shouldn't come as a surprise but it does because she has always been so steadfast. It must be very difficult being in a job that you couldn't ever retire from without feeling like you had committed a huge betrayal. Because that's I'm the impression I've been given from the glimpses we have seen of her life. And at the same time I imagine if she declared a regent it would lead her to the undignified position of just being wheeled out for important events as some kind of national mascot.

donquixotedelamancha · 14/11/2021 10:59

Today is about remembering the fallen. This speculation is a distasteful and disrespectful distraction

They made the ultimate sacrifice so that we could have the freedom to say what they like. In a way, taking the piss out of the RF is the most respectful thing any of us could do in their memory.

VladmirsPoutine · 14/11/2021 11:02

She's had a good run, if I were Queen you'd struggle to get me out of bed for anything other than diamond shopping. Travelling up and down the country to shake hands with the commoners? Certainly not - I'd have been in a luxury mansion in the Bahamas!