If OH is out for the night, do you expect to hear from them?

[MaggieFS]

DH is out for drinks with a former work colleague and I haven't a clue when he'll be back. It doesn't really matter but it's set me wondering. If your OH is out, do they text during the evening or let you know when they'll be home/set off back?

I grew up with parents who always liked to know that I'd arrived safely somewhere so I'm in the habit or preempting that by texting e.g. 'likely to be out until 10pm' early on during an evening followed by 'on the train, back at 10.15' once I'm heading home.

I guess I'm also not used to this... we have two young DC so nights out are a rarity plus he's only just gone back into the office and I'm finding it odd to have had zero contact. But as I said, it doesn't matter, as long as he's home by the morning!!

I would expect dh to text me of he is going to stay out all night

No, I go to bed early so there wouldn’t be much point. I’d want him to enjoy his night and if he was texting me I’d think he must be bored

No

I wouldn't text him when I'm on a night out.

My oh rarely goes out but when he does it's to central London...so I do ask for a couple of check-ins and a text when he's on the train home. (He could text and tell me he's staying our all night....that's his choice but then I won't worry about him.)
He always usually knows where I am going so I am less likely to check in if out for the night locally. But if I do a day trip to London I do....especially letting him know what train I am on.

No although if hes not home by 2am I will phone him now just to make sure he's ok! I immediately regret doing that as he just wants to blether pish to me!

No, not unless he wants a lift home.

No, we just say 'I'll see you when I see you". My Husband also knows not to come home to early. If he's out for the night I've planned what I'm watching all evening uninterrupted.

He says if he is coming home or planning to stay out. If it changes, he texts to say. He also wants to know that I'm ok.

@Titsywoo

DH usually texts me to say he is on his way home but I don't expect it. I think I'd be annoyed if he didn't come home until the morning without saying anything though!

Ha. Indeed, if not back until the morning then there might be some explaining to do 🤨. What I meant was that as I'll go to bed and won't know what time he's back, it actually doesn't make any difference to me as long as he can get up and function and do his bit with DC in the morning.

DH will usually give a rough time he's expecting to be home and will text if he's going to stay out later. But that's it. I don't expect to hear from him unless plans change and he wants me to know.

My DH will always text to say he's arrived and where he is, and when he's on route home. I don't expect him to text during the course of the evening. I on the other hand text him every action I'm doing, send pics of the cocktails, pics of drunken poses etc lol!

I never expect chit chat when he's out, but he'll generally check in by 11 to confirm if he's getting an Uber or whatever.

I don't expect updates throughout the night.

No, we don't expect to hear from each other. He might text and tell me he's off to bed and where he's left a key.

@ReginaaPhalange

My DH will always text to say he's arrived and where he is, and when he's on route home. I don't expect him to text during the course of the evening. I on the other hand text him every action I'm doing, send pics of the cocktails, pics of drunken poses etc lol!

I don't ask for these updates though, he just lets me know :). We do always ask for a text when on route home though

No but then he’s usually local and isn’t a night owl at all, rarely out later than 11 (he is 60 though )

@MadMadMadamMim

No. I would expect him to have the courtesy to tell me what time he was planning to be home before he went out. If there was a change of plan I'd expect a text so that I wasn't worried.

Apart from that I'd expect him to be busy enjoying his evening. No need to contact me during it.

What if he doesn't know what time? I think that's weird as who knows how a night will go.

@ReginaaPhalange hmm similar to me 😆 Apart from when’s it’s me out and I’ve had a couple of drinks I end up sending him ridiculous flirty messages

I don't currently live with my DP but with my ex we were never in contact on a night out.

No. I don't text him when I'm out either.

Don’t expect to hear from him as such. I’d often text when I’m going to bed (so he knows to try to be quiet) and will normally then get a response saying an expect time. If I wake in the night past about 3.30 and he’s not home I’ll normally ring him to check in but it’s rare enough that happens and he’s normally in a taxi at that stage anyway.

Mine does but then he often says I'm having one more then coming home so I just tell him not to update me anymore and I'll see him when I see him. It was more of a thing when dd was a toddler really. Nowadays he doesn't go out that much but I expect him out for the night. He will only text me if I'm out if he's worried like I've been out hours longer than I said or something.

@Flippyflops2021 oh I do that too! Usually followed up by "you're getting some lovin when I get home 😉😉" which ends up with me passing out with my McDonald's chicken nuggets haha!

Once he called me at 3am to ask me if I wanted anything from the takeaway and I was like wtf would I?

I wouldn't expect DH to contact me when he is out.

I am not a ball and chain.

Usually yes. Not every time but I will usually hear from him at least once then he will let me know he is on way home... unless is late and therefore he is very drunk!