If OH is out for the night, do you expect to hear from them?

[MaggieFS]

DH is out for drinks with a former work colleague and I haven't a clue when he'll be back. It doesn't really matter but it's set me wondering. If your OH is out, do they text during the evening or let you know when they'll be home/set off back?

I grew up with parents who always liked to know that I'd arrived safely somewhere so I'm in the habit or preempting that by texting e.g. 'likely to be out until 10pm' early on during an evening followed by 'on the train, back at 10.15' once I'm heading home.

I guess I'm also not used to this... we have two young DC so nights out are a rarity plus he's only just gone back into the office and I'm finding it odd to have had zero contact. But as I said, it doesn't matter, as long as he's home by the morning!!

Yes.

No not at all.

We might text each other when leaving/in a taxi, depending on how late it is. But I wouldn’t expect it.

No. Sometimes he will let me know he’s on his way home. But I don’t expect to hear anything. But if I was out with friends I wouldn’t be messaging him!

DH usually texts me to say he is on his way home but I don't expect it. I think I'd be annoyed if he didn't come home until the morning without saying anything though!

No, I wouldn't expect any contact at all, just hope he didn't wake me up coming in late.

No. I know he’s out for the evening, it makes no difference to me what happens/when he comes back.

My DH will text me when he arrives there and once more when he is leaving. I don't ask him to and i wouldn't expect it or be upset if he didn't.

Well I know if he is going to the pub he'll be on the last bus, so he'll text to day he's on the bus. I wouldn't expect him to text me before that

No. A night out is a rarity here, I wouldn't expect DH to message and he wouldn't expect it of me either.

Sometimes he will, other times not. Sometimes he messages to let me know but I'm already asleep! I'm not too fussed either way to be honest.

Yeah, but only in a broad sense.
I’m a worrier so I like the occasional update so I know they’re not in a ditch somewhere, and I generally like to know what time they’re coming home.

Wouldn't expect but we both do stay in touch.

No not really unless there was a deviation from the plan, for example if you said you'd be home at 9 and now it'll be midnight or whatever, but otherwise not really.

No. He usually says whether it's going to be super late or not, but then sometimes it ends up being later than he says. I still wouldn't expect to hear.
If I go out with friends and say I will probably be back at around 11 and roll in at 4 he wouldn't be bothered either.

I don't expect it but he does send the occasional message, usually to share something interesting that has happened or been said, and says when he's on his way home. And vice versa. If either of us are going to be back later than bed time we would say to not wait up before we go.

Sometimes I am feeling chatty when he’s out and might send a couple of texts. Partic if I have some family gossip. But lastly I have eggs on toast, 2 large glasses of wine, a bath and an early night. I don’t expect a reply but quiet like a bit of a remote flirt. Just because it’s a bit unusual.

DH is a musician so he will usually text me after they've finished, just to say goodnight, and give me a rough idea when he'll be back.

I don't expect it. In fact sometimes it makes things worse. My dh has a habit of messaging and saying 'be home soon' and then not turning up for hours and worrying me, so I actually prefer no text!

No, best thing is that I can go to bed early and he’d wake me up

If he’s out after midnight and I am awake I will check in. But that’s because he’s a total home body and rarely out that late without me leading him astray

No, not unless there was some huge change of plan. I wouldn't expect him to give me any thought during his night out unless he was incredibly bored!

No. I would expect him to have the courtesy to tell me what time he was planning to be home before he went out. If there was a change of plan I'd expect a text so that I wasn't worried.

Apart from that I'd expect him to be busy enjoying his evening. No need to contact me during it.

Only if one of us is bored in an Uber on the way home.

Generally no, unless there's been a major change of plan. Might text on the train on the way home if something interesting has happened, eg news from one of his friends.

I'm the same when I'm out. We don't text each other from work either apart from eg to check whether the other can take DCs somewhere later or do we need anything from the shops on the way home.